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Post by murdr on Sept 14, 2017 11:35:28 GMT -6
You already know what you have to do. Take care of business so as not to ruin your personal credit and your ever so important, character and dependability. You never want questions out there about taking care of your responsibilities. Eventually, important people will ask. Football will always be there and can welcome you back when you're ready. Do as you tell your players...Get it DONE! That's a big part of not wanting to ask for help or file for bankruptcy. Not just pride, but tarnishing my reputation. How can people trust me to use their time and money wisely if I can't do it for myself?
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Post by murdr on Sept 14, 2017 11:32:44 GMT -6
Unfortunately, that college education never amounted to anything like a degree. Just debt. And also unfortunately, pretty booked in my apartment. Have four people living in two bedrooms. Applied for Lyft and Uber, denied from both. Same with pizza places. It's because of literally two speeding tickets in the past 4 years. No kidding.
Can't donate blood or plasma, since I'm on blood-thinners.
But I'm also applying for border patrol, lol.
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Post by murdr on Sept 14, 2017 11:25:51 GMT -6
Now, there's a job that may JUST allow me to pay my bills, but who knows if I'll get it. They have a hiring event on Tuesday, and I'm going.
But even then, breaking even won't help me save up to get a junker.
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Post by murdr on Sept 14, 2017 11:23:49 GMT -6
Oh, I really want y car to go, but I'm underwater on the loan. Can't just get rid of it, since I;d immediately owe a ton out of pocket, and be left without transportation to work (no bus, and not within biking distance). You can buy a 500 or 1000 car. It won't be great but you need to get out of that loan, if it's going to make you homeless. I have $123, and it'll be about $40 by Monday. And can't get any loans. I wish I could afford a junker, but I can't even afford that.
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Post by murdr on Sept 14, 2017 11:17:42 GMT -6
Your credit is going to be screwed regardless, so I wouldn't worry about that. You need to start looking up Dave Ramsey books. I'm not his biggest fan on investing but you're a long ways before worrying about that. I'd say the car needs to go and you need to be talking to the credit card companies about cutting the payments or you're going to default on them. Oh, I really want y car to go, but I'm underwater on the loan. Can't just get rid of it, since I;d immediately owe a ton out of pocket, and be left without transportation to work (no bus, and not within biking distance).
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Post by murdr on Sept 14, 2017 11:05:51 GMT -6
So, not really football-related, and don't like venting my real-life problems, but gonna go at it. Anyone ever have circumstances out of their control hinder their coaching career? I finally found a place that I like recently, but that, and possibly my short-term coaching career, will probably be going away. Due to some bad financial decisions when I was younger, my expenses are too high. My current job doesn't pay enough, and can't seem to find another or a better job. Basically, going to literally run out of money by the end of the month. And the only job that pays even 75% of my expenses has hours that leave me unable to coach. Will probably have to sell everything I own to hold out another month or two, but I expect to be homeless by year's end. I know I can make it through it, but it just sucks to have to fall so low. Who knows what this will do to my long-term relationship as well... I once had a head coach that was homeless, so you never know. But my bills are just too damn high. How much of your debts are you personally tied to after a bankruptcy I'm not quite sure. I have a bunch of student loans, a huge car loan (that I can get out of, but then I'd be left with no car to get to work), and a bunch of credit card debt. I know the loans couldn't be discharged. The car loan would still leave me without a car to get to work. I dunno about credit cards, or what it'd do to my credit score. Never really considered bankruptcy.
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Post by murdr on Sept 14, 2017 10:23:54 GMT -6
So, not really football-related, and don't like venting my real-life problems, but gonna go at it. Anyone ever have circumstances out of their control hinder their coaching career?
I finally found a place that I like recently, but that, and possibly my short-term coaching career, will probably be going away.
Due to some bad financial decisions when I was younger, my expenses are too high. My current job doesn't pay enough, and can't seem to find another or a better job. Basically, going to literally run out of money by the end of the month. And the only job that pays even 75% of my expenses has hours that leave me unable to coach.
Will probably have to sell everything I own to hold out another month or two, but I expect to be homeless by year's end. I know I can make it through it, but it just sucks to have to fall so low. Who knows what this will do to my long-term relationship as well...
I once had a head coach that was homeless, so you never know. But my bills are just too damn high.
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Post by murdr on Sept 14, 2017 5:29:36 GMT -6
Exactly. You're becoming a representative for the school and the team. I'm not gonna lose potential recruits and booster money because a few kids want attention. Why not just leave them in the fieldhouse until its over? Do they HAVE to pray with the team also? I think the whole Kapernick thing was less about protest and more about pub, but I also think in this situation the coach was setting up a showdown with two snot wiping kids. As for the remark about booster money and recruits are we still talking about high school? There has been a booster club at every school I have been and I don't think any of them would hurt the program because of something like this. Its 99% players parents anyway. I don't know any booster club that wouldn't. Those are usually the worst of the worst parents, from my experience, with few exceptions.
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Post by murdr on Sept 14, 2017 0:31:27 GMT -6
They are participating in a team sport. The team is instructed on how they will stand when the colors are presented and the National Anthem is played. Coach tells them there will be no exceptions. One or two of the players decide that they will go to the bench and take a knee. This obviously is not how they were instructed and show individualism instead of being a together as a team. After the game the coach pulls the two players aside and tells them that their actions will not be tolerated, that they are a members of a team and will do as the other team members are told to do. If not they will be removed from the program. The next game the same two players take a knee during the National Anthem. The coach has them removed from the sidelines and dismisses them from the team after the game. I don't think the players have a leg to stand on. "By participating in the extracurricular activity, H.S. voluntarily forfeited individual speech rights and became the school’s representative:" bclawreview.org/files/2012/10/08_zeidel.pdfExactly. You're becoming a representative for the school and the team. I'm not gonna lose potential recruits and booster money because a few kids want attention.
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Post by murdr on Sept 12, 2017 5:05:55 GMT -6
A kid doesn't have a right to play, so benching them violates no law. And no, I wouldn't bench a kid that refuses to pray. I wouldn't hold team prayer if I were the head coach. But that's a different issue anyways. One is allowing kids to have different religious beliefs. The other is about respect. You can at least stand for the anthem and still be anti-whatever. The two are unrelated. But that's also the thing. I can't stop them from kneeling. But I can exercise my right to choose who I want representing my team. I also look at it from a recruiting aspect. If potential athletes' parents see my guys kneeling... in West Virginia, those potential players would be going elsewhere If you coach for a public school, you could not be more wrong. Violate that kids 1st amendment rights, and you are inviting a lawsuit. In federal court, which means not the local judge you hunt with. Yeah, you can choose not to recruit them, and all things being equal, that's fine. But like someone else said, if it he is otherwise a stud and a good kid, pretty stupid not to recruit him because of this. The first amendment protects you from the infringing on your right to free speech. Benching them in a football game does not do so. They can still speak freely.
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Post by murdr on Sept 11, 2017 19:35:27 GMT -6
A kid doesn't have a right to play, so benching them violates no law. And no, I wouldn't bench a kid that refuses to pray. I wouldn't hold team prayer if I were the head coach. But that's a different issue anyways. One is allowing kids to have different religious beliefs. The other is about respect. You can at least stand for the anthem and still be anti-whatever. The two are unrelated. But that's also the thing. I can't stop them from kneeling. But I can exercise my right to choose who I want representing my team. I also look at it from a recruiting aspect. If potential athletes' parents see my guys kneeling... in West Virginia, those potential players would be going elsewhere So when Jonny Stud with 3 D1 offers kneels, you're going to bench him? You're going to put your job on the line over some 17 year old kid refusing to stand up? Who cares man. Yes, I'd bench him. I don't care if the guy is a 5-star recruit, a distraction is a distraction.
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Post by murdr on Sept 11, 2017 18:44:02 GMT -6
I'd personally bench the kid, to be honest. Not gonna be bigger than the team or trash our reputation. I'd like for them to stand and face. They don't have to put their hands over their hearts. And they have a right to free speech. But I have the right to bench distractions. Let us know how that goes when you bench a kid for that. You don't have a legal leg to stand on. It doesn't matter whether you or I like it or not. Are you going to do the same thing to a kid that refuses to participate in prayer? A kid doesn't have a right to play, so benching them violates no law. And no, I wouldn't bench a kid that refuses to pray. I wouldn't hold team prayer if I were the head coach. But that's a different issue anyways. One is allowing kids to have different religious beliefs. The other is about respect. You can at least stand for the anthem and still be anti-whatever. The two are unrelated. But that's also the thing. I can't stop them from kneeling. But I can exercise my right to choose who I want representing my team. I also look at it from a recruiting aspect. If potential athletes' parents see my guys kneeling... in West Virginia, those potential players would be going elsewhere
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Post by murdr on Sept 11, 2017 9:50:47 GMT -6
I'd personally bench the kid, to be honest. Not gonna be bigger than the team or trash our reputation.
I'd like for them to stand and face. They don't have to put their hands over their hearts. And they have a right to free speech. But I have the right to bench distractions.
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Post by murdr on Sept 10, 2017 6:47:50 GMT -6
Every team I've ever been on has prayed before and after games at the 50. I'm not a believer, but I never cared. If I'm ever a head coach, and my kids want to do it, they can. I just won't be leading it Just curious....Why on the 50? Why not the 35? The end zone? No idea. Never thought or cared to ask. Post-game was usually done with opposing team as well.
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Post by murdr on Sept 10, 2017 1:03:38 GMT -6
Every team I've ever been on has prayed before and after games at the 50. I'm not a believer, but I never cared.
If I'm ever a head coach, and my kids want to do it, they can. I just won't be leading it
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Post by murdr on Sept 9, 2017 18:54:30 GMT -6
Can't suspend them from school, due to the first amendment. But they'd be off my team immediately, with zero chance to come back.
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Post by murdr on Sept 4, 2017 10:35:28 GMT -6
aceback, are you really 25? I dunno why I thought you were much older. Regardless, back to the original post, got on Keyshawn. Still hate him for being a prima-donna with my Jets, lol.
But I do admire how he's not one of those parents that stops being a parent when the kid turns 18. Because, yes, at 18, they are still a KID. Hell, at 24, I still see myself as a kid.
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Cramps
Aug 31, 2017 1:49:39 GMT -6
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Post by murdr on Aug 31, 2017 1:49:39 GMT -6
Dilute water with Gatorade or Pedialyte. Many water breaks. Keep bananas for the players.
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Post by murdr on Aug 30, 2017 17:57:41 GMT -6
Maybe I'm just crazy, but I'd rather just have actual grass and, you know, take care of it. Would take it 10/10 times.
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Post by murdr on Aug 30, 2017 17:10:28 GMT -6
Just a little tidbit, but one I thought was kinda cool. Recently picked up Arnsparger's Coaching Defensive Football. Got a used copy from Goodwill via Amazon. Opened it up to discover that it's signed with a personal message to a friend by Arnsparger himself. Now, I'm not quite an autograph fanboy like I was when I was a kid, but I still think it's a cool little unexpected tidbit for an ordinary purchase. It'll probably sit on my shelf for a few months, as I have quite a few offensive books to read first, but I'll eventually get to it.
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Post by murdr on Jan 28, 2017 15:17:02 GMT -6
The kids have a right to kneel. I have the right to bench them.
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Post by murdr on Jan 18, 2017 21:20:21 GMT -6
I'm sorry but I don't buy some of these answers. It really ins't OK to cry about a poor performance or losing a football game. What kind of shi* is that? It has NOTHING to do with toughness or the fact a kid "sold out" or "worked so hard", kids need to learn that crying is OK when family members die, seeing little kids struggle with cancer, family issues, etc.... not freaking football or any other sport. And please don't start with "maybe you and your kids don't value winning or take it seriously enough". Our program has won multiple titles at the highest level and I truly believe one of the reasons is our kids understand football is NOT life and death. Our kids play loose and aggressive. They do prepare like it is the most important part of high school in the winter, summer, and fall. It is important, but never worth crying over. Teach kids that if making mistakes or losing makes them mad enough to cry, they need to evaluate what they can do better in terms of preparation to perform better and win next time. Take the anger and frustration and channel it the right way instead of "letting it all out". Some kids DO see it as life and death. I did. I cried after every tough loss. Not ashamed to say it. Again, crying over something stupid makes you a {censored}. Crying over an emotional loss in football? I want more of those players. Those are the ones that care enough to give their team all they can.
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Post by murdr on Jan 16, 2017 8:45:39 GMT -6
I'd say that you may have unrelenting administrators who don't know that rebuilding takes more than 0 years.
They don't understand that major program overhauls can take some time.
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Post by murdr on Oct 15, 2016 6:39:11 GMT -6
A big part of it, in my opinion, it's also just pure strength and mass. In high school, I had bite. One college hit and I was physically over matched? Different story. The game wasn't fun anymore.
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Post by murdr on Oct 12, 2016 10:17:56 GMT -6
I'm glad I was taught to take risks. Got moved up to varsity my freshman year due only to my size. Not my ability at all. Hadn't played in years, and was terrible and weak.
Got my ass handed to me, but worked my butt off in the weight room (JV didn't lift). Helped me become stronger and faster, and I started the next 3 years, and went on to be one of the only guys on my team to play in college. I still sucked, but at least I played beyond HS because I didn't just quit when moved up.
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Post by murdr on Feb 23, 2016 15:53:20 GMT -6
Pre-practice static stretching is bad, mmmkay. Thank you Mr. Mackey lol I should've been more specific and asked: What dynamic stretches/football related warm-ups are y'all doing and how is it being organized? 100% of my warmups are done solely with jump ropes (and then a few prehab exercises). If a kid can't jump rope, he learns.
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Post by murdr on Feb 23, 2016 15:27:54 GMT -6
Pre-practice static stretching is bad, mmmkay.
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Post by murdr on Feb 18, 2016 19:04:33 GMT -6
You vote Libertarian don't you. (not saying I disagree with anything you posted, neither) Very good guess. I do.
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Post by murdr on Feb 18, 2016 18:42:37 GMT -6
This is my personal philosophy. I actually a head coach in college once stress the importance of the individual. Only coach I've ever heard of taking that approach.
Obviously, popular wisdom is to put the team before the individual, and the team IS clearly important, but I like to take the opposite approach. Whether people like it or not, teams are comprised of individuals first and foremost, each with unique goals, motivations, and skill sets.
By stressing selfishness (if I'm going to be honest and use the term I really want to), players care about their own personal success. And what better way than to show it on the football field? By being selfish, players show me they want to play, they want to succeed, and they have the internal motivation necessary to make their wishes reality. Team players are great, they really are. But there's nothing wrong with a little bit of individuality. Selfishness on the football field usually culminates in the form of wanting to be the best damn player on the field. I don't see anything wrong with that.
When I played in HS, I'll be honest and say that I really didn't give a {censored} about any of the other players or coaches. A bit sociopathic, yeah, but I was motivated by my own personal success. Being driven by that led to me playing hard and wanting to be the best. Those things helped the team, whether it was intentional or not.
Does that mean they act in detriment to the team, or that they bitch and moan and strike when they don't get their own way? No, of course not.
But you don't need to have a bunch of kumbaya hippies in a fire circle drinking beer and listening to music. Your players don't even have to like each other or get along with each other, so long as they get the job done on the field.
Maybe it's just because of my loner nature, but I have never set up team activities for my offensive guys, and I most likely never will. Different individuals have different interests. Some kids just want to do their own thing, and that's okay.
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Post by murdr on Feb 15, 2016 6:10:54 GMT -6
This is my first stop as a coach. When I was OL coach, the OC ran a zone scheme. That was the first thing I got rid of as an OC. And now you run the facemelter instead? Not trying to be a d!ck, I'm just wondering why you got rid of it. If it is because you ran this on top of other schemes and you want to be good at fewer things, I get that. If the answer is "Because zoneblocking sµcks", you probably should think a little harder about why it "sµcks". I never said it sucks. It's a fantastic scheme. I just know power blocking better.
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