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Post by seabass on Jul 31, 2017 14:49:26 GMT -6
The HC is a terrible leader.
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Post by seabass on Jul 6, 2017 16:02:39 GMT -6
Humans should be mandated reporters! Agreed. I'm talking legally to not lose your job, teaching certificate, and freedom. I get it....It's just so hard for me to imagine keeping something like that yourself. I know it happens all the time, just hard to fathom a grown up allowing another grown up to hurt a kid like that. Disgusting!
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Post by seabass on Jul 6, 2017 10:58:53 GMT -6
Teachers are mandated reporters. It's not your job to investigate just report. Humans should be mandated reporters!
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Post by seabass on Jul 5, 2017 12:00:11 GMT -6
Learning how to form a process for teaching the important elements of a sport would be cool.
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Post by seabass on Jun 30, 2017 12:36:28 GMT -6
I hate all ambiguous phrases that are yelled at kids. If you don't have something specific, that will help a kid, just shut up.
Baseball is full of mindless phrases repeated by coaches.
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Post by seabass on Jun 23, 2017 11:46:35 GMT -6
eating a lemon... just in general... serial killer only a psycho would do that that kid has bodies buried in his backyard I'm with you there. Eating a lemon on a bet--cool. Eating a lemon just for the hell of it when you have everything to lose for it--you don't have feelings and are a sociopath. Criminal Minds is going to have an episode on you. We refer to those types as "future skin-suit tailors".
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Post by seabass on Jun 9, 2017 11:55:01 GMT -6
There is a lot of value in the struggle but that's pretty anti-intuitive. Kids are not naturally going to embrace that most of the time. The path of least resistance is our nature. If adults don't help them process it they will never recognize it.
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Post by seabass on Jun 6, 2017 12:17:12 GMT -6
I understand the baseball deal pretty well. I'm in it right now with my youngest son who is in 8th grade and playing select travel ball. Most teams only carry 10-11 players because no parent wants to pay that kind of money and travel to watch their kid ride the bench. It puts coaches at a big disadvantage at times because one of their best tools (the bench) gets left in the shop. There are a host of other drawbacks to the model but it's the most popular model for kids who are really serious about baseball. I'm not certain I would let my kid do it again knowing what I know now. I love that phrase he used, "work while you wait". He's just telling kids that they have to work harder if they aren't getting what they want at the moment. As many of you have already stated, kids want it now. There are very few who really embrace or appreciate the value in the struggle. The whiteboard in my home gym says, "be so f****** good they can't tell you NO!" That's just my way of reminding my 2 boys, if you don't like being a #2, fix it. Don't blame a coach for your shortfalls. You have two boys and you have written on the whiteboard in your home gym, "Be so f'ing good....?" Now I'm not a prude -and don't mean to be judgmental - but don't you think that might be a bit inappropriate? I could see how you might think that's inappropriate. I could also see how I don't care about that. I have it written exactly the way I typed it and my boys are in 8/9th grade. They aren't little boys. I rarely swear around them, when I do, they know I'm serious. To me, that statement is serious. Our gym is a place where we get after it and sometimes that means it's a little ugly. The rest of the time they have to behave like they are in school. That's just the way it is. When I'm not coaching I get to listen to parents complain about playing time and positions. Baseball is the worst when it comes to that stuff. I hear kids whine about it as well. My message to my boys is simple and all the kids I coach. If you think you should be z instead of x then you need to leave as little doubt as possible. The work a kid does is the only part he can control, so control that part. I just chose to define it the way I did.
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Post by seabass on Jun 5, 2017 15:41:52 GMT -6
I understand the baseball deal pretty well. I'm in it right now with my youngest son who is in 8th grade and playing select travel ball. Most teams only carry 10-11 players because no parent wants to pay that kind of money and travel to watch their kid ride the bench. It puts coaches at a big disadvantage at times because one of their best tools (the bench) gets left in the shop. There are a host of other drawbacks to the model but it's the most popular model for kids who are really serious about baseball. I'm not certain I would let my kid do it again knowing what I know now.
I love that phrase he used, "work while you wait". He's just telling kids that they have to work harder if they aren't getting what they want at the moment. As many of you have already stated, kids want it now. There are very few who really embrace or appreciate the value in the struggle.
The whiteboard in my home gym says, "be so f****** good they can't tell you NO!" That's just my way of reminding my 2 boys, if you don't like being a #2, fix it. Don't blame a coach for your shortfalls.
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Post by seabass on May 8, 2017 13:49:56 GMT -6
The kids who play a lot care a LOT about wins and losses. The kids who don't play don't care.
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Post by seabass on Apr 5, 2017 16:16:28 GMT -6
Interesting point. Let's just say I generally agree with you, but not 100%. I'm not sure I could answer that question the way you'd want it answered. And while there are a lot of youth football coaches out there who are certainly better than I am, you could do a lot worse than me. But I suppose that's a whole different topic. I'm not saying it has to be THE most important question but it should be asked. Why do you want to coach? That's a valid question as well. IMO I like to manage but hate people seems contradictory to me....managing is people. I love coaching/teaching but don't like students...seems equally contradictory to me.
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Post by seabass on Apr 4, 2017 19:39:37 GMT -6
Question #1- Do you actually like kids?
I'm not sure that could be answered yes, by at least half the guys I have coached with. They like their own (although I have even questioned that) but they don't genuinely enjoy being around or teaching kids.
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Post by seabass on Mar 7, 2017 14:24:29 GMT -6
Necessity is the mother of all invention. It's amazing what getting pounded in the media and a plummeting stock price will do to get the creative juices/incentives flowing. Good for them and I love their food!
I'm planning on talking to the one in our area now that I know. Thanks for the heads up.
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Post by seabass on Mar 7, 2017 11:31:31 GMT -6
I think player's appreciate things being scored (when possible) because they want a clear cut winner or loser. Especially those guys that are on the bubble of being a 1 or 2. Scores aren't subjective. The score forces everyone to recognize the outcome.
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Post by seabass on Feb 23, 2017 14:44:13 GMT -6
JRK, I think you may be on to something here. I played the three major sports in high school. All-state in two of them. Wanted to be the dude with the ball or bat in my hand at the end of the game, even in basketball which quite frankly I was average, at best, at...and I want to be a HFC/AD somewhere in the near future. Now maybe I am a rare breed because I left a school across the road from my house to drive an hour and a half, one-way, to be an assistant at a powerhouse school in hopes that being here and taking on as many responsibilities as possible will prepare me for the road ahead. I am teaching 6 classes instead of the required 5, and completing my masters program to boot. Not saying that to brag or boast or anything of that nature...this is just what I am willing to do for the goals I have for myself. I don't ever watch TV, miss alot of family meals (which I hate), and only really get to spend time with my kids on the weekend. But its something that is important to me and I am trying like hell to accomplish my personal goals. I want to be the guy. I can accept the criticism that comes from running a program. I know that I won't ever make everyone happy, but I am always going to do the right thing when it comes to my athletes and my athletic program. Being at my current school has taught me TONS about how to do this and be very successful. After a while the kids understand what is expected and do what they are supposed to. The parents....many times they never "get it"...but thats ok too. I think this is getting a little off base and maybe reaching just a bit. I say that because when I started this thread I didn't mention at all that I didn't think I could be "the guy", I just said I don't have any desire or feel the need to be the guy. In fact, I think I would probably be a pretty darn good HC and have been told this by many of my coaching peers. The reason I know I could do this isn't because of how fancy I was as a high school athlete (and I was pretty alright) or how I over achieve at my job (which I often do). The real reason is because I've been around and worked with a lot a great coaches who were willing to teach me a lot over the last 17 years. I've also been around a few HC's that definitely gave me a pretty good idea how to NOT do things as well! At the end of the day, I just really really enjoy the game and the kids that I get to teach and mentor. The perception from the outsiders looking in is that a good coach has to be on his way to a HC gig and for me it just hasn't been the case. You found your niche and you are happy doing what you do. I think that's what we all want. Outside voices should never be an influence on that!
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Post by seabass on Feb 23, 2017 13:09:15 GMT -6
I think of the HC being the same or similar to a General Contractor. He knows exactly what the house is supposed to look like when it's finished. To get that done he has to hire the best sub-contractors he can find/afford.
The general might have some skill or specialty that he does on his own but most of the work will be "subbed out" as they say. The general is tasked with keeping the home owner happy. When the floors are perfect but the siding sucks...the home owner bitches at the general not the siding guy.
Some dudes want to be the general and some dudes just want to be left alone to make the tile look as good as it can be....both dude can make money!
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Post by seabass on Feb 23, 2017 11:42:26 GMT -6
Everybody has a unique skill set. I'm not saying everyone knows what that is for themselves but we are all suited for something. I do believe getting clear about what that is is important but I don't believe one skill set is more important than the other.
If you are a guy who is really passionate about a particular thing then that's where you should be! If you have no passion for anything...maybe consider doing something else.
If that particular thing is O-line play and play calling and you are indifferent about the rest, you should probably be a position coach or OC. The same could be said of the defensive side of the ball.
If your passion is about the "big picture", culture and you have a clear vision for that then you should find some good position coaches and coordinators to help you carry that out. If that means there is a bunch of other crap to deal with as a result of being the HC, you just deal with it because the "big picture" is so important to you.
Some guys are visionaries with deep convictions about their vision and being forced to follow another person who doesn't share enough of those same convictions is nearly impossible for them.
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Post by seabass on Feb 22, 2017 17:43:14 GMT -6
Lots of good ideas! Some guys have to be pushed to the edge to figure out that they won't die. Some of them will go there on their own but you already know those guys. I refer to it as going to your "nasty" place. The nasty place is just a mindset that makes you put one foot in front of the other even when you don't want to.
Once they have been there a few times they begin to get comfortable being uncomfortable. Really mentally tough guys are totally comfortable being uncomfortable.
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Post by seabass on Feb 22, 2017 17:27:21 GMT -6
I'm totally kidding...but seriously....I'm not sure I have ever seen this much deliberation about how to get somewhere.
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Post by seabass on Feb 21, 2017 16:03:08 GMT -6
I didn't take the article as saying you ALWAYS have to be calm to be an effective leader. Sometimes you have to be a little psycho but recognize time and place. To me, the message was to be calm when everyone around you is losing their mind's. That's pretty hard to argue with regardless of your "style".
I have been in 3 life/death situations with my oldest son (anaphylactic shock). The first time I went bat chit and my wife saved the day. Thank God she was cool and not her MO! I learned a lot from that experience. The next 2 times the roles reversed.
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Post by seabass on Feb 20, 2017 13:41:29 GMT -6
I went through some old posts about tax season. I assume many of you are in the same boat as me in that you don't have the time to keep receipts for all of your potential deductions. Are there any tricks to the trade or suggestions so that I do not owe money again this year? I know previous posters have said to go to an accountant but I'm a single, non home owner and make south of 60,000 so I don't see that as completely necessary. . Without mortgage interest rate deduction, I don't know if you are going to really accumulate enough to exceed the standard deduction allowance. That's the part most people don't realize. The standard deduction for a single person is $6,300. You would have to itemize more than that to be worth your time. I'm not a CPA but I did stay at a Holiday Inn Express last week.
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Post by seabass on Feb 17, 2017 12:25:22 GMT -6
I'm head track coach and JV FB HC. The relationship is great. It also helps that our boys lift as a class, so its not like they can be told not to lift. That sounds like the perfect relationship....unless you go all Me, Myself and Irene.
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Post by seabass on Feb 17, 2017 10:59:33 GMT -6
It's a shame when coaches at the same school can't get on the same page. The track coach and football coach should be best friends at every school.
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Post by seabass on Feb 16, 2017 16:34:11 GMT -6
I have a rule pertaining fans that's stood the test of time. The closer the stands are to the action, the worse the fans act. That is so true! I live in the city that hosts the largest 3 on 3 outdoor basketball tournament in the world, no hyperbole used, that's actually true. The city blocks off the entire down town and the games are played in the street, the spectators are on the curb. It gets crazy! About 5 or 6 years ago a person shot another person after a game....that kind of crazy. Typically the younger the competitors are the crazier their supporters act and often times the girls games are the worst.
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Post by seabass on Feb 15, 2017 11:02:09 GMT -6
I have been coaching AAU basketball off and on for 20 years. Basketball fans are the worst!!
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Post by seabass on Feb 13, 2017 17:24:19 GMT -6
I'm trying to get my guys to understand that it's pretty damn hard to lead if your aren't respected, very few will respect you if they don't trust you and they are unlikely to trust you unless they believe you care about them. At a minimum they have to believe you have their best interest in mind.
People are usually willing to follow but resist being pushed.
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Post by seabass on Feb 11, 2017 15:04:27 GMT -6
You can say stupid stuff like that about everything. However if you did the kind of work that contractors do for a living you would know that it does hold water. When I hire a person to do a job for me I do so under the premise that they can do it better than me. I don't hire them then tell them how to do their job.
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Post by seabass on Feb 11, 2017 14:15:31 GMT -6
Your analogy of building a deck doesn't really hold water in this example. What if your homeowner, foe whom you are building the deck, says," I don't want the boards secured with nails or screws, I want the boards secured with silly putty". Do you just build it the way they want it because they are your boss?
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Post by seabass on Feb 11, 2017 13:55:46 GMT -6
If I was put in charge of this task (finding a coach) I wouldn't be afraid to look at a dude who is a little "out of the box". It is going to take a lot of energy and a ton of salesmanship to change your culture. This dude doesn't necessarily have to have all of the football answers, he probably won't, that guy already has a job and wouldn't likely want your job.
He's going to have to sell your students on wanting to play. You need more kids to turn out. After he sells them on that he's going to have to sell them on getting prepared to play. He needs to know at least a little bit about S/C. He's also going to have to sell them on the idea that it will be a process. This thing won't turn over night. He's going to have to sell everybody involved on staying in the process and getting excited about incremental progress. Lots and lots of selling.
No way in hell anybody takes this job for the money. There isn't enough of it to motivate anyone. This dude would want the job for "other" reasons but you would want to make sure those "other" reasons are wholesome and not deranged. Your guy is either independently wealthy or a missionary. It would be a rare find IMO.
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Post by seabass on Feb 10, 2017 22:55:35 GMT -6
He just needs to find a coach who can talk Jimmy Chitwood into re-joining the program.
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