mce86
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Post by mce86 on Feb 26, 2008 12:47:27 GMT -6
Hoping I could get some insight on this! Im a firm believer that football helps to develop character. I think being a good student and good citizen should be held to a higher regard than just being a good athlete. After a year off from the high school level, im planning on coming back to coach. Ive had some philosophical discussions on some of our kids character and trying to tie that in to football playing time, etc. Two examples I can tell you are that at a morning workout, our head coach said "i know we talk about character, grades, and all that, but really its about winning" and another situation in which a sophomore running back (who gets 90% of all touches) is a BD student from our alternative school who told a coach to screw off in the classroom, and after his suspension resumed his starting role, and even moved up to varsity for a couple weeks. Our school is low-income and 20% white. I almost feel like not coaching because I just am not buying in to the win first mentality. Any insight or thoughts on this would be great. Im really not sure if Im just being an idealist or if Im thinking things correctly.
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Post by gschwender on Feb 26, 2008 12:52:26 GMT -6
football does not teach charector coaches do--football is just the vehicle. Athletes do not get stronger by simply sitting in the weight room they get stronger by lifting. Football can tear charecter down if the coach does not emphasize it. Do some charecter lessons or charecter building activites with the team--it must be emphasized though more through actions than words
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Post by ajreaper on Feb 26, 2008 12:58:22 GMT -6
If you ain't the HC there's little you can do if things get done by the HC in the manner you've described- I say move on.
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Post by gschwender on Feb 26, 2008 13:05:54 GMT -6
just put this situation in your memory banks of WHAT NOT TO DO when you become a head coach
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Post by mce86 on Feb 26, 2008 13:09:48 GMT -6
My suggestion was that if a kid is not fulfilling his "citizen" responsibilities, he would sit behind a lesser athlete with better character. I said by doing this, you would demand of the other kids to be great citizens to maintain their positions. By not doing this, you send the message that the only thing that matters is your ability?? Does anyone actually sit kids for not having good character?
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Post by gschwender on Feb 26, 2008 13:14:51 GMT -6
i do and it worked as long as you do not deviate from it for anyone--even if it means lose a couple of games--when a kid asks you about it throw it back on the one who did not fulfill his responsibility
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Post by airman on Feb 26, 2008 13:23:16 GMT -6
dennis parker, head coach at texas lutheran and former head h.s. coach will tell you teaching character is the most importanat think you can do.
I can tell you this, I would rather have 11 rudy's then 11 michael vicks. I am going to have a whole lot less problems and rudys will do what they are told.
If winnings is the what it is about, then you justify anything in order to win.
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Post by davecisar on Feb 26, 2008 13:33:59 GMT -6
Airman,
Amen, Awesome quote.
Can I use it with an attribute?
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mce86
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Post by mce86 on Feb 26, 2008 13:35:19 GMT -6
It sounds like there are many thoughts similar to mine. I really believe that you can change the behavior if there is a demand for it to be changed! With no demand, means no need to change your attitude! Sometimes after having the conversation with "the boss" you begin to think maybe your own thinking is somehow flawed! Im really thinking about leaving and moving on, I dont think coaching where I dont buy in to the way things are done will work for me.
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Post by bulldogoption on Feb 26, 2008 13:35:54 GMT -6
1. How do YOU define lack of character? It might be different than me or the HC? If you don't like the way he makes decisions, convince him to change or go coach your own team.
2. Character issues are fine if they are objectively spelled out in team rules. Otherwise it could get messy deciding where to draw the line.
3. Isn't the purpose of a suspension to punish a kid. He lost his spot for the length of his punishment......then he gets to play again. I don't understand people who want to extend a kid's punishment longer than what the rules spell out.
4. I think character should be taught and intend to walk the walk this year and do it as part of our season. Then if I decide to punish a kid for lack of "character" I will have some legs to stand on.
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mce86
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Post by mce86 on Feb 26, 2008 13:46:05 GMT -6
My belief is as a sophomore in high school, if you get suspended, you also lose the priveledge of being a starter on the team. You can still play, and likely will, but the starting job will now belong to someone else. Obviously, if you are getting suspended from school, you are not the one to rely on in the 4th quarter when things are getting tough. Character issues such as getting good grades in school, being respectful in hallways to students and teachers, following school and team rules at all times. We had an obvious incident last year because a player was not in camp because he was in jail..."but the drugs were not his"...and "it wasnt that bad this time" This kid still played because he ran a 4.5 40...in fact, played both ways...over less talented kids who have been great kids playing behind him but not as good of athletes. This is not the NFL or NBA where players should get suspended and come back to start IMO...I think it is about teaching kids that given 100% effort and the right amount of talent, chemistry, and character you win on the field and off!
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Post by gschwender on Feb 26, 2008 13:49:01 GMT -6
check out www.coachingtochangelives.com they have sample lessons you can do with your team. You can buy the whole year-long package. I found it when watching a coaches choice video with above mentioned Dennis Parker on the subject
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Post by bulldogoption on Feb 26, 2008 14:00:54 GMT -6
check out www.coachingtochangelives.com they have sample lessons you can do with your team. You can buy the whole year-long package. I found it when watching a coaches choice video with above mentioned Dennis Parker on the subject Has anybody used this???
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Post by 35dc79 on Feb 26, 2008 14:01:07 GMT -6
I actually did a major project on this EXACT topic in grad school. I chose the topic because I had the same basic question. My focus was on whether or not character building by coaches led to more success on the field. I did a review of literature of current studies, and then i made and administered a survey to two different high schools, calculated the data and turned in. Pretty interesting doing it, and yes the staff at the more successful school did put an emphasis on character teaching.
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Post by airman on Feb 26, 2008 14:17:28 GMT -6
I know gary halvorson former woodbury high school minnesota coach started with the coaching to change lifes as a coach and now all he does is lecture on it. he thought is was the big reason behind why they won a minnesota state championship. gary has left and since then woodbury has struggled to regain the winning ways.
one lecture I have always found interesting was the alaskan pipe line. working on the oil line, texas welders had problems compared to there cold weather counter parts. productivity was higer with the cold weather welders cause they could focus on the job at hand, while the texas welder would focus on the cold.
the moral is, you can only control yourself and what you choose to focus on. you can focus on your job and get it done or you can be distracted by external events andnot get the job done.
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Post by gschwender on Feb 26, 2008 14:29:10 GMT -6
Does anyone have this program implemented in their school and if so how well does it work for them? I have looked it over and got all the free lessons possible off of the site, but am having trouble getting the funding from the school.
35dc79:
Is there a way you can scan that study you did in grad school and email it to me?
gschwens@louisiana.k12.mo.us
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Post by tothehouse on Feb 26, 2008 14:36:57 GMT -6
In our area this happens. www.charactercombine.com - Past speakers have be Joe Erhmann of "Season of Life" fame as well and Jeffrey Marx the author of "SOL". When I get home, I'll upload some of the stuff we are doing to address this. The one thing in place right now is our "C" helmet sticker. We give out "C"s to any football player who performs an act of character, compassion, caring, etc. OUTSIDE of football and part of the school. The only way the player can get a "C" is if this is done off the field. Players have received awards for finding a wallet full of money in the lockeroom and returning it to the coach, breaking up potential fights on campus and taking the culprits to administration, giving up their chair to another student when the classroom didn't have enough desks (this happened to one of my position players in my class), volunteering to help stack firewood for the elderly, shoveling snow off the driveways of the local senior home, etc. The "C" is the most important sticker on your helmet.
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Post by gschwender on Feb 26, 2008 14:39:28 GMT -6
nice. I have a bunch of charecter dev. stuff, but it is a hodge podge of collected things I have found--would like to get something that would be easier to implement.
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Post by khalfie on Feb 26, 2008 14:50:33 GMT -6
I like what I'm reading...
And I think its already been said, but football doesn't develop character... it reveals it...
And I think what I'm also reading, is that some coaches don't like what's being revealed.
Kid tells a coach f-you... that's football revealing character, now the important question is... what does the coach do about it!
Not what the HC does about it, or the position coach, but the coach that was told f-you?
My major issue, is that many times I hear of coaches reacting as many have proposed... punish him... teach him a lesson... he'll never play for me, til he does exactly as i tell him...
No doubt about it, we coaches have control issues, who else would volunteer to make 50+ teenagers do as we say? But the point is, there are extenuating circumstances with all of our players, and if we aren't willing to delve into their lives, create substantial relationships with each and everyone of our kids... this character discussion is nothing more than a "red herring".
BD or not... white or black... low income or well to do... kids want attention, and they will get it one way or another. The essence of coaching is serving your players, meeting their needs, so that they can fulfill your expectations... the kid acting an a$$ is reaching out... and unfortunately his environment has prepared him to reach out in an appropriate manner.
You can do what the rest of society already does... punish him... you can do what the kid has come to expect... be punished... or you can affect that kids life, give him a little something different, and hopefully make an impact in an obviously distressed area.
All this talk about the HC's philosophy on winning at all cost, has nothing to do with you and your ability to engender relationships of importance. All this talk about wanting to quit because of philosophical differences, sounds to me like a cop out... its just too hard to reach those kids...
And if that's the case, cool... not every coach can reach every kid... every coach should try... especially before doing what everyone else does, engender a dislike, formulate a systematic ritualistic punishment/fight with the kid until he quits or does something really stupid.
A coaches job is to model, develop and promote... and this need to punish... thats a personal issue.
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Post by coachweav88 on Feb 26, 2008 14:54:32 GMT -6
Does character count? YES!!! Football is a short term activity. only 1 out of every 10 high school players play football in college and even fewer than that go on to play professional football. If you just teach players to win games, then what do they do when they are done playing? I'd rather teach them something (character) that will help them throughout their lives.
Look at guys like Michael Vick and Maurice Clarett. Talented athletes who lack character and are now both in jail. Their athletic ability isn't doing much for them now.
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Post by coachweav88 on Feb 26, 2008 15:14:42 GMT -6
I agree to an extent with you Khalfie, you do need to build relationships with kids and not just hand out consequences blindly. I also totally agree that you need to listen to your players. However, the coach is not the bad guy by handing out consequences. If the rules are spelled out and the kid chooses not to obey them. He is choosing to accept the consequences. I'm not saying that you kick him off the team, but you do need to expect correct behavior. Kids usually live up to expectations placed on them. Disciplining your players shows that you really do care about them and are taking the time/energy to try to help them. But discipline needs be done in a spirit of caring, not just blindly and coldly punishing them. If they have rotten home lives, they either have a lack of discipline, meaning that nobody really gives a crap what this kid does, or the discipline is given with the wrong motive, (to controll/manipulte the kid, out of anger not out of care or concern, to punish rather than to teach.). Not all kids respond to this though and that is unfortunate because they usually have to hit rock bottom before they are willing to accept correction from anybody. Until they learn to accept correction in a positive manner, you cannot help them.
When they get to that point where they can accept correction, they have just learned an extremely valuable lesson that will carry them on throuout life and can also teach them many more lessons.
just my two cents.
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Post by mce86 on Feb 26, 2008 15:16:28 GMT -6
khalife, i understand your thoughts completely, but there comes a difference between staying involved with a troubled player, and making him a standout on the team. I also understand that some kids excel in sports and stuggle in other areas....When I think of the troubles "star" athlete, really Im thinking of all the troubled average athletes on the team, who do the right thing all the time but havent been blessed with great talent. I watched as a kid missed camp because he was in jail for being pulled over with drugs in the car coming up from Champaign. Now, this kid played both ways in front of less talented kids that come from the same background, but are doing very well and not getting arrested!! What message does this send? Not only to the kid getting arrested, but to the dozen kids without his talent who are playing behind him? I wouldnt say to cut him..he needs football more than anything..but make him a two way starter? Not in this lifetime..and thats something I feel very strongly about. I would start the kid behind him that does the right thing..its high school sports....its supposed to be about learning life lessons! Ive worked here for several years, and coached here under a different philosophy in which we gave kids chances, and didnt get rid of them. Some kids that meant that they sat more than half the games..thats their decisions. could we have been better with them in? Maybe, but not at the cost of playing the kid with good behavior, going to class, and a 3.0 GPA. What do you suggest we do with these kids? Start them, let them play second string? Id like to sit them until they are doing the right thing...If we have to keep talking about following school rules, well, sorry, youre not ready to be a varsity starter! Its simple stuff......do what youre supposed to...go to class on time, respect your teachers, stay out of detention, dont get arrested!!! If they cant do that, then suck it up and play the kids that can..eventually you will have the right attitude with your team!
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Post by brophy on Feb 26, 2008 15:34:16 GMT -6
That was a great point by Khalife (bravo!).
I don't think any of these responses actually address what mce86 posted, though.
He is referring to his situation possibly fatiguing him emotionally or being a complete waste of time = A BAD FIT for him. maybe the thread is mistitled or something, but the soap box we're all preaching on really isn't rrelevant to this guy's situation(?).
If the HC doesn't believe in it - what is the point?
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Post by gschwender on Feb 26, 2008 16:39:57 GMT -6
One of my favorite lines I give players when they do something that is undesirable is ask them if they do that at home. If they say yes then I say "well you aren't at home" if they say no then i say "What makes you think you have the right to do it here?" it is a no win for them, gets the point across no matter what their background is.
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Post by gschwender on Feb 26, 2008 16:41:23 GMT -6
I agree brophy, I think the guy needs to either help change the hc or move on to a better situation.
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Post by silkyice on Feb 26, 2008 19:55:52 GMT -6
I like what I'm reading... And I think its already been said, but football doesn't develop character... it reveals it... And I think what I'm also reading, is that some coaches don't like what's being revealed. Kid tells a coach f-you... that's football revealing character, now the important question is... what does the coach do about it! Not what the HC does about it, or the position coach, but the coach that was told f-you? My major issue, is that many times I hear of coaches reacting as many have proposed... punish him... teach him a lesson... he'll never play for me, til he does exactly as i tell him... No doubt about it, we coaches have control issues, who else would volunteer to make 50+ teenagers do as we say? But the point is, there are extenuating circumstances with all of our players, and if we aren't willing to delve into their lives, create substantial relationships with each and everyone of our kids... this character discussion is nothing more than a "red herring". BD or not... white or black... low income or well to do... kids want attention, and they will get it one way or another. The essence of coaching is serving your players, meeting their needs, so that they can fulfill your expectations... the kid acting an a$$ is reaching out... and unfortunately his environment has prepared him to reach out in an appropriate manner. You can do what the rest of society already does... punish him... you can do what the kid has come to expect... be punished... or you can affect that kids life, give him a little something different, and hopefully make an impact in an obviously distressed area. All this talk about the HC's philosophy on winning at all cost, has nothing to do with you and your ability to engender relationships of importance. All this talk about wanting to quit because of philosophical differences, sounds to me like a cop out... its just too hard to reach those kids... And if that's the case, cool... not every coach can reach every kid... every coach should try... especially before doing what everyone else does, engender a dislike, formulate a systematic ritualistic punishment/fight with the kid until he quits or does something really stupid. A coaches job is to model, develop and promote... and this need to punish... thats a personal issue. Khalfie, I am not trying to be a smart butt. I really do want to know. I am all for knowing a better solution. What do you do when a player says "f you" to you? How do you handle it?
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Post by khalfie on Feb 26, 2008 22:16:15 GMT -6
It hasn't happend...
But if it did... I'd do what trainers do with killer whales... I'd end the training session and send the whale to its cave, until the whale is ready to be taught.
Recognizing I would be dealing with struggling organizations (read as bad football teams), and having a MBA, I quickly married football to corporate culture, and how to change said culture to a winning culture.
One particular book, "Whale Done", equated bad businesses to the training of killer whales... which is very synonymous to coaching teenagers.
The book detailed how you get a killer whale to jump through a flaming hoop. I thought that was great, considering i had no idea how you get a killer whale to jump through a flaming hoop... and my killer whale (bad football team) won't jump through any hoops also.
The key to getting a killer whale to jump through a flaming hoop is simple... meet the killer whales most pressing need, and it will do everything you ask... however, make sure you ask of the killer whale, real simple tasks, before asking to jump through the flaming hoop... and when the whale does that simple task, meet his most basic need immediately, and the basic need for a killer whale is food... for a teenager... attention... love... protection.
So, what trainers of killer whales do, is put a line under the water... and everytime the killer whale swims over the line, congratulate, celebrate and feed the whale immediately.
To bring it home with our football team... first and foremost, the coaching staff and myself go on a Whale Done crusade... catching, rewarding, and congratulating our players on the most minute of sincereties... "Eric... I saw you shared your water with your teammate... whale done!"
While creating relationships with our players... we are assessing their most primal needs... some may be looking for a male role model... some looking for a disciplinarian... others a friend... some a confident, and many a father figure.... so we prepare to be all of these things for many different players, fully recognizing that certain players will only trust certain coaches. Once we ascertain whose ears we have, we create huddle groups, and communicate from such.
We must catch our players doing Whale... so we can say whale done... we must set up the line under the water... give our bad kids real easy opportunities to be recognized as good kids, and tell them whale done when they do it, so they know we are paying attention.
Some bad behavior, we have to address, but not necessarily punish, killer whales know how to react when attacked... First and foremost we must make sure our kids know their well being is our first priority.
In short... if the bad kid told me f-you... and we were in an environment of bad language, in which emotions haven't been taught how to be addressed properly... I'd send the kid home. The next day, we'd talk about the interaction...
If I haven't created an environment where I can catch this bad kid doing whale, but only created an environment of flaming hoops without teaching the kids first how to cross the line under the water.... and then punish him for not jumping through the flaming hoop... even if its only flaming in his mind... then shame on me for being a poor trainer and accepting a job with killer whales involved... and f-me...
I know there are certain social discourses we should be able to expect from every individual... but again... if I don't know the background of the kid... shame on me, for messing the with killer whale in the first place.
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Post by rjcousin on Feb 26, 2008 22:34:16 GMT -6
Consider this... most of these coaches have them 3 - 4 years max right? In the grand scheme of life that is a VERY short time at a VERY CRITICAL point in life... Coaches have an opportunity to truely change kids' lives... unfortunately they have their heads too far up their orffice to see that. Wins help them recruit, help them keep their jobs and makes their life easier... notice something common.... "their" not necessarily the kids'. Sure a few may get scholar-shipped and even fewer get a crack at the real money... but that does not even guarantee anything (ie: Pacmanetc..)
I SERIOUSLY believe that one of the greatest people ever to have the title of HEAD COACH... is Bobby Knight. He may have been the Biggest A-hole ever to coach but he TRUELY wanted what was best for his kids... tough love was his tool but look at the graduation rates and listen to almost every kid who ever played for him... they don't speak of him as a basketball god... they speak of him with reverence...
As coaches regardless of the level - it is our DUTY to teach kids more than just the game we coach. We can choose to Win but fail, Or Lose but Win...
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Post by coachorr on Feb 26, 2008 23:39:56 GMT -6
If winning is all that matters, what do you have when you lose? And how many teams finish with a win?
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Post by gschwender on Feb 27, 2008 6:23:31 GMT -6
I think that winning and losing is right, but if you do only win 1 game or no games you can teach your kids the win/loss lesson other ways. like was stated earlier with the killer whales other things can be considered winning beside wins on the field-but make sure to relate that to the kids in a life context. I think football is all about winning on the field and off and that is what should be taught through charecter. Kids can learn charecter even if they never win a game in high school. Will the coach keep his job long--no, but coaches are there not only to teach football and win games, they are there to teach charecter, among other life lessons, otherwise football would not be in our school system. Everyone is making great points on this subject and I think a discussion like this would be great to have with the kids you coach. you can teach charecter lessons the first 10 minutes of practice everyday. Even if the kids do not win a game, but learn the value of charecter throughout their football careers--it is a win b/c you are preparing them for life. Football does not necessarily mean they will automatically have charecter when they graduate--show me the coach.
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