Young Vs Old(Inexperienced vs Experience) Serious!

Does anyone have any comments?

A few comments and please don't take any offense:


1. What do you mean exactly by ?

I assume "Him"/"the legend" is the HC of your program, right?

What did he do or don't do to you that make you so upset?




2. If you are coaching in order to earn respect, you are not on the right track kid.

Just my 2cents.

OK, I'll bite. Please take this as it's intended- as constructive criticism:

If you want to be taken seriously don't post rambling, error-filled messages late at night then compound it by wondering an hour and a half later why nobody has answered. I don't usually approve of the Spelling/Grammar Police but it has to be mentioned when it pertains to a post like this.

If your post is any indication of how you represent yourself to the rest of the staff maybe you have answered your own question right there.

Please do.

Too much "i", not enough we. When you win it's because of your players. When you lose you take the blame. Learn to be humble and give credit to you players, parents, admin, fans, and other coaches...once you start doing that I think you will start to earn some respect.

lack of respect may be related to comments such as these...

It's all about the "I" factor...

I have a young man on staff this year. 23 years old..lot's of football knowledge, actually played for me, played full-scholarship 1-AA football (5 years), father was a great assistant coach...to a legend in our area, former professional player...and also helped out on our staff during his son's playing years. Enthusiastic and wants to contribute...but is overly vocal about moving up...NOW. Doesn't take criticism well and has shown difficulty in working withing the constuct of staff hierarchy. A little bit of the entitlement issue I believe...point is movement can't happen at this point because of current staff structure. Also...doesn't know how to communicate well enough to be on varsity staff. I'm loyal to who is loyal to me...continue to work and he will earn his shot. SO...he is running our weight room and being a great influence with our kids during the offseason. We will include him and input during our offseason meetings and see what he brings to the table. Again though HE'S 23...and doesn't even have a teaching job in the district...is working as a permanent sub. Don't know where he will even be next year? Too many questions on his status at this point...but he's heading in the right direction.

My point is that there are way too many factors involved besides wins/losses and what you appear to know about X's & O's. Most know their schemes...perhaps it is how you teach them and communicate. What boundaries are you setting between you and players? What parental interactions do you have and how would you handle them. Remember you represent the HC at every moment and perhaps he's not sold on your ability to represent him as a 21 year old. THE BEST scenario is to do the little things, continue to learn the game...be a scout, do the dirty work and develop a philosophy to apply when your time comes. You're never as good as you think you are...always work to get better.

God dammit. I had a nicely worded response typed up and the browser ate it. Here's the short version:

I'm 25, which is pretty young in the this game/profession/hobby, and I've been doing this for 6 seasons. What makes me (and you) good for the program I'm in will also at times make me bad for the program I'm in. It's important that I have the right people around me or I turn into mini-Rex Ryan (with less profanity). But those same people need me to bring what they can't so that we complement one another.

Slow down, check your ego at the door. It's never as bad as it seems, it's never as good as it seems.

F him.

Who cares what he thinks so long as your team showed up, amirite?

You really aren't respected in any profession unless you can learn to keep your trap shut, do your job to the best of your ability, accept criticism, and to only pipe up if you have something well thought out and productive to say.

And, I learned this lesson early on in my career.

I have only been coaching for three years. I have coached 7th and 8th grade. Next year, I will be coaching the freshmen team at my high school. The past two years, we have gone
10-1 (the first years was a debockle of scrimmages and cancelled games). Semms succesful, but it is just a middle school record, which I'll probably forget in about five years. I understand how you feel when you say you aren't respected, but here's my perspective:

I am 20 years old. I know I coach with guys who have been coaching before I was born. I have coached with the guys that coached me when I was playing. The lack of respect comes naturally, because most of the coaches still look at me as a player, and talk to me as one. It is also a little harder for the players to be respectful, because we are so close in age, that there is no difference in our social life (we like the same things, follow the same pop culture, know the same people/friends, etc.). There are also those parents who complain that there kids aren't playing enough or aren't the star. A few of those parents have complained to our AD that I was not qualified and that I didn't know how to coach. I can see how it would be hard for a community to see a college kid as a respectable coach, but it's just something I gotta deal with.

Here's the positive note though...
While I don't feel as respected as I want too, I know I am qualified, and so do the coaches and players. I know that over time, this will change. Each year has gotten easier and the reward has been greater in terms of respect as well as success.

I LOVE THIS GAME! That is the main drive. I love the game too much to care about how other people think or view me. I know how good or how bad of a job I am doing. The respect will come over time, and I just need to be patient for that. Right now I am going to do all that I can.

Think of this also, you are 21 and you are already a DC (I am an OC at 20, and I also teach OLB's and DB's as well as kickers). If the coaches are giving you that job, they must respect you and be confident in you right?

so the coach didn't really speak to you much at the post-game handshake? they just lost - don't read anything into it .... they lost, he's upset, and you are an assistant coach on the other team. he simply was going through the motions of hand-shaking each of the assistants. he may have had more words to say to your head coach but you are one of several assistants and he was just going through a process in auto-pilot. and, again, he's still upset he lost so likely more focused on that.

if it were a month after the season and you ran into the guy and he was still being that way, then maybe you could be on to something. but, immediately after the game? don't sweat it....

Not according to your first post:



I dont get it, even if you played for that Coach 6 years ago, expecting a HC to spend time with you seems extremely egotistical to me. Especially if your are comparing the effort you put it. If anyone should be patting you on your back that should be your own Coaching Peers. The workload belongs to the job. Respect comes later, built a positive reputation first.