Treating Players Fairly vs. Treating Players Equally Jun 13, 2021 20:02:20 GMT -6 blackknight, larrymoe, and 1 more like this
Post by 42falcon on Jun 13, 2021 20:02:20 GMT -6
What do you do with a kid who works his tail off and makes progress in the weight room, etc. and may not be able to beat out a kid who does just enough to keep his "spot". Do you look to try and get him some reps or PT on Friday night? How does fairness come into play in this type of situation? ie. the employee who just can't get the promotion although he/she may have earned at least a look.
We got this for a few years when we were trying to "build" a culture of team and work ethic. For a a while we turned the other way, star player didn't show up to all the wt room sessions but the back up did, star player would start and back up kid found some time on specials and at the end of games. As coaches we kept saying "why can't we just get these kids to buy in?". We tried buying them more clothing, getting nicer uniforms, etc. Then the light bulb went off, we just stopped rewarding the star guys that didn't buy in..... You know what?? We were losing before we did that and magically we still lost after, but our team was far more of a team, and then a year later we started to win some games we shouldn't have / traditionally didn't win and competed when we otherwise would have not. The moment we started rewarding the kids for buying in with the ultimate reward "playing time" everyone wanted to be "in"
There are far too many teams who are sacrificing the values which make this game great, that are the real reason we coach it so they have a chance to win on Friday night.
Now the discipline one is interesting, I read a book from Coach K "Leading with the Heart" and I still have stuck with that message from the book.
I'll paraphrase & interpret
-there is no laundry list of rules and consequences for breaking them
- there is right and wrong
-players: do not do anything that would embarrass your teammates, coaches, family
-from there be fair treat kids with love
We have governed ourselves by this and over the past 6-7 years since starting to find our compass we have not had the issues we have once had.