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Post by cqmiller on Apr 18, 2007 8:36:35 GMT -6
I believe that you develop friendships between players and coaches...but I would never call a player to go out on a saturday night...
When I was a HS quarterback, I developed a friendship with my OC/QB coach, where we kept in touch when I went to college to and played football. After I graduated, I became the QB coach at my old high school, and he was the OC at the high school in the next town over. We coached against each other the last two years, but we now have dinner once every couple months.
He just recieved a HC position in California, and now he has offered me a job to be on his staff out there. I would say that we were "friends" when he was coaching me, but the relationship was more of a mentor-apprentice friendship. After I graduated, it has become more of a friend-friend relationship...
While the player is in school, I believe that you can be "friends", but you cannot cross that line into true friendship until the player has moved on and developed a level of maturity that allows them to distinguish between a coach/player friendship, and a friend/friend relationship.
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Post by gmccown on Apr 27, 2007 9:41:11 GMT -6
Early in my time as a coach I had the problem (I started coaching 1 year out of HS ball at age 19) of becoming friends with players. It was easy to do being in a new town and surrounded by players close to my own age...I found out the hard way that it is a quick road to disaster. The players dont' respect their friends...in our culture they constantly disrespect eachother...once you become their friend they place you in that category and loose all respect. If your a young coach getting your start right out of HS in HS ball take the advice and keep it business...you dont' have to be a jerk...but you can't be buddies.
If you want to know if your headed down the wrong path watch for the first time one of them calls you by your first name....if you don't change the course at that point in time you are in for a rough ride.
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