are you a split personality coach????

Huh?

Are you asking if I have a professional demeanor and a private demeanor?

Are you asking if I talk to strangers differently than I talk to friends?

If I treat children different than I treat adults?

There's nothing wrong with consistency of character... but I think you may be reading entirely too much into one's presentation based on circumstance.

My internet persona, is completely different from my public persona...

That doesn't mean I have multiple personalities... it means I am multidimensional, complex.

It is called respect for the situation and those you are speaking too. When you’re giving a lecture at a clinic you need to be professional as you can. An F bomb is not expectable in this situation someone may be offended as you don’t know your whole audience.

Now if you’re bellied up to the bar talking X’s an O’s with your staff or group of friends then the professionalism typically goes out the window as the drinks are consumed. An F bomb here will not likely offend those you know well. Basically I would say it’s knowing where you can say or do what you want or in short political correctness.

Much of this profession is politics.

You can fling it from the hip and not realize some of the people you put off (not necessarily offend).

The point being, you have to be cordial.

If you are speaking at a clinic and slur your words, you appear lazy.
If you are speaking at a clinic and get vulgar, you appear ignorant.
If you are speaking at a clinic and are not organizied, you are telling the audience they aren't important.

If you are speaking at a clinic, you are not there to win friends, you are there to deliver information - so keep that your focus.

Look at the difference between COOL clinics and NIKE clinics. Those same OLine guys will be minding their "p's" and "q's" more than they do in the midst of "their people".

Just like you wouldn't address your employees at a meeting the same as you would at a barbeque.


However, if Pete Carroll speaks at a clinic and espouses the importance of character-building and living religiously, then goes out back and cheats on his wife with hookers..........his MESSAGE (to me) isn't discounted (because it stands on its own), though the MAN might can be discounted.

PS - have any of you had personal relationships with pastors or police (or any other esteemed profession)? They have to keep the appearance for profession, but are regular men in their own skin.

I have no problems with political correctness...

Its nothing more than being respectful...

Moreso, if you so choose, you don't have to be politically correct... just be ready to deal with the ramifications of being disrespectful.

Its quite simple, you can't have your cake and eat it too... either you're going to be a jerk, not care and deal with the ramifications of being such, or you're going to be a jerk, that acts like a nice guy, so he doesn't have to deal with the rest of society acknowledging your jerkitude!

brophy that was well put,

but I see the point he is trying to make

...at gunpoint. Respect freely given is worth something; "respect" enforced by the threat of sensitivity training (or worse) is worthless.

I'm surprised you're not making that distinction.

political correctness = end of first amendment. the first amendment is all about offending people.

and really, If I say some thing which you feel offended about. it is really your problem not mine. it is not my fault you cannot control your thoughts or emotions. It is no longer about right and wrong it is about how you feel. sort of like 2+2=5 in out come based education cause you feel good about your answer.

oh yes, I have been to sensitivity training. it is the biggest scam.

Seems like a feeble discussion. As in, what color is the sky? Is it blue? Or is it gray, because there are clouds. I think we are all smart enough to ascertain what color the sky is and that not everyone lives by what they say and not everyone believes everthing everyone says. We are what we do and how we act, not the fascade we present. Some religions could learn alot from that.

Political correctness is the end of the 1st amendment.

Hill Larry...

The end of the first amendment?

Political Correctness - Mean what you say, and say what you mean, and be prepared for the COMMUNITY AT LARGE to hold you ACCOUNTABLE and RESPONSIBLE...

1st Amendment - Prohibits the FEDERAL LEGISLATURE, (NOT THE GENERAL POPULUS) from making laws "respecting an establishment of religion" (the "Establishment Clause") or that prohibit free exercise of religion (the "Free Exercise Clause"), laws that infringe the freedom of speech, infringe the freedom of the press, limit the right to assemble peaceably, or limit the right to petition the government for a redress of grievances.

I could see how you guys could get that confused...

Wait a minute...

No I can't!

Hill Larry Us I believe is what it means

Where things get intresting I believe is when peopel do nto understand who they are. We are have a perception of the type of person we are but that does not make it true. Some peopel get into coaching and think they are a certain type of coach and honestly they are a completely different type. Even worse they try to force themselves into a mold because they want to be "like" so and so or they want to pattern themselves after so and so.

LeVall Edards once said that he was smart enough to know there is more than one right way to do things. You are who you are no matter if you like, or know it.