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Post by dragons09 on Nov 8, 2019 14:42:44 GMT -6
Coaches,
What are some things you can do to involve the families of your coaches in your program?
What types of events can a head coach schedule at different parts of the year to accomplish family involvement?
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Post by silkyice on Nov 8, 2019 14:54:33 GMT -6
Coaches, What are some things you can do to involve the families of your coaches in your program? What types of events can a head coach schedule at different parts of the year to accomplish family involvement? Let the kids come to practice. They will gave a blast. The players will take to them and make them feel special. Let them be ball boys/girls or water boys/girls. Etc. Invite them to team meals or outside functions. Maybe have family Wednesdays, etc. Let your coaches leave early if they need to. No, check that, demand they leave early if they need to. They should not miss a school play or kid’s ball game or whatever for practice or meetings. They don’t redo school plays or ball games.
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Post by blb on Nov 8, 2019 15:09:22 GMT -6
Coaches, What are some things you can do to involve the families of your coaches in your program? What types of events can a head coach schedule at different parts of the year to accomplish family involvement?
Why do you think it is necessary to schedule things out of the season ("different parts of the year")?
Coaches and families have enough going on without that.
You certainly can do social things together that don't require "scheduling."
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Post by dragons09 on Nov 8, 2019 15:18:17 GMT -6
I simply meant plan...things you can implement at whatever time to integrate staff bonding and family involvement.
It is way too difficult to ask coaches (especially those with children and who are teachers) to do anything during the season. I have found that doing something during the pre season is a little easier.
I am looking for simple things to do (not something like a retreat, traveling far, etc.).
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Post by dragons09 on Nov 8, 2019 15:38:29 GMT -6
Silkyice,
When you let kids come to practice, do you wait until after practice to let them do things with the players? Do you somehow integrate them into a practice during the practice?
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Post by blb on Nov 8, 2019 15:40:13 GMT -6
I simply meant plan...things you can implement at whatever time to integrate staff bonding and family involvement. It is way too difficult to ask coaches (especially those with children and who are teachers) to do anything during the season. I have found that doing something during the pre season is a little easier. I am looking for simple things to do (not something like a retreat, traveling far, etc.).
It isn't any easier to schedule for teachers-coaches out of season.
Only thing I could mention was Saturday afternoon before first day of practice - after we finished issuing equipment and Physical Fitness testing - we had coaches-families over to our house for "Goodbye dear, Football's here!" cookout.
My wife cooked on the grill, she and coaches' wives provided sides, coaches brought their own beverages.
Good time was had by all.
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Post by silkyice on Nov 8, 2019 16:29:33 GMT -6
Silkyice, When you let kids come to practice, do you wait until after practice to let them do things with the players? Do you somehow integrate them into a practice during the practice? I don’t wait until end. But they also are integrated. There are just enough opportunities to throw a ball with them or “tackle” them, or let them tackle a big kid. Mainly depends on their age and temperament. You could put one on your shoulders while in the huddle or hold scout sheets or break the huddle. Nothing to plan.
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Post by rsmith627 on Nov 8, 2019 16:32:57 GMT -6
I simply meant plan...things you can implement at whatever time to integrate staff bonding and family involvement. It is way too difficult to ask coaches (especially those with children and who are teachers) to do anything during the season. I have found that doing something during the pre season is a little easier. I am looking for simple things to do (not something like a retreat, traveling far, etc.).
It isn't any easier to schedule for teachers-coaches out of season.
Only thing I could mention was Saturday afternoon before first day of practice - after we finished issuing equipment and Physical Fitness testing - we had coaches-families over to our house for "Goodbye dear, Football's here!" cookout.
My wife cooked on the grill, she and coaches' wives provided sides, coaches brought their own beverages.
Good time was had by all.
This is great, and as a dad with two young girls this is about the only thing I’d be willing to do in the offseason. You need me in the weight room or whatever I’ll be there. I’ll improve myself at clinics. But that’s it in the off-season. Once camp and hell week hit I am 100% in. Until then let me be.
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Post by 54695469 on Nov 10, 2019 0:11:15 GMT -6
...and why does family need to be included at your job? Do the guys at the warehouse or the factory or even the bank employees include family time at work? I'm all for family and love and all that stuff...just not at work. (I'm the guy in the coaches office clenching my teeth as little heathens roll around in chairs and generally destroy the office and make the overall mood one that is impossible to get work done). I'll now wait for the politically correct bashing to begin...
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Post by silkyice on Nov 11, 2019 8:21:04 GMT -6
...and why does family need to be included at your job? Do the guys at the warehouse or the factory or even the bank employees include family time at work? I'm all for family and love and all that stuff...just not at work. (I'm the guy in the coaches office clenching my teeth as little heathens roll around in chairs and generally destroy the office and make the overall mood one that is impossible to get work done). I'll now wait for the politically correct bashing to begin... I actually agree with you for the most part, but will answer your question. Family doesn't have to be included. But, there are several good reasons that it should/could. One, football coaching is a different job. It probably doesn't actually pay the bills for assistant coaches. Many assistants are doing this for nominal pay or even volunteering. Two, the hours and time are much greater than a normal job. Getting home at 7-8 many nights is tough on a family. Getting home after midnight on game nights, having some weekend time, having a jv game during the week, and add in the fact that you are probably then also watching film or game planning while at home is a lot different than a factory job or working at a bank. If you have a family with young kids, most wives aren't going to be very supportive when this job takes up most of your "family time" for nominal money. As a head coach, if you want to have good assistants, then it is a good idea to keep them as happy as possible. I think most of would say that we are trying to be a good influence on the young men we coach. Including families is a great way to show the importance of being a great dad and balance in your life. The cool thing is that high school football usually has some easily built in functions that provide opportunities. I do agree with you that, it can't be a distraction to the work at hand. Meetings are not the place for kids.
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Post by CanyonCoach on Nov 11, 2019 8:43:32 GMT -6
I was able to bring my two oldest to practices everyday in the first 5 years I was at my current school. I have an assistant that brings his kids currently. One of our players brings his little sister with until his mom can come and pick her up.
We have younger brothers as ball boys at home games.
After games all of the coaches families are invited to my house for food and drinks. We do a coaches retreat week in the summer with an activity after meetings each day. Golf, kayaking, bar games, etc... I strongly encourage coaches to be a part of the Fun-draising we do in the summer (we work at a music festival). Good times.
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Post by 53 on Nov 11, 2019 22:34:39 GMT -6
If the wife wants to bring the kids by at practice, I let her and don't see the big deal. They don't stay for meetings though.
I've really noticed how the players with broken homes are the ones that always gravitate to me interacting with my kids after practice.
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Post by silkyice on Nov 12, 2019 8:04:43 GMT -6
I've really noticed how the players with broken homes are the ones that always gravitate to me interacting with my kids after practice. THIS
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Post by mkuempel on Nov 12, 2019 9:14:37 GMT -6
As long as the kids are old enough to not detract from the practice, I don't see any problems with having kids there, we had a great experience with my 5 year old son being at portions of practices this year for an hour or so a couple times a week, now he's hooked. Those players now also see an every day reason to be good role models as he now sees the players in the weight room and around the school often, they are his "buddies" and "brothers". Children are never at meetings.
As far as coaches getting together outside of the season, don't force it, but if opportunities arise then go for it. Scheduling things can be tough, but maybe if you let the wives handle most of that it could work. Most of our off-season get togethers are getting the young kids together and the adults just hangout or letting the kids run around the gym during a snow day in the winter, but we are also a staff with about half of us with young families and half with adult children, we do what works for us as a staff.
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Post by gccwolverine on Nov 12, 2019 10:12:34 GMT -6
...and why does family need to be included at your job? Do the guys at the warehouse or the factory or even the bank employees include family time at work? I'm all for family and love and all that stuff...just not at work. (I'm the guy in the coaches office clenching my teeth as little heathens roll around in chairs and generally destroy the office and make the overall mood one that is impossible to get work done). I'll now wait for the politically correct bashing to begin... I don't mind family being around. Actually I like it. What absolutely drives me nuts is the, *can't work that long or hard guys because I've got to get home for family time or what not. Billy the banker doesn't get to just leave and play the family card. Ted the tax man put his 14 hour days in during tax season regardless family. Full disclosure I'm single without family. To get to my parents requires a flight.
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