eric58
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Post by eric58 on Nov 20, 2007 14:03:56 GMT -6
I'm getting married this weekend and my fiance has been with me for 5 years and I've been coaching during those 5 years and she is really supportive but I'm wondering if that will change over time? Just curious to see what other coaches go through.
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Post by knighter on Nov 20, 2007 14:22:00 GMT -6
Mine is like a damnnnn democrat on this, she flip flops...sorry you dem's had to take a shot at you.
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Post by coachd5085 on Nov 20, 2007 14:25:49 GMT -6
I am still living the good life..(single..lol) but I have found in talking with many people (and I think dcohio even stated it here once) that often, they will get frustrated with you never being around during the season....BUT ALSO SICK OF YOU...once you have free time
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Post by CVBears on Nov 20, 2007 14:27:46 GMT -6
mine is more republican...nah, won't go there.
But, she was very supportive of me coaching. This past season my role increased, which she supported, and as the time commitments got more demanding, she became even more extra *fun* to be around at times.
Chances are though that if you've been coaching ever since you two have known each other, she's not going to flip out.
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Post by wingt74 on Nov 20, 2007 14:27:50 GMT -6
What takes the biggest toll is your friendships.
With so much time dedicated to football, I spend all my remaining free time with my wife and son. I don't get to hang out at all with my friends.
Now, if you still hang out with the guys even while coaching, then, you might as well just give her half your stuff now.
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Post by revtaz on Nov 20, 2007 14:29:55 GMT -6
I too am getting married and we just had a talk about what I will do next year...
Wanted to know about me scouting next year, and what the time commitments are going to be. Let's just say, she will be a big girl and get over it.
Taz
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Post by cqmiller on Nov 20, 2007 14:35:33 GMT -6
Wives generally stay pretty happy when they have a boyfriend on the side. That's pretty good... I'm still "single", even though I've been with the same woman for 4 years, and I would have to agree that it is different one day to the next with my girl. (Maybe she's a little Bi-Polar or something...better check it out) Sometimes she HATES the fact that I'm so involved in FB, because she feels left out, and then other times, she LOVES that I am so involved in FB because I leave her out...trying to figure out what causes the 2 sides...that boyfriend thing makes me think though... lol |
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Post by coachm on Nov 20, 2007 14:43:27 GMT -6
getting married didn't change things for me and the Mrs.. now, when the kids and the mortgage came along, then it got tough!
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Post by tribepride on Nov 20, 2007 14:44:31 GMT -6
Just don't let her eat a piece of the the libido killer.............wedding cake!
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Post by superpower on Nov 20, 2007 14:48:25 GMT -6
My wife is kind of like most of the fans...as long as we are winning, she thinks I'm alright!  |
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Post by Coach Goodnight on Nov 20, 2007 14:51:40 GMT -6
Thats alright Knighter, god cant be perfect all the time, sometimes he makes a republic..... I mean mistake!!
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Post by knighter on Nov 20, 2007 14:53:25 GMT -6
Greg-
That's kinda like mine. If things are good, she is great. If they are not she does not understand my desire to work that much harder to fix things. And she also wants to know why we did not run Superpower and wedge more. LOL Overall mine is very good, not sure she likes my AD gig though. She does like the added money however.
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Post by darebelcoach on Nov 20, 2007 15:00:09 GMT -6
Guys,
I just finished my 2nd year as a head coach and am still fairly young (29 years old). I am getting married in July but my fiance is very supportive (most of the time) but I think the thing that helps is that she was a head swim coach for 9 years, so she knows what goes into it and she knows how much I love coaching. But like stated above, talk to her about it instead of us
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Post by superpower on Nov 20, 2007 15:11:19 GMT -6
Greg- That's kinda like mine. If things are good, she is great. If they are not she does not understand my desire to work that much harder to fix things. And she also wants to know why we did not run Superpower and wedge more. LOL Overall mine is very good, not sure she likes my AD gig though. She does like the added money however. Brad, my wife talked my coach in the booth into letting her call a play this season. She was smart enough to wait until we had the game well in hand, and she called 3 Trap @ 2. That made her feel very good. As long as I keep her involved in some way, she handles it pretty well. |
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Post by tedseay on Nov 20, 2007 15:15:33 GMT -6
Greg- That's kinda like mine. If things are good, she is great. If they are not she does not understand my desire to work that much harder to fix things. And she also wants to know why we did not run Superpower and wedge more. LOL Overall mine is very good, not sure she likes my AD gig though. She does like the added money however. Brad, my wife talked my coach in the booth into letting her call a play this season. She was smart enough to wait until we had the game well in hand, and she called 3 Trap @ 2. That made her feel very good. As long as I keep her involved in some way, she handles it pretty well. Coach: Don't keep us in suspense -- did she call it in the right situation? ;D  ;D |
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Post by superpower on Nov 20, 2007 15:22:14 GMT -6
Brad, my wife talked my coach in the booth into letting her call a play this season. She was smart enough to wait until we had the game well in hand, and she called 3 Trap @ 2. That made her feel very good. As long as I keep her involved in some way, she handles it pretty well. Coach: Don't keep us in suspense -- did she call it in the right situation? ;D ;D Actually, the coach in the booth was feeding her the play, so it was a good call. In fact, it was the play I was going to call in that situation anyway. |
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Post by davecisar on Nov 20, 2007 15:27:34 GMT -6
Congrats,
Mine is very supportive, she knew the deal coming in, was not a huge FB fan before, and shes glad when the seasons over now.
BEst move I ever made, gets better every year with the right gal, we just had our 7th anniversary. Make sure and include her where you can, if shes smart like mine is, ask her her opinion on matters that are common sense, not X and O stuff. Mine actually has come up with some solutions I would never have thought of and they like to part of the deal. Maybe like Brad suggested.
Brag her up in public whenever you can. Let her know you appreciate her sacrifices and make sure to limit your time to FB and family only during season, all the rest has to go away IMHO.
Then make sure when the seasons over to do something she likes to do and you dont and try and remember as you are gritting your teeth , she probably feels the same way about football stuff LOL. Seems to work for us anyways and my wife doesnt like doll conventions, ballet, flea markets or soccer ( flag football for 5085) so it really isnt that bad a deal.
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Post by thunder17 on Nov 20, 2007 15:45:35 GMT -6
Wife is great. Brings the kids to all of the games. Has some great ideas as well. Wife-Why do you always give the ball to the same RB? me- Because he is good. Wife-Just gets a little old watching the same kid run the ball all the time. me-Thanks, I will see what I can do. Wife-Why didn't you kick the field goal? me-We didn't think making the score 40-3 was all that important. Wife- You had a chance to kick 2 of them!  |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2007 15:49:59 GMT -6
I'm getting married next summer. . .my fiance is a volleyball coach. We finished 3rd this year and she finished 4th.
She's good with the time.
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eric58
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Post by eric58 on Nov 20, 2007 15:51:02 GMT -6
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Post by kboyd on Nov 20, 2007 16:35:11 GMT -6
Been married 12 years (coached 15 seasons) and never once has my wife complained about me coaching. I know I'm lucky but I'm sure there are lots of supportive wives. Good luck and have fun.
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Post by pantherpride91 on Nov 20, 2007 16:52:38 GMT -6
My wife understands that the coaching check helps pay the mortgage.....also I tend to go out and get her something nice as soon as I get my check....
One funny conversation we had this year...
We had won a game 33-30 and came back from down 17 in the 4th quarter...I was DC and on the way home she says...
Wife: Why did you give up so many points at first?
Me: We had some missed coverages and I made a few bad calls
Wife: You waste every night watching and rewinding the same games 50 times and gave up 30 points
Me: Yeah I thought I had a good game plan, but we did win
Wife: Yeah how about you work on less points next time though
Me: Thanks hun, Ill do my best
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Post by airman on Nov 20, 2007 17:03:04 GMT -6
read the book "called to coach" by john mckissic(sp). he is the all time winning h.s. coach. going strong at 80 I understand. His wife wrote a chapter about being the wife of a head football coach. one think she said is when they are winning, it is time to ask for things cause he is happy and will comply.
she should read this chapter of the book.
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Post by tog on Nov 20, 2007 20:44:19 GMT -6
I'm getting married this weekend and my fiance has been with me for 5 years and I've been coaching during those 5 years and she is really supportive but I'm wondering if that will change over time? Just curious to see what other coaches go through. make sure they know what your goals are and that those may involve moving |
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Post by jefftheexpert on Nov 20, 2007 20:58:56 GMT -6
The rules always change once you have kids.
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Post by cmow5 on Nov 20, 2007 21:34:43 GMT -6
Not married, but been living together for 5 years and have a 3 year old son. I swear on Saturdays when I have football on from 10:00am to 3:00am she is there watching it with me. She came to every game this year and she is willing to do what ever it takes to help me with coaching.
Geoff once again words of wisdom. Do you have any marriage counseling videos?
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Post by dubber on Nov 20, 2007 22:49:45 GMT -6
getting married this summer...........I try to teach her stuff.
If I can get my future wife to to understand what gap-integrity is, and why it is important, a young man should be able to understand me too.
Plus, it is so hot to hear her say: "It's important to play the alley, because if your force player goes down, you need someone to clean up the ball carrier"
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Post by carson101 on Nov 21, 2007 2:27:11 GMT -6
Here is how it was put to me.....
Get the facts straight first
God
Football
Self
Kids
Wife
oops (ouch..Slap)
God
Self
Family
Football
Wife
Kids
ouch....slap
Wife
God
Kids
Family
Football
Self
KISSES ME...lol
Congrats!!!!!!!!!
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Post by thunder17 on Nov 21, 2007 10:04:32 GMT -6
Brophy, That Bonnie can talk some football. Not so sure she plays on our TEAM though?  |
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Post by wingt74 on Nov 21, 2007 10:28:24 GMT -6
Brophy, That Bonnie can talk some football. Not so sure she plays on our TEAM though? OOoo, Say it ain't so...Bonnie is my dream girl! |
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