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Post by hunhdisciple on Jan 17, 2017 11:56:45 GMT -6
Out school district get an exceptionally high rate of kids brought in from other places, who are in foster care.
Usually, every boy wants to "play" football. We have had kids who stick around for several years who are solid players. We have had kids who stuck around just for the meals and gear. We have had kids who could be great, but never were around long enough. We've had kids who had every physical tool, but had other issues that kept them from doing anything. We had a guy who was most likely going to be some sort of starting DB. And then, late June, he's gone back home.
I was wondering what other people's experiences are with kids in foster care, because most of them are different than the kids not in.
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Post by coachfloyd on Jan 17, 2017 12:27:58 GMT -6
Ive had a few around here and they have ranged from legit D1 guy to worst guy on the team. We have multiple boys homes around here and like you said they almost always want to play. Some of their stories are just awful. One player we had lost both of his parents in a car wreck when he was little. He lived in the boys home until he turned 18. He still had one year left with us but when he turned 18 he had the choice to stay or go live with his sister. He left. The last game with us he rushed for about 240 yards. The last time I saw him he I took him to a weightlifting meet. He clean and jerked 275 and snatch 225 at 180lbs. He left us and went and started at another school that really didnt need him.
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Post by shocktroop34 on Jan 17, 2017 12:48:53 GMT -6
I've coaches two kids in foster care. Both were good athletes. One had a foster parent that did nothing for him, and pocketed the money he was supposed to receive from the state. He was good enough to be offered a walk-on invite to a FCS school, but basically fizzled out and didn't have good enough grades/test score to get into school (which he would have attended for free as a ward of the state). I saw him a while ago working at a liquor store.
The second player was a 6'2 WR who was also an exceptional player. Probably a DII fit, but one of our best players at the time. He had major attendance issues and other off-the-field issues that kept becoming a distraction. He also seemed to have an oppositional defiance disorder as coaching him was extremely touchy. The distractions became so difficult to manage that I had to let him go during week 4 of the season. My staff was pretty sure that I had lost my mind. Oddly enough, we got better after he left. I used him as an example for everyone who thought they were too good to be replaced.
I really cared for the latter player. I spent a lot of time trying to work with him. He was charming and very likeable, but there was also his alter ego that caused pure havoc. Cutting him was a tough thing to do, but he was actually very mature about the whole situation. He moved on and never went anywhere, and has moved on with his life. A couple years after this event, he texted me and thanked me for everything I tried to do for him.
I slept better that night.
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Post by freezeoption on Jan 17, 2017 19:43:01 GMT -6
My wife and I have adopted six children over the years. They were in foster care, all of them for several years. Each story is different, but most have a general theme. That theme is someone had let them down when they were younger which leads to reactive attachment disorder. They don't feel apart of the family, no matter what you do. You may be able to get to some, and if you can do that then you truly are great. Most will not. My three oldest children have not faired well, one left home at 17 and cant keep a job and moves from friends home to friends home, he is 21 now, only calls when he wants something. My second oldest is in drug rehab, my third ran back to their biological family. You need to keep trying, but to get the commitment that your looking for will be tough.
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