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Post by warrior53 on Jul 17, 2007 10:58:19 GMT -6
This thought occured to me when reading the article dubber posted in his "sad" thread...
I am one of those guys who puts a ton into football. I really have no hobbies because of it and when I am not doing football I am spending time with my family for the most part. My wife is a coaches dream - she understands my passion for my job and supports me tremendously. I am always looking for ways to be a better father and husband during the season. What are some ways your staff or you yourself find family time during the season?
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Post by airman on Jul 17, 2007 11:10:31 GMT -6
sunday is a off day. figure if God could rest on the 7th day so can it. if you feel you need to work on sundays to beat me, more power to you.
as Zig Ziglar says, "the best time to tell your wife you love her is before some one else does."
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Post by jackedup on Jul 17, 2007 11:38:06 GMT -6
You have a great point Warrior. My wife allows me to do so much with football without a single complaint. So, last year I made it a point to save 1 night a week (usually Tuesday after the gameplan has been laid) to spend with her at dinner and maybe a movie at home so something. Then Saturday nights are hers... I don't make any other plans but to be with her. Now fortunately I don't have kids just yet. I'm sure that will all change when they come.
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Post by dubber on Jul 17, 2007 11:51:13 GMT -6
I think you really do have to set aside a day
As an engaged man, Sundays are "our" time......Go to church, eat lunch, nap, go to church again that night........
she's good about football too..........
she always says, "when we get married, you can just make it up in the winter. . . . ."
god I'm lucky
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Post by warrior53 on Jul 17, 2007 14:18:02 GMT -6
Got to have a great wife to be a good coach. I am glad you guys are blessed enough to have found one.
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Post by coachmoore42 on Jul 17, 2007 15:06:13 GMT -6
Gotta give my wife some praise too, she loves the game. She's as competitive, if not more so, than I am.
I've just got to get her off of the referees' backs.
In response to the thread's topic, she is involved in the program to a large degree. We also have most of the weekend to spend together.
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Post by shamespiral on Jul 17, 2007 19:42:56 GMT -6
sunday is a off day. figure if God could rest on the 7th day so can it. if you feel you need to work on sundays to beat me, more power to you. as Zig Ziglar says, "the best time to tell your wife you love her is before some one else does." We don't work on Sundays either and it's awesome!!! I'll never go back to working on Sundays as long as the schedule allows. No point in it. To address the topic try and envolve the wife as much as possible in the program. Make the field house an inviting place, have her come up for lunch if her schedule allows, etc. |
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Post by lukethadrifter on Jul 17, 2007 21:04:25 GMT -6
As a guy that has been the business for a while, you look back when you get older and wish you could have spent a lot more time with your family. Spend every last bit of time that you can with your family, whether it is football season or not. If you have kids, time passes a lot faster than you think. You would hate to look up someday and you have missed your sons' or daughters' high school years, and they are heading out the door to college. Think about it. Luke
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Post by kboyd on Jul 19, 2007 8:13:47 GMT -6
I am also a lucky old coach to have an extremely understanding wife. During the season we get together as a coaching staff with our families and go out for supper after the games on Friday. When ever possible I have my family involved with any activities that are going on during the season and I always make time for my family to have time only with them. My best times are with my family and we always make sure that we are spending time together.
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Post by airman on Jul 19, 2007 10:42:20 GMT -6
i know a guy who takes his family on a vacation wth the money he makes as a head football coach. it is his way of thanking them for letting him do what he loves. they usually go some where warm over spring break.
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Post by fbdoc on Jul 19, 2007 11:22:19 GMT -6
Football coaches have a unique opportunity to make their "job" a family affair if you try. Hopefully your wife is on board before you have kids as she got to know the time involved with being a coach. Son's (and daughters!) can be ball boys, managers, and eventually players. Moms can shoot video, keep stats, or just yell and scream from the stands. Letting them into the world of coaching can help them see how special it is to you.
My oldest daughter is a junior in college but I vividly remember leaving school at 3:00 each day to go pick her up from day care and then carrying her on my back in the backpack for most of a season - my wife was the XC coach and sometimes she did the same. I also remember calling from the road as a college recruiter and feeling worse than the kids about not being there.
This board has also spoken at length about being an efficient coach - spending time and working hard, getting the job done - versus the "I stay in the film room until 2:00 AM making sure no one out "coaches" me!" style. I'm starting my 27th year as a coach and I think I do a pretty good job of coaching - and I know I didn't spend ENOUGH time with the kids and family when they were growing up! I got to coach my son and he's now playing college ball, but I still could have spent more time with the family than I did. Young coaches out there, bust your a$$ to be a great coach, but make sure you are also busting your a$$ to be a GREAT Dad and Husband! Remember which one is more important!
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