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Post by bearcat4life on Jan 31, 2007 10:39:00 GMT -6
How much of a relationship should the coach have with the
players parents?
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Post by CVBears on Jan 31, 2007 13:12:08 GMT -6
TONS!!! Obviously he can't eat dinner at each house every night. But if a coach calls or shows up to a house (for whatever reason) there should be no reason to introduce himself, explain himself and there should be very familiar feelings (a rapport). The parent should know that the coach is helping the parents out raise their child and vise versa.
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Post by coachshs on Jan 31, 2007 13:18:28 GMT -6
To me this is one of the building blocks to any successful program. Communication, communication, communication. If you want your athletes to listen, get to thier parents. You want help with funding, get to the parents, you want help with the school board, get to teh parents........ About the only things I will not talk with a parent about is playtime and x's/o's.
My door is always open and if a parent invites me over for dinner I reschedule everything else if possible. Get to know them and you will have a better program.
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Post by knighter on Jan 31, 2007 13:30:09 GMT -6
Again, as I have pointed out before, the parents generally are not the "enemy". We tend to focus on the "bad ones" the "complainers", when in reality they are in the minority. Yes, the minority makes the most noise, but in general if the parents know you care about their kids, you are less likely to have problems. The majority of parents are supportive in any way they possibly can be, as long as you are not treating their children poorly.
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Post by coachjaz on Jan 31, 2007 14:52:06 GMT -6
Be upfront and realistic with them.
Dont be a kiss ass
If they are honestly interested, show them how they can be of value to the program
Especially get on the good side of the mothers. If they realize what positive benefits the their sons will have in your program, they WILL go to bat for you
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Post by fbdoc on Jan 31, 2007 16:47:23 GMT -6
Knighter speaks volumes when he says "Parents are not the enemy." Take time to cultivate an initial positive relationship that is based on personalities and not how much their kid is playing. In addition to having a parent meeting (group) try to meet with each parent individually as their son comes into your program. We get this done their freshman year and again as juniors. Formal or informal, we meet in their home and just talk about school, football, college, or anything else. I always mention theirs son's status through comments such as hard work, dedication, and loyalty. Some are starters and some ride the pine, but the parents (for the most part) know that their son is getting a fair shake. Yeah, it takes some time, but it also prevents a lot of those gripes and phone calls I used to deal with.
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Post by neil on Feb 1, 2007 20:28:03 GMT -6
I tell parents upfront that playing time will not be discussed.
After that, I have a great relationship with our parents. We all work together. Literally, work together. We paint weight room walls, locker rooms, pave parking lots, put up goal posts. Working together like that can really bring you together.
Like mentioned above, you will always have some moms or dads that aren't pleasant people. I like to "kill with kindness." It really is fun to watch them squirm when I talk to them.
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Post by playfast on Feb 2, 2007 6:39:37 GMT -6
Be honest with parents and players. Understand that not everyone will agree but it goes with the position.
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