Post by jcarbon2 on Aug 27, 2007 10:37:40 GMT -6
Sometimes when I surf other boards I find posts that remind me of the way I coached in the past.
"The Motivation speeches don't work, Yelling is to the point of not working anymore. I need other ways of trying to light a fire under there buts. I'm almost feel I have to beg and pleed for them to go on the field. I can handle losses. I just want them to come to play, to at least protect themselves if anything. I'm seriously worried about kids getting hurt"
Coach,
An old coach once told me "You can yell or you can coach". I say this because kids seem to become distant when they have somebody yelling at them and it is hard to earn their respect. I had the same problem you had and felt, at first, that it was the kids and they had no fire or will to win. My style had worked before and had won games and championships with the old "get in your face" style of coaching so it was hard to give up. I guess I figured that particular team needed more screaming and yelling to the point of overkill. I asked a parent to videotape my practice and that is when I noticed the wrong I was doing to the kids. I would not play for a coach that treated me the way I was treating these kids. Unfortunately I was unable to fix the problem that season. The next off-season I read a few books on the subject and changed my style. Since my change I have played in each championship game and we have only lost once in that game by a last minute INT off a tipped ball. I stopped thinking about the W-L record and started to coach them up one by one. I am the only team to have nobody quit and my practice is always full. The best part is I don't yell at all. I give them "THE LOOK" and they know they need to do more not for me but for their team. It is funny how a look of disappointment and a nod of approval will make a kid feel.
Good luck this season.
John
"The Motivation speeches don't work, Yelling is to the point of not working anymore. I need other ways of trying to light a fire under there buts. I'm almost feel I have to beg and pleed for them to go on the field. I can handle losses. I just want them to come to play, to at least protect themselves if anything. I'm seriously worried about kids getting hurt"
Coach,
An old coach once told me "You can yell or you can coach". I say this because kids seem to become distant when they have somebody yelling at them and it is hard to earn their respect. I had the same problem you had and felt, at first, that it was the kids and they had no fire or will to win. My style had worked before and had won games and championships with the old "get in your face" style of coaching so it was hard to give up. I guess I figured that particular team needed more screaming and yelling to the point of overkill. I asked a parent to videotape my practice and that is when I noticed the wrong I was doing to the kids. I would not play for a coach that treated me the way I was treating these kids. Unfortunately I was unable to fix the problem that season. The next off-season I read a few books on the subject and changed my style. Since my change I have played in each championship game and we have only lost once in that game by a last minute INT off a tipped ball. I stopped thinking about the W-L record and started to coach them up one by one. I am the only team to have nobody quit and my practice is always full. The best part is I don't yell at all. I give them "THE LOOK" and they know they need to do more not for me but for their team. It is funny how a look of disappointment and a nod of approval will make a kid feel.
Good luck this season.
John
