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Post by lawless on Jan 28, 2008 14:08:08 GMT -6
Ok, so I found one of my assistant coaches on this board. I wasn't looking for him, just happened across his post. After looking at some of his posts, he came on here and vented/blamed me for this season and still makes little comments about finding a place that does this or that right. He never mentions my name, but has mentioned what school we are at. I came in about two months before season started, and tried to use the stuff he was hanging his hat on. I made a few tweaks, so I would feel halfway comfortable with it. It didn't work, so I scrapped it and went with what I know and that is when we started winning. I think/HOPE/PRAY he is looking somewhere else. I am curious as to how you would handle this.
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Post by gacoach on Jan 28, 2008 14:20:13 GMT -6
If he sees this, I believe your problem will be solved.
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Post by chadp56 on Jan 28, 2008 14:43:22 GMT -6
I would be asking him to step down. I've been disgruntled before, so I took my show on the road. Maybe you both know your stuff, but it doesn't sound like you are going to be on the same page.
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Post by ajreaper on Jan 28, 2008 14:49:30 GMT -6
LOL, I'd not be having a discussion here- have a sit down face to face, which sounds like something tht you two need to incorporate into your professional lives.
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Post by lawless on Jan 28, 2008 14:58:07 GMT -6
I doubt he would know this is about him. I also have the problem that I cannot "get rid" of him. There are issues surrounding his continued employment that come from far FAR beyond me. It is really a messed up situation. I don't feel as if I can talk with him (and you don't talk with him, you get talked AT from him.), I fear the situation will get worse. And I don't want to look anywhere else, I LOVE this job.
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po
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Post by po on Jan 28, 2008 15:04:26 GMT -6
You are the Head Coach...you call the shots. His job as an asst coach is to....assist you! We all bounce ideas off our Head Coach...some ideas he likes, some he doesn't...it's HIS ship. We, as assistant coaches work for him...period. Have a face to face with the guy....straight up, man to man. If you can come to an agreement---great. If not, ask him to step down. Your assistant coaches should be able to go into a street fight with you...if you don't trust them in that manner...get coaches you do trust!
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coachpodach
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We're on a mission from God...
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Post by coachpodach on Jan 28, 2008 15:53:21 GMT -6
I would print the posts out and pull him aside and discuss LOYALTY... I am fortunate enough to be an asst. under a guy who I feel comfortable enough to speak freely with. I realize this is often not the case other places. I feel there is nothing wrong with disagreeing, just be on the same page when you leave the coaches office to take the field, or out in public for that matter.
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Shotgun1
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It is better to die trying than to quit...
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Post by Shotgun1 on Jan 28, 2008 16:08:05 GMT -6
Print it out, sit with him, and tell him face to face how it made you feel that he did not come directly to you. Tell him if he wants to continue to coach for you he needs to be a team player but that he can always come to you with suggestions or questions. If he has problems with your authority take it to the AD or the principal, or even ask him to resign yourself. Instead of prolonging the problem solve the problem.
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Post by touchdowng on Jan 28, 2008 20:14:32 GMT -6
Wow.........
You are the lead dog, right?
Time to lead and sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel about his posts. It is a violation of loyalty in my book. This should be a safe place to vent from a professional standpoint, but to have him name your school, that's taking some healthy venting amongst anonymous colleagues to a whole new level. He crossed the line and should be told about it asap.
Good luck - sounds like a dysfunctional situation to coach in.
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1ring
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Post by 1ring on Jan 28, 2008 20:52:11 GMT -6
Due time...Give a man enough rope and he will hang himself.....
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Post by coachcoyote on Jan 28, 2008 23:39:51 GMT -6
Call him in, talk to him, don't be talked at. He may not be a loyal guy, but you need to find that out very quickly. I don't think I'd ever name the school where I was disgruntled. I would approach the HC and try to work things out. It it wasn't possible, I'd move on. If he won't come into the fold, ask him to leave with no hard feelings. If he won't leave, there has to be some way to rid yourself of the cancer.
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Post by olinecoach61 on Jan 29, 2008 6:22:23 GMT -6
Fire him
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Post by coachcalande on Jan 29, 2008 9:58:17 GMT -6
I doubt he would know this is about him. I also have the problem that I cannot "get rid" of him. There are issues surrounding his continued employment that come from far FAR beyond me. It is really a messed up situation. I don't feel as if I can talk with him (and you don't talk with him, you get talked AT from him.), I fear the situation will get worse. And I don't want to look anywhere else, I LOVE this job. losing brings out the worst in people, sit down and handle it face to face like two grown men. just my two cents. both of you want to win. venting happens. |
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Post by coachcalande on Jan 29, 2008 10:00:34 GMT -6
Ok, so I found one of my assistant coaches on this board. I wasn't looking for him, just happened across his post. After looking at some of his posts, he came on here and vented/blamed me for this season and still makes little comments about finding a place that does this or that right. He never mentions my name, but has mentioned what school we are at. I came in about two months before season started, and tried to use the stuff he was hanging his hat on. I made a few tweaks, so I would feel halfway comfortable with it. It didn't work, so I scrapped it and went with what I know and that is when we started winning. I think/HOPE/PRAY he is looking somewhere else. I am curious as to how you would handle this. are you absolutely sure you know who is doing the posting? we have a few guys on this forum with multiple accounts. |
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Post by ghscoach on Jan 29, 2008 10:50:20 GMT -6
are you absolutely sure you know who is doing the posting? we have a few guys on this forum with multiple accounts. As strictly moderated as this board is I cannot believe they allow multiple accounts and screen names. This is a sure way to cause trouble for those that enjoy doing so. |
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