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Post by fantom on Dec 11, 2011 17:10:51 GMT -6
Many of you seem to be missing out on the mere hypocrisy of this thread. Don’t you try to teach to the young men you coach that their priorities should be 1. Faith 2. Family 3. Football How can some of you teach more than football if you don't believe this yourself? Assuming that we're not talking about health problems or some other crisis there's nothing hypocritical about it. |
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Post by flingt on Dec 12, 2011 10:22:24 GMT -6
Many of you seem to be missing out on the mere hypocrisy of this thread. Don’t you try to teach to the young men you coach that their priorities should be 1. Faith 2. Family 3. Football How can some of you teach more than football if you don't believe this yourself? Assuming that we're not talking about health problems or some other crisis there's nothing hypocritical about it. The discussion of choosing your wife or football, I beg to differ. Based on what we purportedly aim to teach, some are being very hypocritical. |
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Post by fantom on Dec 12, 2011 10:27:53 GMT -6
Assuming that we're not talking about health problems or some other crisis there's nothing hypocritical about it. The discussion of choosing your wife or football, I beg to differ. Based on what we purportedly aim to teach, some are being very hypocritical. Disagree. I do think the thread is kind of silly but what kind of marriage do you want to be in? She knew who and what you are. |
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Post by Defcord on Dec 12, 2011 12:18:50 GMT -6
I think the question is legitimate. How many of us have friends or colleagues that have lost their marriages because of some link to coaching.
I hope I never get divorced but I also hope I never have to quit coaching.
I don't think it is hypocritical to consider coaching to be an important aspect of our lives. We commit a great deal of time and energy to the people we work with. Aren't many of the people we work with (players or coaches) family to us. When I got married, I had six groomsmen. 2 brothers, a nephew, and three people linked through football. I have Thanksgiving and Christmas with my assistant coaches. I think all of the relationships involved are more important than "just football."
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Post by airraider on Dec 13, 2011 18:56:30 GMT -6
Hmm.. and to think somewhere out there some guy is on some forum asking the question.. whoring or wife?
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Post by Defcord on Dec 13, 2011 21:41:43 GMT -6
Hmm.. and to think somewhere out there some guy is on some forum asking the question.. whoring or wife? Probably true but I think it's completely different. |
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Post by 20x on Dec 14, 2011 22:05:28 GMT -6
Weeks into dating my wife we had the discussion of coaching. I told her its who I am and what I want to do. If you don't want to be apart of that now is the time to get out.
If I needed to take some time off from coaching to help with my family that would be a no brainer, but to be given an ultimatum that would be different.
Marrying someone then asking them to quit being who they are is questionable.
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Post by CLuttrell on Dec 15, 2011 15:20:30 GMT -6
If your wife is not supportive of what matters most to you, then you need to seriously consider the health of your marriage. I know my wife wouldn't give me this ultimatum, because I married her based on the fact that she would support my endeavors. If you married someone who doesn't support you, then you should make a serious effort to change their way of thinking, go to marriage counseling, or consider divorce. I know that it may seem black and white, but that is how it is... Your wife SHOULD support you as a coach, it is her duty. You SHOULD support your wife's endeavors, it is your duty.
I must also say this, if coaching is just a hobby that you halfheartedly do, then football goes. I assume that coaches on this site are serious about what they do, and that what I said should apply to them.
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Post by flingt on Dec 16, 2011 17:48:58 GMT -6
Weeks into dating my wife we had the discussion of coaching. I told her its who I am and what I want to do. If you don't want to be apart of that now is the time to get out. If I needed to take some time off from coaching to help with my family that would be a no brainer, but to be given an ultimatum that would be different. Marrying someone then asking them to quit being who they are is questionable. I would hope that coaching as a career would have discussed, as much as "do you want children?" |
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