Cursing at coaches and players

we had a parent two years ago cursing so loud at a game it was getting thru the radio broadcast.

In 1958 my high school told our squad (and every year I played for him), "GENTLEMEN DO NOT USE PROFANITY." It has stuck with me ever since. That was also how I was raised by my parents. I have slipped from time to time in a weak moment of anger.

or c. throw him a beating.

I agree. I'm not a fan of cursing at all (doesn't mean I completely avoid using it outside of my coaching life, but it's not something I like at all really). I would never curse at a player, and I think cursing at another coach is completely disrespectful and ridiculous. A lot of the coaches I work with don't really care if one of the players curses on the bus or something, but I don't go for it at all. The sad thing is, some of the kids I get on for cursing say they are allowed to do it at home. I'm an adult and I've still never cursed in front of my parents. Not sure I ever could, either.

In a perfect world no one uses profanity but when it does happen- is it directed at a player/coach or just "said" as part of a statement? A bit of a difference- and I do realize that's splitting hairs but many would see the two in a very different light.

I've got a great use of profanity story but online it would be impossible to do it justice.

I don't think I've ever cursed at a kid, like " YOU %#)$# or $#U%)$*". I have sworn around kids, but mainly in my younger days of coaching. I do occasionally still swear around players, but not regularly and as I get older I'm getting better about my temper and language. Our third game last year doesn't count coachf.

It also depends on what you consider cursing too. Saying a$$ instead of butt or s--- instead of crap isn't really a big deal where I'm from. Now I've been places that it was a problem and I've censored myself accordingly.

As far as swearing at coaches, I probably do that alot, but not in an angry fashion. More kidding around stuff. I can honestly only think of one instance in which I did it and coachf was the instigator in it. That gosh dang Mr. Tibbs. But even then it wasn't cussing HIM out, it was more the situation we were in.

Seems like this was a hot topic this summer. This time around the posts appear to be very much on the same line that - gosh, you shouldn't curse...

As the warrior once said:

"Regard your soldiers as children, and they may follow you wherever you may lead. Look upon them as your beloved sons and they will stand by you unto death."
Sun-Tzu

"At Texas. . . we don't cuss 'em. . . we coach 'em."
Macke Brown, Head Football Coach UT

I try not to swear but it does happen. I don't ever swear at a player - it goes back to something that I was taught at the beginning of my coaching life and use as a big part of life in general, "praise in groups and reprimand alone".

Tony Dungy
Lovie Smith

What better examples for leaders of men?

I heard that when Lovie gets mad, he might say "Jimminy"
If he's really mad it's, "Jimminy Christmas!"

I think "curse" and "curse out" are two totally different things. Curse is using profanity. To me "cursing out" someone is essentially yelling at them while putting them down.

In a previous life I believe I was a sailor and the language has stuck with me. Just like anyone else, I curb the use of my beloved "F" word (and others) around the kids. I have accidentally slipped out an a_ _ or a s_ _ _, maybe twice total. Never dropped the F bomb. I say "Hot D a m n" after a big play, something finally coming together in practice, a win, etc.

I have never cussed a kid out, but I have said a curse word infront of a kid. IMO, there is a difference.

None of us are paragons of virtue. Make a mistake, correct it and move on. I don't curse at the kids, maybe the situation, but not the kids. I've certainly slipped and dropped the F bomb, but never addressed it at a player's action or inaction. I try to use better words, but if they start streaming, look out.

I want to prepare my kids for life after high school. Now some of them may go on to be people who do not need to censor what they say in the workforce because of where they work. However, some of them will be going on to college and (being a Social Studies teacher) hopefully into some form of civic service. You have to teach these guys how to be professonal and when they need to act professional.

If you are sitting around with your buddies, I can guarantee you that you tell different stories and jokes than you do with your boss around. This is what we have to instill in our kids. I want to be 100% professional when I step on the sidelines or on the practice field, so I am going to keep my mouth under control. You want to teach your kids how to maintain poise under pressure? Then don't throw around meaningless language when something doesn't go your way.

I'll never forget going back to my alma mater and watching a game from the sidelines. Our starting LB got a personal foul for cussing at the ref. He comes off the field and the head coach yells at him: "Why can't you keep your f***ing mouth shut." Really encouraging poise there, eh?

I want my players to understand that we are professionals. We are showing up at a business to take care of business. This isn't a saturday afternoon in a backyard shooting the breeze. Can you still have fun? Absolutely. But the tone, mood, and attitude is different. They need this skill to be successful in life. I stub my toe at home, you can bet your sweet hind end I'm cussing that chair for getting in the way of my foot. My boss and I have a disagreement, you can bet that I am going to handle it professionally.