kakavian
Sophomore Member
Where's the ball, boy? Find the ball.
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Post by kakavian on Mar 3, 2006 9:04:54 GMT -6
You know you have those kids who you try and try with, and just cant seem to reach? Taylor was one of thsoe kids for me. We tried everything we could to get him to let us in, to help him be something other than a punk. To no avail. I struggle sometimes to think what else we could have done.
Just found out he shot a guy in a store robbery. He's fifteen and going to be tried as an adult. I just wonder sometimes if we gave up on him too soon, and whether or not it would have made a difference.
I wonder whether or not I was a good enough coach. My own guilt talking I know, but when stuff like this happens, I wonder what else we might have done, what other things we could do to reach him. Perhaps if I had been a better coach, some guy might be alive today instead of shot by a scared, messed up fifteen year old kid who didnt know that there were better things to do than rob a liquor store.
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Post by tribepride on Mar 3, 2006 9:24:06 GMT -6
Don't beat yourself up over this. He made his own choices and he has to live with those. We are in a area where I see many kids in the same boat. Haven't had any shooting but stabbings & drugs are not uncommon. I used to beat myself up over things like you metioned but learned that I cannot save every student. Some have to learn the hard way and some get sucked down into the cycle of violence and you can't pull them up. Do your best and you can feel good about yourself!
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mike13
Sophomore Member
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Post by mike13 on Mar 3, 2006 10:12:18 GMT -6
I can relate. I had a kid for four years and tried to save him. He had D-II or D-III potential. He didn't make it a single season in four years. He got kicked off twice and quit twice. He is involved in drugs and God knows what else. He came to a game this year and the police had to remove him from the stadium.
Coach a wise man told me once you only have to save one to replace yourself. You may have lost that one, but what of the ones you helped save. By caring about the one you lost it proves you have saved others. Thanks for being a coach.
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Post by airman on Mar 3, 2006 11:52:29 GMT -6
you can lead a horse to water but you cannot make him drink.
you cannot save people. we are the sum total of the choices we make in life.
this boy will have several years to think about the choices he made. as they say, prision time is slow time.
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Post by knighter on Mar 3, 2006 19:46:43 GMT -6
feel for you kakavian
have lost 2 foremr 3rd grade students in the last year (both were seniors this year, 1 suicide over a damn woman and the other in a car accident) loved em both to death, hope and pray that they both knew it.
but can't save those that do not want to be saved...rough one, but all you can do is your best i guess.
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Post by carson101 on Mar 4, 2006 6:40:15 GMT -6
Coach, I feel for you and I have faced simular feelings with kids that just failed to see the opportunities that are avaiable to them. The biggest thing that I find an obstacle in this screwed up politically correct society is that ignorant politicians have taken just about every successful resource from kids now-a-days and tied the hands of most responsible parents. Society wants parents to be the kids friend first, instead of a parent entitling kids more rights than the parent, expecting a parent to disaplin {sp} the kid. I always thought it was the other way around the other thing is a fact that ever since the separation {sp} of church and state taking god out of school has created 90% of all kids to turn towards drugs, violence, suicide ect. I'm not one for sounding like a preacher but fact is fact kids have on outlets like we had as kids the best we can do is try and make a difference when it comes to troubled teens, I have a daughter that is close to going over the edge and it is hard to help when they close you out. I guess the main thing is for the few we help one will always go astray, sorry about the kid coach I will keep him in prayer but you did all you could. Thanks for being a coach someone out there appreciates it I know I do.
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