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Post by touchdownmaker on Dec 14, 2009 15:02:43 GMT -6
What kinds of things do we as coaches beat ourselves up about?
I really tend to beat myself up over failing to establish the magic relationship that would keep a quitter from quitting, keep a slacker from being ineligible and keep a bully from bullying or thief from stealing.
Id really blame myself hard when a kid decided to quit or I couldnt sell him on the program to get him to play. I blamed myself for them skipping practice or being cancerous/negative.
Now, however I wonder, is it worth it? i see the same kids I beat myself up over getting into trouble with school, employment, other jobs, parents and other coaches.
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Post by blb on Dec 14, 2009 15:07:35 GMT -6
What kinds of things do we as coaches beat ourselves up about? I really to beat myself up over failing to establish the magic relationship that would keep a quitter from quitting, keep a slacker from being ineligible and keep a bully from bullying or thief from stealing. Id really blame myself hard when a kid decided to quit or I couldnt sell him on the program to get him to play. I blamed myself for them skipping practice or being cancerous/negative. Now, however I wonder, is it worth it? i see the same kids I beat myself up over getting into trouble with school, employment, other jobs, parents and other coaches. You can't do in course of a football season what wasn't done the previous 15-17 years. Of all the things HS football is, one thing it most assuredly is not is a mental health clinic. Or, as Coach John Wooden said, "Athletics do not build character - they reveal it." |
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Post by justryn2 on Dec 14, 2009 17:21:44 GMT -6
Far be it from me to disagree with the great John Wooden but, I still have to hope that I'm having some impact on the character development of the young men I coach. I know I'm not going to save them all. No matter what I do they are still going to find themselves, at various times in their lives, in situations where they have to make decisions that are going to have consequences. And some of these kids are going to make the wrong decisions and the consequences are going to be negative. However, I do still hope that the influence of the team environment and the things I try to teach through football will help more of these kids make better decisions more of the time.
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Post by kylem56 on Dec 14, 2009 17:51:09 GMT -6
for myself:
Anytime we lose a game that we felt we should have won. Like Bill Walsh once said"everytime you lose, you feel like you died a little"
Anytime my offensive or defensive line has a bad night. You always wonder what you could have done better.
This is a big one- hearing about a former player who has screwed up their life big time (going to jail, constant drug charges, etc). You always wonder if theres something you could have done to prevent this.
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Post by jgordon1 on Dec 14, 2009 18:01:48 GMT -6
I usually beat myself up over my big mouth...sometimes I say stuff to kids during the course of practice I don't even remember....sometimes it's funny..sometimes not so much
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Post by jackedup on Dec 14, 2009 21:21:09 GMT -6
I definitely beat myself up (and probably my family too) over my position. If they don't do well, I really take it out on myself.
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Post by mariner42 on Dec 14, 2009 21:58:50 GMT -6
Being the DC, it's definitely easy to fall into the mentality that if we lose, it's because I didn't do a good enough job. Realistically, I'm giving myself too much credit, whether we win or lose.
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Post by Coach H on Dec 15, 2009 7:20:36 GMT -6
Guys,
It's normal to have those feelings. If you didn't have them I would question why your were coaching. Keep up the good work.
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Post by bigm0073 on Dec 15, 2009 7:58:25 GMT -6
A LOSS!!! It absolutely kills me.. As I get older it is harder for me and harder to get over..
As a head coach I feel like when we lose that we as coaches did not put our kids in a position to be successful. The losses really are hard and they do eat at me (right now as we speak they are eating at me).
I really do believe when we win the kids carry it out.. I really do believe when we lose it rest on my shoulders and it is up to me and my staff to solve the problem.
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Post by gdn56 on Dec 15, 2009 10:22:48 GMT -6
I had a kid this summer who had been sort of a project in the spring...I spent a lot of time with the kid and worked to try and develop him on the field and as a person. Then come to find out, he had been stealing from his neighbors to support a gambling habbit. I really felt like it was my fault, because I had spent so much time with him during school...then once the summer started, I talked with him at workouts and sort of let it be. I really wonder if I could have done more to keep him out of trouble...but I guess at the end of the day...we aren't the kids parents and can't keep tabs on 'em all day. It is tough though.
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