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Post by jpdaley25 on Nov 13, 2008 10:36:58 GMT -6
I seem to have a lot of extremely selfish kids on my team. When we voted for end-of-season awards, most of them voted for themself! Worried about stats, worried about touches, worried about being "the Man," worried about who's going to win the awards, worried about how they look, worried about who got to go out for the coin toss the most - not too worried about how they play. Selfish parents as well. My boy didn't get to run the ball as much as the other boy kind of crap. They don't say it to me, but they say it so it gets back to me. I've thought about not reporting any stats at all until the season is over. What are your thoughts on the subject. What are some things I can do to eliminate this attitude without eliminating the kids?
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Post by bulldogoption on Nov 13, 2008 10:59:56 GMT -6
THANK YOU, ESPN!!!!!!!  I don't make a big deal out of stats.........as a result, I think, our kids don't make as big a deal out of it at least not to the point that they openly complain or their parents do loud enough for me to hear I had some of these issues when I took over, and I have tried to just preach playing football. Simple Uniforms, team goals for helmet stickers...etc There will ALWAYS be kids and parents who feel things should be done differently, and it doesn't matter if you're undefeated or O-fer. |
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Post by touchdownmaker on Nov 13, 2008 11:32:16 GMT -6
I chose the award winners myself. I recommend it!
One thing to stress, its a TEAM GAME and the individual awards are nice but none of it happens without team support.
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Post by coachcb on Nov 13, 2008 11:36:07 GMT -6
1. Don't make a big deal out of the stats; if they can't handle it.
2. If they are being selfish, talk to them about it as a team and as individuals. Use the word "team" a lot and let them know that they're crap won't be tolerated.
3. If it continues past that, sit their butts on the bench for a quarter or, at the very least, don't start them.
My warning to you; bad attitudes arre contagious and they will spread if left unchecked. Put your foot down on the problem as quickly and as hard as you can. Several years ago, my starting TB/Mike LB and his dad wouldn't stop complaining about "his carries". I talked to him and his father about it once and warned them that there would be consequences for it. Half-way through the next game, he's on the sideline's whining because he wasn't returning kick-offs. I told him to shut his trap and sat him on the bench in the 3rd quarter. His back-ups played well enough, so he sat the rest of the game. I never heard a peep out of him the rest of the year and his back-ups' enthusiasm really improved.
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Post by dacoordinator on Nov 13, 2008 12:54:40 GMT -6
coach im sure ur doin a good job handling the situation... players will be players and dumb parents who think their kids are better than they are will be parents.
but encourage team efforts once everybody sees that its the team that wins rather than just one person they stop being so selfish or.. the ones that are selfish sit em down. send a message that you dont tolerate it. or speak about it indirectly after practice when everybody comes together. Give them examples of ppl that are selfish and how it doesnt work for them..
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Post by rgrmaverick on Nov 13, 2008 22:16:34 GMT -6
Make the "Most Unselfish Player" trophy the biggest of them all and the most important.
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Post by endersgame on Nov 14, 2008 6:13:07 GMT -6
That's a good idea, but don't call it the "Most Unselfish Player" Award. This tells everyone who doesn't win the award they're not team players. Remember, stay positive. Call it the "Team Player" Award or something along those lines instead. If the coach doesn't make a big deal out of the stats, then the players won't either.
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Post by kr7263 on Nov 14, 2008 7:08:17 GMT -6
Aren't most, if not all, teenagers selfish, self gratifying, myopic, emotionally unstable by nature and culture. I think Bear Bryant said "Our job is to get the players to do the things that are unnatural to them." (paraphrase). Are there HS teams where there are no selfish players? My biggest job is to force (or motivate) kids to conform to the team, weather it be rules or effort or execution.
-Hold the team accountable for selfish behavior.
-Use teachable moments to encourage, reinforce or demonstrate unselfish behavior.
-Force the kids to encourage or praise each other (most kids won't do this unless you tell them to) - We tell the kids - on this drill we want to see all 11 touch the kid (high five, back slap, hug or whatever) who makes the play, if we don't then 10 up downs.
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Post by jgordon1 on Nov 14, 2008 8:56:34 GMT -6
Force the kids to encourage or praise each other (most kids won't do this unless you tell them to) - We tell the kids - on this drill we want to see all 11 touch the kid (high five, back slap, hug or whatever) who makes the play, if we don't then 10 up downs.
in other years, We have actually had to coach what to do after a player scores a Td. We practiced flipping the ball to the ref and having everyone getting together. unbelievable
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Post by brophy on Nov 14, 2008 18:19:35 GMT -6
what does your off season weight room program look like?
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Post by coachtut on Nov 15, 2008 12:51:30 GMT -6
what does your off season weight room program look like? This question is important. You know the way you want the team to run, from the weight training program, to the plays you want to run and how you want them run, and ideal PLAYER ATTITUDES. If they don't meet expectations running a certain play, you let them know right? Every coach can correct a player when they don't meet expectations running a play. For some reason coaches shy away from correcting an attitude. It's the same thing. |
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Post by jpdaley25 on Nov 17, 2008 8:00:51 GMT -6
Thanks everyone for some great ideas!
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