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Post by airman on Aug 19, 2008 14:43:02 GMT -6
so your best athlete on the team comes up and says his girlfriend is kocked up. what do you do?
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Post by liberalhater on Aug 19, 2008 15:00:14 GMT -6
It really depends on the relationship between the two individuals.
but he is now a man. And he now has responsibilities far more important responsibilities than playing football on friday night.
The rest is pending circumstance. But football is now the least of his worries and for his sake him being on the football field should be the least of your worries.
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Post by dubber on Aug 19, 2008 15:23:07 GMT -6
support him, but like liberalhater says, he needs to a man at this point, and IF he cannot give 100% to football like the rest of his teammates, it is time to be a man.
Talk to him.............that's the best thing you can do......cause he's probably scared as hell
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Post by airraider on Aug 19, 2008 19:21:49 GMT -6
so your best athlete on the team comes up and says his girlfriend is kocked up. what do you do? I think its time for momma to be to get a freakin job and take some responsibility.. You cant go messin up the boy's football over a stupid baby!!  |
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Post by coachbw on Aug 19, 2008 19:33:59 GMT -6
This is one of those topics that teenagers tend to keep quiet. If he has come directly to you with it . . . he is reaching out to an adult he thinks can listen to him. About the best you can do is listen.
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Post by liberalhater on Aug 19, 2008 20:07:48 GMT -6
I think the coach should hold his hand and encourage him cry on his shoulder. LOL!
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Post by 19delta on Aug 19, 2008 20:24:03 GMT -6
It really depends on the relationship between the two individuals. but he is now a man. And he now has responsibilities far more important responsibilities than playing football on friday night. The rest is pending circumstance. But football is now the least of his worries and for his sake him being on the football field should be the least of your worries. Wow... Reasonable, level-headed, thoughtful... Hater...is that REALLY you? |
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Post by 19delta on Aug 19, 2008 20:24:52 GMT -6
I think the coach should hold his hand and encourage him cry on his shoulder. LOL! Ahhhh...now that's more like it! ;D |
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Post by liberalhater on Aug 19, 2008 21:58:09 GMT -6
Cant you see my love for liberals?
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Post by chuff on Aug 20, 2008 20:01:22 GMT -6
This just happened to me! When he went to scout team and put on one of those helmet beanies I told him that if he had wore one on his other head he wouldn't have to miss practice on Friday for an ultrasound appointment!
My wife and I are expecting our first child as well and the due dates are within a week of each other. It sure will be odd to run into him at those classes...
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Post by ajreaper on Aug 20, 2008 21:25:48 GMT -6
1st he's not a man- fathering a child doesn't make you a "man", he's a teenager just like he was before the rabbit died. What he needs to do or should do depends upon what she intends to do and what thier parents collectively can and are willing to do.
Truth is it may change his life completely or not at all. You'll need a bit more information before you really can formulate a plan action.
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Post by bleefb on Aug 20, 2008 23:56:41 GMT -6
It has happened to us this season. The baby is due in December. Kid wasn't sure if he could play. I left the door open if he could arrange his schedule, and so far he's with us.
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Post by liberalhater on Aug 21, 2008 7:14:01 GMT -6
Your right! hes not a man if he acts like a child after producing a child?Why does that not make any sense. And we cant figure why nobody takes responsibility. I guess the tax payers will pay for that child to
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Post by ajreaper on Aug 21, 2008 9:06:19 GMT -6
What would you have him do to "be a man" Quit playing football, quit school and get a job so he can pay for the cost associated with having a child? That's taking responsibility?
The best chance for the child and his parents is that they at least complete high school- at the very least. In many cases the parents of the parents share the majority of the financial burden for a teen pregnancy- and what type of job does a teenager without a high school education get that keeps tax payers from supporting both the parents and the child?
I might add there's a huges difference between being a man and "acting" like one.
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Post by liberalhater on Aug 21, 2008 21:24:53 GMT -6
For somebody who lecture about putting words in somebody elses mouth you do it a lot.
He has to do what everybody who has a child does. SET priorities. Live within his means. GET A JOB. GO to school. a.k.a BE A MAN. But I guess Everybody else should pay for it until he decides he is ready to be a man, eh? That girl if she decides to keep it, wont have a choice will she? What happens if her parents throw her out of the house? Who lets her be a child until she grows up? Their is a reason the bible tells you not to screw around UNTIL AFTER YOUR MARRIED. AND AT THAT WITH ONE WOMAN.
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Post by ajreaper on Aug 21, 2008 23:03:22 GMT -6
Don't believe I've ever lectured anyone about putting words in anybodies mouth- perhaps I've mentioned READING what's been posted but that's hardly the same. I doubt the bible talking about pre-marital sex has anything to do with saving the tax payers of America from the scourge of teenage pregnancy. I could be wrong but I'll go out on a limb and say that's not exactly the whole jist of the bibles take on pre-marital sex.
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Post by liberalhater on Aug 22, 2008 4:59:21 GMT -6
so you think the bible just says it for the sake of saying it?
teenage pregnancy falls Consequence of pre-marital sex, as does loss of education, lack being able to find good jobs.......not to mention fatherless babies. The bible is all about consequences. Their is a reason it is the all time best seller.
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Post by ajreaper on Aug 22, 2008 9:29:50 GMT -6
Liberal- I think the bible is thousands of years old and while it forms a framework for how people can live thier lives you have to allow for the realities of today to be factored in. The bible is not to be taken or applied literally (for that matter no religous text should be).
I also believes the Bible also says something about being our brothers keeper- isn't that sorta what the government tries to do with assistance programs? So our we going to use only those parts of the bible that support our current position while ignoring others that seem to support something we oppose? That's often the problem with the Bible and other religious texts- to many people using the parts they want to and ignoring others.
In any event dealing with this issue in the context of the bible or religion may or may not be appropriate (only airman knows the situation well enough to decide that).
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