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Post by kurtbryan on Jun 22, 2008 15:56:02 GMT -6
Coaches: Respectfully to the wife, we just got done reviewing the entire remaining 2008 calendar up through the remaining summer workouts and of course the football season. She knows the deal pretty much. (HUMBLY) having been a coach for 23 years, the wife has been talking to other wives and girlfriends, and wants to change things up a bit this coming fall...OK, no problemo, etc. So: Beginning the the latter half of this summer, and through most of the football season, she requested almost every Wednesday night after practice is Date Night for the Two of Us. Obviously, in addition to our usual Saturday night ventures to the City or out on the town during the fall. Question: Do any of you guys have a pre-set DATE night with the Wife or Girlfriend during the season? If so, great, I have lots of great ideas, but AM always looking for solid innovative suggestions too. Thanks, KB  ;D  |
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Post by wildcat on Jun 22, 2008 17:24:24 GMT -6
Question: Do any of you guys have a pre-set DATE night with the Wife or Girlfriend during the season? I've coached with some guys who had a pre-set date night for their wives AND their girlfriends... |
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Post by catz1 on Jun 22, 2008 18:13:40 GMT -6
Question: Do any of you guys have a pre-set DATE night with the Wife or Girlfriend during the season? I've coached with some guys who had a pre-set date night for their wives AND their girlfriends... Coach was that with both on the same night? Just thinking... ;D |
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Post by dsqa on Jun 22, 2008 21:15:31 GMT -6
For what its worth after almost 19 years of marriage and 5 kids, if you are going out on the town and seeking entertainment on Saturday, etc. I would offer up for your consideration that you ratchet down Wednesday night's expectation, and use it as a night to have a meal, or go out for dessert and draw her out on your relationship, kids, her week - planning for the following week. OR, you ask her if she would like to double date with one of her friends and their husbands. You can also take turns on the double date plan, but inviting one of your coaches and their wives out with you both to build relationship outside of football.
Just some ideas for using Wednesday a little differently.
Hope that helps.
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Post by dcoach84 on Jun 22, 2008 21:23:18 GMT -6
I think a lot of coaches typically use Saturday nights as a "Date Night." Personally, I think it would tough to use a week night for this purpose. However, I have much less experience in this area compared to other coaches.
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Post by coachdawhip on Jun 23, 2008 8:44:26 GMT -6
The weekend after the season is over, we get away to a hotel, just me and her and no football. That way I can come back and watch the rest of the playoffs!
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Post by coachjimmer on Jun 23, 2008 8:45:31 GMT -6
This is tough...
My girlfriend is a labor and delivery nurse working on the 12-hour night shifts. As for me, I take martial arts/combat (Ninjutsu, Bushido, Muay Thai, and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu) classes on Monday and Wednesday evenings and workout with some mixed martial arts fighters. I also take some educational courses for my teaching degree (Deaf Education). I am also a single dad of a very beautiful 14-year-old daughter.
Every week, we talk about which night is a good night for us to have a date. And we go out on that night. Most of times, we just stay home and watch a rented movie after a nice dinner. Sometimes, if our schedules fit, we'd go to the beautiful Colorado Rocky Mountains for activities such as biking, fishing, camping, or just shopping around in Estes Park or Steamboat Springs.
The main key to the successful relationship, at least in my case, is to have a great communication. Flexibility is also another ingredient to a successful relationship.
Today I am taking my girlfriend and my daughter out to Brainard Lake, a beautiful shallow lake in Indian Peaks Wilderness near Ward, Colorado. We plan to take a hike to a 13,800 feet mountain peak from that lake so we will definitely have a great day.
Coach Jimmer
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Post by wingt74 on Jun 23, 2008 8:49:42 GMT -6
The weekend after the season is over, we get away to a hotel, just me and her and no football. That way I can come back and watch the rest of the playoffs! Yeah but you have a laptop to check emails and visit these boards. And when she is asleep, you draw some Xs and Os on a piece of paper. Then you click through the stations to see if there is a game on.  I'm blessed. My wife loves football, comes to all the games, and gets involved with the boosters. For those with wives who aren't in to football...i don't know how you do it. |
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Post by coachdawhip on Jun 23, 2008 8:55:41 GMT -6
The weekend after the season is over, we get away to a hotel, just me and her and no football. That way I can come back and watch the rest of the playoffs! Yeah but you have a laptop to check emails and visit these boards. And when she is asleep, you draw some Xs and Os on a piece of paper. Then you click through the stations to see if there is a game on. I'm blessed. My wife loves football, comes to all the games, and gets involved with the boosters. For those with wives who aren't in to football...i don't know how you do it. Of Course! Mine loves football as well, but it's nice to let her think it's not almost on my mind. |
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Post by kurtbryan on Jun 23, 2008 9:13:23 GMT -6
Reply: Good answers, some funny ones too about the coach who knows another coach who had a date with his wife AND his girlfriend  , and YES, I agree, the Wednesday night hook ups with the Wife are going to be more mellow: casual dinner, a drink, nice walk at night at one of the east bay Marinas while viewing the city (SF), or maybe just a movie and popcorn. KB |
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Post by brophy on Jun 23, 2008 15:16:16 GMT -6
you know what they say....
Women - they've got half the money and all the _____"
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Post by kurtbryan on Jun 23, 2008 17:29:01 GMT -6
OK...here's what baffles me...and don't get me wrong, I'm just as dumb as every other man on this planet. BUT...have you ever stopped to think: If a female did not have the "mommy parts" that we so enjoy, we wouldn't put up with nearly as much BS as we do now. Hell, I'd be willing to bet that where I'm from there would be hunting season on them. If your best friend said "Kurt...we don't get to spend much time together anymore...what say we make Wednesday nights our night to go get something to eat, maybe see a movie, shoot some pool or whatever." You would look dead at your best friend and say "dude...shut-up, that's gay." Yet when the little woman, with the mommy parts says it, we are all like 4 year olds "um..kay, dat's a good idea." (you'll have to imagine the sarcasm in my voice). BUT alas...I bark when there is no bite. I think it is something necessary for anyone married, you have to work hard to make her feel like you're spending some quality time with her. Because every married man in the world can back me up on this: If Dad's not happy, no one gives a sh!t. If Mom's not happy, then Nooo one is happy. So if date night every wednesday is what it takes to shut her up and keep her happy, then why not. Just look at the balance sheet: What will it cost you to do it? What will it cost you not to do it? Yea... kb |
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Post by wingt74 on Jun 24, 2008 6:18:31 GMT -6
OK...here's what baffles me...and don't get me wrong, I'm just as dumb as every other man on this planet. BUT...have you ever stopped to think: If a female did not have the "mommy parts" that we so enjoy, we wouldn't put up with nearly as much BS as we do now. Hell, I'd be willing to bet that where I'm from there would be hunting season on them. If your best friend said "Kurt...we don't get to spend much time together anymore...what say we make Wednesday nights our night to go get something to eat, maybe see a movie, shoot some pool or whatever." You would look dead at your best friend and say "dude...shut-up, that's gay." Yet when the little woman, with the mommy parts says it, we are all like 4 year olds "um..kay, dat's a good idea." (you'll have to imagine the sarcasm in my voice). BUT alas...I bark when there is no bite. I think it is something necessary for anyone married, you have to work hard to make her feel like you're spending some quality time with her. Because every married man in the world can back me up on this: If Dad's not happy, no one gives a sh!t. If Mom's not happy, then Nooo one is happy. So if date night every wednesday is what it takes to shut her up and keep her happy, then why not. Just look at the balance sheet: What will it cost you to do it? What will it cost you not to do it? Yea... See, here is the thing. Being alone sucks. Not having nooky sucks. Having kids rocks. having your best friend around all the time rocks. Only one person can provide those things. If you think multiple people can provide any of the above stuff, then you're wrong, cause eventually, you'll be alone. On that note, yeah, it also sucks to be told to "CUT THE DAMN GRASS FOR GOD'S SAKE" after a 48-0 loss |
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Post by groundchuck on Jun 24, 2008 6:46:15 GMT -6
Sat night.
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Post by lionhart on Jun 24, 2008 19:14:05 GMT -6
to para=quote my favorite all-time movie...."saturday nights was for the wives. but friday nights were always for the girlfriends."
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Post by Deleted on Jun 25, 2008 19:28:34 GMT -6
I'M NOT MARRIED....during football season.... ;D Hey the wife HATES football, oh well, sometimes we go out after games, and on sunday's we get together with friends, to watch the Eagles....then I'm usually drunk and pissed off at the birds, then we gom home.....and it starts all over again....I present the circle of life my friends.....the circle of life |
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Post by newhc on Jun 25, 2008 20:23:00 GMT -6
Hey Kurt,
I admire you for being willing to do something different and give up 2 nights. I agree with everyone else, wednesday is a tough one. I second the opinion about making it low key. Since you go out on the town on Saturday, then on Wednesday do things with her, let her talk, and try to get in her world. It is easier said than done, I can recommend a book Tips to Romance Your Wife and you can get some emails sent to you from their website. Some of them are really easy, and give you alot of Bonus Points.
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Post by tye2021 on Jun 26, 2008 15:13:47 GMT -6
I thought date night was inviting her to the game!
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Post by bhb on Jun 26, 2008 20:53:29 GMT -6
I thought date night was inviting her to the game! I know, right.. I'd be seriously concerned if my wife came to me with a suggestion like that- especially if we already went out on Saturdays as it is...I'd think she was going through menopause- or a mid life crisis, wait, WE go through the mid life stuff and end up buying Mustangs or Harleys, not them- never mind that part.. But you get the drift.. Hey, ya gotta do what ya gotta do I spose, but I've been married 20 years and I'm not looking to add a weeknight date night anytime soon.. I'll avoid that one as long as possible..lol.. I guess the days where the woman came to the field house with us to take notes while we watched film are things of the past?.. <sigh> the times they are a changin' ;-) |
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Post by coachjoe3 on Jun 27, 2008 0:08:38 GMT -6
to para=quote my favorite all-time movie...."saturday nights was for the wives. but friday nights were always for the girlfriends." You really are a funny guy! That reminds me of something my wife always says - I'm married to her, but football is my mistress! No date night during the season, but we usually get a few date nights in the two or three weeks right after it ends. |
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Post by bleefb on Jun 27, 2008 17:21:04 GMT -6
Well, my wife is the AD and is going to film the games this year, but she STILL will come into my home office and say "Are you ever going to stop looking at film" and "Remember me?" an other remarks. We try to go out Sat or Sunday for a drive, etc. We also seem to have bought her a new car twice over 13 years of marriage during football season, so bribery helps. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 27, 2008 17:43:45 GMT -6
In IL, most varsity games are Fridays, so I would think Thursday nights would be a good fit. By then, you've had all practices and know the gameplan, and I think a relaxing night before the game would be helpful.
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Post by kurtbryan on Jun 27, 2008 19:16:31 GMT -6
We do Team Dinners and helmet decals every Thursday night during the season, so...........gotta be Wed. in addition to Saturday nights.
* I like the ideas though.
KB
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Post by burn on Jun 27, 2008 23:12:23 GMT -6
My wife and I have date night about 5-10 times a year. We have 3 little ones and not very many people to watch them. I just make sure every night I spend an hour to to 2 hours talking with her about the kids, her day and anything she needs to talk about.
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Post by burn on Jun 27, 2008 23:15:44 GMT -6
Oh I forgot DC Ohio I had my wife read that and I could not get her to stop laughing.
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;D 
, and YES, I agree, the Wednesday night hook ups with the Wife are going to be more mellow: casual dinner, a drink, nice walk at night at one of the east bay Marinas while viewing the city (SF), or maybe just a movie and popcorn.
