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Post by champ93 on Apr 26, 2008 14:14:24 GMT -6
I can feel your pain coach talexander as I have a similar situation as you, but not as bad or blatant as yours. 9th graders are very egocentric and think everything is about them. Many do not understand the concept of team until they mature. But egocentric kids do understand consequences. I suggest you do your due diligence and have a direct conversation with these young men and their parents. Outline your expectations and explain how their behavior is essentially having a negative effect on their team. I would present it as a "take it or leave it" situation.
I once heard this about being a head coach and I never have forgotten it. "Once you become a Head coach you lose the ability to make decisions that are best for a particular player because your decisions affect the entire program."
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Post by champ93 on Apr 26, 2008 14:20:10 GMT -6
In response to the other kids who may leave if he does . . . if they have the character to follow him out the door, then the do not have had the character to walk through the weight room doors daily (and other things necessary) to become champions anyways. No truer words have ever been spoken!
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zulu6
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Post by zulu6 on Apr 26, 2008 17:23:57 GMT -6
so, how has this turned out so far?
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Post by talexander on Apr 26, 2008 21:42:32 GMT -6
The offending individual has said he is leaving the program. . probably for best. As for some of the others, I have identified a few leaders and have sat down with them. That has been great. . . We identified some of the issues, and I outlined our expectations.
one kid has been telling the kid that is leaving that he is "going to hit him all night" when we play them (they are friends).
We had a general meeting, and I had another coach that worked with them last year talk, got the rumors out of the way, then hammered them.
I am drafting a letter to all level parents to outline our expectations and to notify them of our meeting. i am going to address expectations heavily.
We are moving forward with whoever is going to buy in, everyone else can leave
thanks for all the advice
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Post by coachd5085 on Apr 26, 2008 22:12:56 GMT -6
Did I miss the part in the post where it said what the upperclassmen did? I know at every school I have worked at..both college and High school (louisiana) the upperclassman would probably have ended this quickly...
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