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Post by 1/11th on Feb 13, 2018 16:43:53 GMT -6
I have a parent applying to coach on our staff. He has solid football background and has coached successfully at the youth level. He is not a teacher by profession and strongly desires to get involved in coaching high school football now that his youngest is coming to high school. Has anyone had any experience with this? Any advice on the matter?
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Post by blb on Feb 13, 2018 16:56:17 GMT -6
Hire assistant coaches to do you and the program a favor, not them.
You think coaching your own son (see another recent thread on here) could be difficult?
Try having an assistant who only wants to coach because his son is playing, and will be done as soon as his kid is.
Don't do it.
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Post by bluboy on Feb 13, 2018 16:59:36 GMT -6
Our district has a policy that states a parent can volunteer; HOWEVER, he can not coach at the level his son is playing. If this ruled was applied to your situation, this father could work with the varsity and junior varsity, not the frosh. Once the son moved up to varsity/JV, the father could only work with the frosh.
By the way, we just lost a guy who had been volunteering for over 25 years. He worked with the frosh and did a great job. Being out of town (as a result of work) is the only reason he missed practice. This past season was the first without him, and we missed him.
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Post by coachd5085 on Feb 13, 2018 17:03:03 GMT -6
In a thread such as this, you are going to get numerous anecdotes based on everyone's experiences. Mine, one of the best football coaches I have met was a youth coach who moved up to HS with his son, and then continued coaching after his son graduated.
That said, I am sure others have had nightmare experiences.
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Post by jrk5150 on Feb 13, 2018 17:13:28 GMT -6
As a youth coach who's seen all kinds of youth coaches, including more than a few dads coaching their sons...
It all depends. Do you really need another coach? If you need a guy, and he seems the best qualified, I'd poke around his youth experience. What is his reputation in the youth program? Was he a daddy-ball guy, or a solid coach? I've seen both. Is he in it until the kid is done, or is he interested in more than that? I've seen both.
I would imagine any time you have a someone potentially coaching their kid the deck should be stacked against it, but that doesn't mean it's an absolute no. Plenty of guys have navigated that just fine.
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Post by Coachbragg on Feb 13, 2018 19:45:46 GMT -6
Our district is so small we aren’t even able to pay assistants so I take any help I can. I’ve had parents and siblings of players as coaches. Had very good experiences as well as very bad ones. Over time I’ve developed a set of rules regarding these types of coaches. Our most basic rule has been to try and have the parent not be their kid’s position coach
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Post by freezeoption on Feb 13, 2018 20:42:39 GMT -6
I wouldn't do it if I was you, but I also understand it is hard to find assistants.
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Post by 53 on Feb 13, 2018 20:51:57 GMT -6
I'd at least interview the guy, if I needed a coach.
I'd let him know straight up about expectations over his son, and let him know its termination on the first strike.
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Post by agap on Feb 13, 2018 22:13:10 GMT -6
When I was in high school, we had a bunch of coaches who had sons on the team. They only coached when their son was on varsity and they all quit once their son graduated. They were all there only to help/protect their son.
When I was a head coach, there were a couple parents who wanted to help out. We told them all no because we didn't want to deal with any potential issues. I'm sure there are some who do a great job and help out the team, but we figured it wasn't worth it.
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Post by 50slantstrong on Feb 13, 2018 22:27:57 GMT -6
Mixed experience -
in 2015 we hired a guy whose son was on the team and he’s still with us. Great guy. Would run through a brick wall for the program. I can only hope to be a shell of him if I get the chance to coach my kid.
Last year we hired a guy whom we later found out was only out there to not only coach his son but try to get the younger QB’s to quit or switch positions so his son could be the QB his senior year. Literally found out tonight he withdrew his kid from the school last Friday now he’s going to be some other school’s problem.
My advice - look for the warning signs. Does he send his kids to all threes bogus camps to get “exposure”? Does he talk about how much better his kid is than his classmates? Does he talk about how his son and his classmates could win state their senior year? Talk to parents of other kids he’s coached at the youth level. You could be getting yourself a good find like the first guy we hired.
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Post by coachbdud on Feb 13, 2018 22:48:35 GMT -6
I have a parent applying to coach on our staff. He has solid football background and has coached successfully at the youth level. He is not a teacher by profession and strongly desires to get involved in coaching high school football now that his youngest is coming to high school. Has anyone had any experience with this? Any advice on the matter? when i got to our school it was home of the daddy ball we had a lot it caused some ... issues those kids graduated and we weened them out and we have a few dad coaches but we made a policy of not letting them coach their own kids for example we have a great guy who coaches JV because his son and nephew are on our varsity team we had a frosh coach who had a son on varsity a JV coach with a brother on varsity if they are a good guy they should be allowed in the program but i think not having them on the same level as their kid is best... if you can't do that then avoid having them be the position coach of their kid
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Post by 44dlcoach on Feb 13, 2018 23:13:49 GMT -6
We've had some bad ones and actually had some great ones over the years. But I'll say that even the great ones weren't without some additional drama along the way caused by the family dynamics.
We had one where the kid was a 4.0 student, 3 year starter, unquestioned leader and best player for back to back years, 2 time state champion wrestler, got a D1 scholarship for FB, the whole deal. And his parents are two of the best people I know and his dad was a greatt coach and would still be if he had kept coaching. With all that said, even that situation caused some drama that wouldn't have existed if we didn't have the "dad coach" situation.
It got to the point that the HC instituted a no dads coaching their own kids policy. I think he made a couple exceptions to that rule over the years but I think they were all situations where the coach was in the program before the kid entered HS.
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Post by fkaboneyard on Feb 13, 2018 23:40:39 GMT -6
I've worked with other coaches that had kids on the team and I've been the coach with kid(s) on the team. It can be great or it can be awful. Set the ground rules with the guy before you pull the trigger.
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Post by mholst40 on Feb 13, 2018 23:55:03 GMT -6
I don’t like to make blanket rules because one dad is different than the other.
With that said, if I have a new Dad that wants to coach at the high school level, I typically do not allow him to coach at the same level as his son. Once I see him coach, I can make a more qualified decision down the road as to whether or not I think he’s a good fit at a different level.
We just had a parent who was also a Varsity Assistant. He’s been in the program over 7 years and started coaching before his two boys were in high school (which is also a preferred way of bringing a parent on). He coached on Varsity the last three seasons his oldest son was on Varsity. His son was the hardest working player we had and one of the hardest working kids I’ve ever had. And, he was a great player for us. So, sometimes it works out. But, Dad also didn’t coach his son’s position and He would let me know privately when he wanted to talk to me as a coach or parent. It worked in that situation.
And now, he’s going to be or Frosh Head Coach.
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Post by rosey65 on Feb 14, 2018 7:44:28 GMT -6
Do you need a coach in the role he'd be brought in to? Hire him. An assistant is an assistant. We've had a ton of bad assistants who didn't have kids in the program. We had a dad coach JV DL for a few years while his son, a QB/DB and current NE Patriot safety, dominated at the varsity level. He left when his son left. No issues, still a great friend to the program.
Does he want to coach so he can coach his son's position, and not where you need him? Go kick rocks......
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Post by cwaltsmith on Feb 14, 2018 9:13:07 GMT -6
I have had 2 dads coach for me as volunteers. They were both great. They both did things that were vital to the program. Only once did I have a hint of a problem, and it wasn't a problem. In a game, I got on his kid pretty hard (he was a great player and it didn't happen much), and he came over and started making an excuse. I simply looked at him and asked, "are you a coach or a parent right now?" he walked away and later apologized. Where I coach, staffing sometimes is hard to come by. If you can get a hard working loyal guy, dad or not grab him.
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Post by coachphillip on Feb 14, 2018 9:24:27 GMT -6
I'd probably bring up coaching a level and position other than his son's and gauge his response. If his thing is helping kids, it'll show. Last thing you need is a dad who's telling your QB at home what the offense, team, and program should REALLY look like. Been there, done that. No thanks, never again.
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Post by coachcb on Feb 14, 2018 9:27:35 GMT -6
My experienced has been mixed.
I coached with one father who was an incredible assistant. He knew his stuff, understood his role and remained neutral with his boy. And, he was a QB coach that worked directly with his son who turned out to be an All-State player for us. But, this guy had a ton of coaching experience at the high school level, had taken a few years off and wanted to get back into the game.
However, one of the worst coaching experiences I had was with a daddy-coach at the high school level. The guy had coaching experience at the high school level as well and it seemed like a good fit when we brought him on. It wasn't. He b-tched continually about his kid not playing varsity ball (he was a starter on the sophomore squad) and caused many headaches for us. He used to bring a cooler of Gatorade for his kid to games and practice and had a tantrum when we told him that he either provided enough for the whole team or stop doing it all together. One time, he disrupted an entire film session because one of his kid's Gatorades disappeared.
Unfortunately, my latter experience is enough for me to tell a parent that I don't want them coaching their kid.
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Post by spos21ram on Feb 14, 2018 13:37:57 GMT -6
We have had a couple parents on staff. Hasnt been an issue for us. It all depends on the fathers intentions.
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Post by jrk5150 on Feb 14, 2018 13:50:47 GMT -6
I would definitely poke around his youth coaching reputation. I wouldn't look at "success" per se, I'd look at what his reputation is. Most of us know who the Daddy ball guys are, and those kinds of coaches aren't going to change their stripes.
And by the way - if the parents all like him, that should be a pretty solid positive indicator. Many parents see daddy-ball even when it's not happening - so when they don't see it, I'd be inclined to believe it's a complete non-factor.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 14, 2018 14:10:21 GMT -6
If hes a good person, then give him a shot who knows,
Successful youth coach doesnt instantly translate to "good HS coach", but theres always room for good people somewhere
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Post by junior6589 on Feb 14, 2018 20:22:24 GMT -6
Not as a coach, but when I played my HC brought on two junior coaches to run the JV team. Basically, their kids were in the 7th and 8th grade and they were pretty much there not to coach - but to get view of what the program was like before deciding whether to send their kids to catholic schools.
Needless to say both kids went off to catholic school.
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Post by Old Pro on Feb 14, 2018 22:40:35 GMT -6
Just my experiences, but I wouldn't do it. Have had several volunteer to help. Only there when the kid played, then quit. Most had a VERY over inflated opinion of their coaching abilities. Some had limited football IQ. Two or three of them had their kids quit us once daddy was gone, so I question their influence on their own kids. The worst one caused so much dissension on the staff two teacher coaches quit and they were coordinators. The AD had to step in and eliminate most of the part timers. It eventually lead to the HC being forced to step down. So NO, I wouldn't hired them. They aren't worth your career.
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Post by coachd5085 on Feb 14, 2018 22:46:08 GMT -6
Just my experiences, but I wouldn't do it. Have had several volunteer to help. Only there when the kid played, then quit. Most had a VERY over inflated opinion of their coaching abilities. Some had limited football IQ. Two or three of them had their kids quit us once daddy was gone, so I question their influence on their own kids. The worst one caused so much dissension on the staff two teacher coaches quit and they were coordinators. The AD had to step in and eliminate most of the part timers. It eventually lead to the HC being forced to step down. So NO, I wouldn't hired them. They aren't worth your career. That sounds like a HC problem.
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Post by funkfriss on Feb 15, 2018 7:16:41 GMT -6
Do your interviews and see where he stacks up. If he’s the top candidate then hire him. If there’s a problem once he’s hired sit him down and talk with him. Communication and honesty are musts.
If it doesn’t work out, don’t have him back. But I think I’d hate to lose out on the possibility of a good assistant just because his kid plays.
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Post by coachd5085 on Feb 15, 2018 7:21:16 GMT -6
Do your interviews and see where he stacks up. If he’s the top candidate then hire him. If there’s a problem once he’s hired sit him down and talk with him. Communication and honesty are musts. If it doesn’t work out, don’t have him back. But I think I’d hate to lose out on the possibility of a good assistant just because his kid plays. I agree with this 100%. I am kind of surprised that none of the "NO NO DON'T DO IT..EVER" type posts seemed to ever consider the possibility of simply communicating if a problem arises, or shutting it down if necessary. I would suspect that if the guy was to become a problem, it would show up fairly quickly.
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Post by familyman56 on Feb 15, 2018 9:02:24 GMT -6
Do your interviews and see where he stacks up. If he’s the top candidate then hire him. If there’s a problem once he’s hired sit him down and talk with him. Communication and honesty are musts. If it doesn’t work out, don’t have him back. But I think I’d hate to lose out on the possibility of a good assistant just because his kid plays. I agree with this 100%. I am kind of surprised that none of the "NO NO DON'T DO IT..EVER" type posts seemed to ever consider the possibility of simply communicating if a problem arises, or shutting it down if necessary. I would suspect that if the guy was to become a problem, it would show up fairly quickly.
I second this...I was a youth coach two years ago and jumped to varsity last year. Don't discount a youth coach - he might be a capable guy that just spent his 20's & 30's building a career and family. Interview him and see where he stacks up - did he play in college, what's his background - does he have a professional job, is he intelligent, will he fit in with my staff, will he put in the work to improve as a coach? What is his motivation? - it should be to improve and help the overall program, which will in turn help his son, no matter where the kid plays, or if he plays at all.
And yes communicate...with words....the "I gave my asst coach a look from hell" doesn't always communicate effectively with white collar dudes - we work in offices in professional environments - we're not in a classroom all day shooting death stares at misbehaving kids.
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Post by pvogel on Feb 15, 2018 9:04:34 GMT -6
If you need a coach and hes good then sure. Give him a shot.
I would just have a policy about coaching the same position as your kid. Heck, put him on the other side of the ball.
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Post by coachscdub on Feb 15, 2018 16:07:34 GMT -6
Just from my own experience, it hasn't worked out well. We had one coach who was a pop warner coach (came in with some good recommendation) his second son was about to come in as a freshman and he wanted to help out. As soon as, and i mean literally as soon as his kid didn't start (5th or 6th game of the year) he blew up on the sideline. Telling our Frosh HC that he didn't know what he was doing, he started screaming through the HC's headset at me (the OC) asking if it was my idea. Eventually, we had to kick him off the sideline and ask that he didn't return. So needless to say it didnt work out well.
To the point of having him coach but not on the same level as his kid, i think it might work. We had a dad volunteer during his free time, he wasnt much of a football guy, he just wanted to learn more about what his kid was doing. I will say however i think he worked out better due to his personality.
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