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Post by coachd5085 on Feb 12, 2018 11:13:23 GMT -6
For all those saying switch positions, I have to ask why? The DAD in this case will be the HC of the program. I don't think that switching positions for appearances will have any result (because the dad is the HC). And if DAD/HC would have problems coaching the kid as a position coach, why do you think those same problems won't appear as a HC.
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Post by joker31 on Feb 12, 2018 11:36:23 GMT -6
I remember former Texas QB Colt McCoy saying that his father told him as he was getting ready for HS that he would have to be "2x better than anyone else at the position" just so there wouldn't be any favoritism.
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Post by wiscohscoach on Feb 12, 2018 11:40:08 GMT -6
Had my father as our head coach, best experience and wouldn't have trade it. Who gives a rip what other people think, it won't matter 5, 10, 20 years from now what Jimmy or Joe in the community thought of you.
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Post by coachvann on Feb 12, 2018 19:40:42 GMT -6
Had my father as our head coach, best experience and wouldn't have trade it. Who gives a rip what other people think, it won't matter 5, 10, 20 years from now what Jimmy or Joe in the community thought of you. Was he your position coach?
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Post by coachvann on Feb 12, 2018 20:06:51 GMT -6
I guess ultimately it's about me and my sons relationship. He is a perfectionist and wants my approval. I love coaching and those 2 things put together could be a disaster.
I know not to bring it home but I also know that's going to be tough. I also don't want to be the coach that makes it 3 times harder for him because that is what I'd probably what I'd be more likely to do.
We have already talked and he does instagram that there will be talk and that he has to prove himself more than the others.
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Post by wiscohscoach on Feb 12, 2018 20:30:34 GMT -6
Had my father as our head coach, best experience and wouldn't have trade it. Who gives a rip what other people think, it won't matter 5, 10, 20 years from now what Jimmy or Joe in the community thought of you. Was he your position coach? He was our head coach of a team that had 21 kids haha. Mind you we were playoffs every year and a regular T10 small school program in the state
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Post by hunhdisciple on Feb 12, 2018 20:32:23 GMT -6
I was reminded of this story after reading some of these responses.
This wasn't my high school, and I don't know any of the people involved. But, it's a good story about coaching your kid. And this is 100% true.
Dad was the HFC, son was the starting QB. Son was legitimately good. Local booster had a son who was shoved into a billion different QB camps, and thought that meant his son was a better QB by default. He wasn't. People started pressuring the HFC to start the other kid over his son, he didn't. Ended up in one of those "leave or be fired" situations, so he left. Took his son with him.
Was an asst. coach on a state finalist team. Boosters son ended up not doing anything after high school. HFC son did play in college. Started a few games, if I recall correctly.
At Auburn. That Auburn.
Don't let people deter you from coaching your kid if you want to, because most of the bystanders don't really know what's going on anyway.
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Post by conrad81 on Feb 12, 2018 21:22:27 GMT -6
You were a coach before you were a dad. That said - your biggest job in life is being a dad. I was the son of a coach - it was hard, but I wouldn't trade it for the world. I later had my dad join my staff in a particular capacity. Even more enjoyable!
Bottom-line - enjoy the experience. Separate dad/son relationship to coach/player on the field. Have him call you, Coach - except outside of football. It will gain respect and dispel any naysayers to an extent. No matter what, tell him you love him - always!
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Post by conrad81 on Feb 12, 2018 21:22:52 GMT -6
Good luck!
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Post by fkaboneyard on Feb 12, 2018 22:43:21 GMT -6
With my older son I had a difficult time separating football from home. It took me a little while but I eventually learned. But man, I cringe when I think back at the way I rode him at home sometimes. He was a helluva football player but he had to be far better than anybody else. I wish I hadn't done that, I really regret it. I always hated Daddy-ball and I vowed to not take part in it. If I could go back in time I'd tell myself, "There's always going to be parents that accuse you of playing favorites with your own kid, screw them if it's not true."
If you will do the best job coaching him, coach him. If not, hand it off to somebody else but stay on the ride with him.
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Post by coachscdub on Feb 13, 2018 1:38:28 GMT -6
I always loved when my dad was involved with my sports, he was never the head coach but he was able to move around and help out where ever needed. And personally, i look back on those memories as some of the best (note that this was baseball, not football). Additionally, i played for coaches who thought their kid was the greatest player to ever grace the field. And as a result, they favored them over other players. And again personally those were some of the worst memories of sports. So to your question, i would say this, if you can be unbiased and TRULY give every other player a fair shot at whatever position your son plays then do it, coach him up and enjoy the unique experience. However, if there is a thought in your mind that you might be biased than i would say switch it up and move to another position group.
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Post by KYCoach2331 on Feb 13, 2018 5:45:30 GMT -6
For all those saying switch positions, I have to ask why? The DAD in this case will be the HC of the program. I don't think that switching positions for appearances will have any result (because the dad is the HC). And if DAD/HC would have problems coaching the kid as a position coach, why do you think those same problems won't appear as a HC. The reason I think is because of how it can impact their relationship. Which it doesn’t have to be that way but I can understand worrying about it.
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