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Post by coachcb on May 11, 2006 8:49:11 GMT -6
With the incredible problems we have been having with parents, I have come up with a disclaimer that I will have the parents fill out along with their spectator conduct form. It goes a little something like this-
I (parents printed name) understand that any potential conflict between my child (childs printed name) will only be dealt with if the athlete first discusses the problem his/her position coach and or the head coach. If the problem fails to be rectified, I (parents name) understand that a meeting with the athlete, myself, the position coach, and the head coach will be established.
Parents Signature and date-
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Post by coachcalande on May 11, 2006 10:14:50 GMT -6
someone told me that their policy clearly states that a player must talk to the coach and that meeting must be followed up with a player/parent and coach meeting...prevent the ol "he said" "she said" stuff. get everyone there.
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Post by airman on May 11, 2006 17:37:23 GMT -6
why not do what a good friend of mine does. he goes to a lawyer, has the lawyer develop a loophole free guidelines for being on the team and a contract.
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Post by coachcb on May 11, 2006 18:40:40 GMT -6
Thats a good call.
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Post by bulldog on May 12, 2006 1:48:32 GMT -6
This is what we publish to our parents:
Parent and Coaches Expectations
Parenting and coaching are both challenging and rewarding responsibilities. As a coaching staff, we feel that clear expectations for both coaches and parents are essential in order to create the best environment for all concerned. The following material will provide guidelines for parents as well as information on our program's purpose and philosophy.
Our Purpose
The purpose of our football program is to provide our student-athletes with a positive experience through their four years at Our High School. We will strive to fulfill our student-athletes' potential on the field and guide them toward becoming better people off the field. Throughout their four-year journey we will lead, teach, inspire and encourage our players to be the best of which they are capable of becoming. Our coaching staff will be the embodiment of professionalism and caring. We will always remember that when our athletes have left Folsom, we have either had a positive or negative impact on their lives. After they have graduated, our players will not remember how many games that they have won or lost. However, the quality of their experience and the effect that we have had on them, will forever be etched on their lives.
Our Coaching Philosophy
Be Organized and prepared
Be a teacher of the game
Be a student of the game
Be positive and enthusiastic
Emphasize attention to detail
Care about your players
Lead them to become better people
Be a man of integrity
Focus on what you can control
Enjoy the journey
What you can expect from our Coaching Staff
To protect your child from any physical or emotional harm
To treat your child with dignity and respect
To prepare your child for the football season
To do what is best for the team
What we expect from our Parents
Notification of any scheduling conflicts well in advance
To direct any concerns regarding the football program directly to the head coach
To set up an appointment with the head coach if you have a concern. Confronting a coach before or after a practice or a game can lead to conflict
Appropriate concerns to discuss with the Head Coach
The treatment of your child physically and mentally
Ways to help your child improve
Concerns about your child's behavior
Inappropriate concerns to discuss with the Head Coach
Team Strategy
Play calling
Playing time
Other student athletes
We have used this policy for 5 years and have had a few parents challenge the HC. But, he has remained calm when confronted, has been backed by the admin, and all problems have quickly died.
I really think consistency and firmness in sticking to your policy is the key. And remember that many parents will degenerate into emotional aggressors when they feel their child is getting a raw deal. If you want to have them sign the paper, then it might be as an acknowledgement of receiving the document, not necessarily agreeing to it. If any of your parents are lawyers and you try to get them to sign a legal document . . . this would be called a 'contract of adhesion' - and since the nature of a contract is a mutual agreement and you are not willing to 'negotiate' . . . also, you can't really establish consequences for the parent's behavior. So, it might be appropriate for you to have the admin on-board with your policy since it may be only a matter of time until a parent tries to go over your head. That way, they won't even let the parent whine at them until the parent has taken the initial steps. You might just change the conflict resolution section above to reflect your policy. Good luck Coach.
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Post by cqmiller on May 12, 2006 6:41:48 GMT -6
It's nice to have the administration back you. I've been an assistant on a team where the administration just caves in to the parents every time. Makes for a VERY LONG SEASON, when parents have more say in your program than you do.
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Post by coachcb on May 12, 2006 7:48:38 GMT -6
I understand what you're talking about with the administration- we have a new AD who caters to every b*tch the parents can come up with. Everyting from playing time to positions to schemes are free game with the parents. I'm only an assistant- but I've used something like the disclaimer above with middle school football. I had success with it; it kept half of the parents from complaining and those that did choose to play 3rd-party realized very quickly that I wasn't going to listen. Each time they complained I'd respond by simply reminding them that little Johnny Jr hadn't talked to me and thus I wasn't going to deal with them. I kept a wide-open-door policy, treated the kids well, and developed and excellent relationship with the players.
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