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Post by nltdiego on Oct 31, 2016 0:12:33 GMT -6
What would you do if a kid missed a week of practice and a game for a baseball tournament not associated with school?
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Post by **** on Oct 31, 2016 7:03:33 GMT -6
Kick him off the team. Phuk him.
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Post by blb on Oct 31, 2016 7:11:14 GMT -6
I would dismiss him but be ready for some blowback.
At first team meeting we tell kids Football can be no lower than #4 priority during the season (behind Faith, Family, and School) and that we don't want them doing open gyms, Wrestling workouts, Fall Baseball any more than their other coaches would want us doing 7-on-7s, individual drills, etc. during their seasons.
"No man can serve two masters."
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Post by rosey65 on Oct 31, 2016 8:44:40 GMT -6
Miss a practice, sit a quarter. Miss 2, miss a half. Miss a week, he doesnt play.
If he isnt a cancer, keep him. Anything he brings in with fundraising is still money, and you'll need bag holders at practice for when he is there!!
We had a DE miss a game for an AAU bball tourney a few states away. We knew it was going to happen, he played scout team RB all week.
We as football coaches preach about the benefits of multi-sport athletes, but we dont want kids to miss our stuff. There's some give and take, as long as the kid and his parents are working with you, there isn't a problem.
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Post by blb on Oct 31, 2016 8:55:19 GMT -6
We as football coaches preach about the benefits of multi-sport athletes, but we dont want kids to miss our stuff.
Missing a Summer workout for an AAU game or tourney is one thing.
Missing something In-Season - especially a game - is much different.
I'm all for kids being Multi-Sport athletes - when the school sports are In-Season.
How do you suppose the Basketball or Baseball coach would react if a player was going to miss a game for a 7-on-7 tournament, Power Lifting meet, Combine, etc.?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2016 9:20:45 GMT -6
Exactly as above...if you miss off-season for another sport, just make sure you communicate with us. But if you miss in-season for another sport, be prepared for the consequences.
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Post by rosey65 on Oct 31, 2016 10:06:49 GMT -6
We as football coaches preach about the benefits of multi-sport athletes, but we dont want kids to miss our stuff.
Missing a Summer workout for an AAU game or tourney is one thing.
Missing something In-Season - especially a game - is much different.
I'm all for kids being Multi-Sport athletes - when the school sports are In-Season.
How do you suppose the Basketball or Baseball coach would react if a player was going to miss a game for a 7-on-7 tournament, Power Lifting meet, Combine, etc.?
I get it, games need to be the priority...but for the kid, which game? He has 2 games, and they are of equal importance to him. He's not missing my game for his practice. He is vested in a local AAU team. They had a scheduled tournament, airfare and all, that had been set up. Again, in this situation, he told us ahead of time. He got zero reps that week. It took him 2 weeks to crack the starting lineup again, as his backup played well. Our entire team knows the name Wally Pipp. They are all aware of what missed reps can do. If it was to be a constant thing, he would not be a starter. But it isn't a regular issue. We preach responsibility to our kids, and he acted on that responsibility.
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Post by spos21ram on Oct 31, 2016 10:08:27 GMT -6
Missing a Summer workout for an AAU game or tourney is one thing.
Missing something In-Season - especially a game - is much different.
I'm all for kids being Multi-Sport athletes - when the school sports are In-Season.
How do you suppose the Basketball or Baseball coach would react if a player was going to miss a game for a 7-on-7 tournament, Power Lifting meet, Combine, etc.?
I get it, games need to be the priority...but for the kid, which game? He has 2 games, and they are of equal importance to him. He's not missing my game for his practice. He is vested in a local AAU team. They had a scheduled tournament, airfare and all, that had been set up. Again, in this situation, he told us ahead of time. He got zero reps that week. It took him 2 weeks to crack the starting lineup again, as his backup played well. Our entire team knows the name Wally Pipp. They are all aware of what missed reps can do. If it was to be a constant thing, he would not be a starter. But it isn't a regular issue. We preach responsibility to our kids, and he acted on that responsibility. He isnt just playing 1 AAU tournament in the fall. He obviously is playing throughout the entire fall season on the weekends. The kid needs to choose one or the other.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2016 10:19:05 GMT -6
First, I always make sure that I have the facts - was the kid actually at a baseball thing or was he out of town on a family emergency? Or did one of my assistants brainfart and tell him it was okay? Did he know what the rules are? If it's exactly as you think - he chose baseball or football - turn in your gear, you're gone. I get the whole "His money spends just fine, who cares if he misses a week" philosophy but having that attitude ensures that you'll have other kids pull stupid crap in the future and expect to get away with it.
I encourage my kids to play other sports as long as they're on our lifting program in the offseason. I wouldn't dream of telling one of mine that he should miss a regular season baseball game or basketball game to attend a 7 on 7 or something similar and I'd expect his coaches to be really pissed at me if I did. We've got a young guy in charge of our baseball program that ran hardcore summer baseball practices and had scrimmages twice a week. He expected football players that are baseball players to be there and made their lives hell if they missed. The net result of that behavior is that he literally is not going to have enough kids to field both a JV and varsity baseball team this year. Some coaches forget we all swim in the same water...
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Post by blb on Oct 31, 2016 10:30:04 GMT -6
I didn't want to have to play detective to find out who was telling me the truth about why they were missing a practice or game.
And I sure didn't want to decide whose excuse - AAU, job, family vacation, whatever - was valid and whose wasn't. What a quagmire that could be.
You want to play Football in our program - don't miss, don't be late.
I can't imagine a kid who sincerely cares about the sport and his teammates missing a GAME.
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Post by rosey65 on Oct 31, 2016 10:48:09 GMT -6
I get it, games need to be the priority...but for the kid, which game? He has 2 games, and they are of equal importance to him. He's not missing my game for his practice. He is vested in a local AAU team. They had a scheduled tournament, airfare and all, that had been set up. Again, in this situation, he told us ahead of time. He got zero reps that week. It took him 2 weeks to crack the starting lineup again, as his backup played well. Our entire team knows the name Wally Pipp. They are all aware of what missed reps can do. If it was to be a constant thing, he would not be a starter. But it isn't a regular issue. We preach responsibility to our kids, and he acted on that responsibility. He isnt just playing 1 AAU tournament in the fall. He obviously is playing throughout the entire fall season on the weekends. The kid needs to choose one or the other. He plays in tournaments every weekend. This particular one was in, lets say, Connecticut (we're in FL.) They had to fly out Friday morning. He mised the game. Someone on here has a quote about "hard and fast rules are for those who cant make decision" at the bottom of their posts. This is one of those. It helped that he played DE, a position that gets a lot of rotation throughout a game. Starting QB would be different...but again, this wasnt that. And we benched our starting QB (and WR, and FB, and TB) for the 1st quarter of the season opener for being late to thursday walk-thru.
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Post by tothehouse on Oct 31, 2016 10:59:40 GMT -6
For some reason our HC let our kicker go to a soccer something and he missed a game. The other "kicker only" kid...missed a 30 yarder that would have sealed the game for us. We lost in OT.
It doesn't sit well with me. If I, myself, commit to something...nothing else gets in the way. The kicker missing the game...and the game came down to a kick...that another kid missed. That bothers me.
I would say...if it's going to affect a Friday night...you gotta pick one.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2016 11:17:33 GMT -6
What would you do if a kid missed a week of practice and a game for a baseball tournament not associated with school? Personally Nothing, as long as you 1st advise him, he just re-joins the team at the bottom of the roster, and is removed from all serious consideration as a player at this juncture. Talk to him and find out his reasoning, there may be other forces at play I always try to keep in mind that they're kids, kids do dumb $hit sometimes I wouldn't enforce the hardline unless hes a problem kid If he wants to come to practices and not play and just hold bags....then that's his choice, that will often play out in 1 of 2 ways 1) He eventually quits because he isn't playing 2) He shows up every day and can help holding bags etc... Remember by keeping him on the team you may changing his life
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Post by jrk5150 on Oct 31, 2016 11:19:32 GMT -6
For some reason our HC let our kicker go to a soccer something and he missed a game. The other "kicker only" kid...missed a 30 yarder that would have sealed the game for us. We lost in OT. It doesn't sit well with me. If I, myself, commit to something...nothing else gets in the way. The kicker missing the game...and the game came down to a kick...that another kid missed. That bothers me. I would say...if it's going to affect a Friday night...you gotta pick one. Playing Devil's Advocate - So your kicker picks soccer, you only have your second kicker, he misses, you lose anyway. Except now your best kicker isn't available next week either because you made him choose...and you lose that one too. I know the answer for some of you, you'd rather lose with committed kids than etc. and so forth... The kid was up front that you were at best equal to perhaps second in his priorities. I would assume when he's there he's fully committed. Your choice is whether to accept a kid who is mostly there and fully committed while there, or not have him at all. It's an interesting conversation. Does/should it matter if the kid is a prospect in the other sport, where he might get a scholarship in the other sport? If the kid is a potential football recruit, and misses a baseball game/track meet for a combine or a college camp or something that might mean his ticket to free college, does that change anyone's mind?
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Post by carookie on Oct 31, 2016 11:34:14 GMT -6
Had a similar situation several years back; kid was our stud all state wr, but baseball was his love and he was just as good at it.
We made concessions in the summer (allowed to miss a number of passing leagues and workouts for AAU related things), but he also made the minimum number of workouts anyways. Moreover, we communicated before the season what our schedule was, and what was mandatory for him to attend.
Communicate with all players and parents before the season what they are mandated to be at; if there is a conflict then you can decide prior to the season. Based on the limited amount of info I have, I wouldve said 'no' to allowing the kid in your situation to be gone, and told him prior to the season that he cannot be a part of our team and miss a full week for that reason. Unless there are additional factors not presented this just seems to be opening up a pandora's box of sort.
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Post by dytmook on Oct 31, 2016 11:37:55 GMT -6
Pretty sure here if you participate in non sanctioned sports during a season it makes you ineligible. Maybe it's just if it's the same sport, but I'm not super familiar with the rule.
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Post by jrk5150 on Oct 31, 2016 11:38:56 GMT -6
Unless there are additional factors not presented this just seems to be opening up a pandora's box of sort. I have to admit, I am usually a guy who dismisses concerns about setting precedent, and always look to take situations on a case by case basis. In THIS case, though, you are potentially right. This isn't a kid missing a week in August for a blue chip basketball camp or an AAU baseball tournament. This is a game. And you may in fact have another kid/other kids who see that and want to double dip sports. Heck of a dilemma.
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Post by rosey65 on Oct 31, 2016 11:41:39 GMT -6
For some reason our HC let our kicker go to a soccer something and he missed a game. The other "kicker only" kid...missed a 30 yarder that would have sealed the game for us. We lost in OT. It doesn't sit well with me. If I, myself, commit to something...nothing else gets in the way. The kicker missing the game...and the game came down to a kick...that another kid missed. That bothers me. I would say...if it's going to affect a Friday night...you gotta pick one. Playing Devil's Advocate - So your kicker picks soccer, you only have your second kicker, he misses, you lose anyway. Except now your best kicker isn't available next week either because you made him choose...and you lose that one too. I know the answer for some of you, you'd rather lose with committed kids than etc. and so forth... The kid was up front that you were at best equal to perhaps second in his priorities. I would assume when he's there he's fully committed. Your choice is whether to accept a kid who is mostly there and fully committed while there, or not have him at all. It's an interesting conversation. Does/should it matter if the kid is a prospect in the other sport, where he might get a scholarship in the other sport? If the kid is a potential football recruit, and misses a baseball game/track meet for a combine or a college camp or something that might mean his ticket to free college, does that change anyone's mind? I'm with you. We want kids to be committed to US. We preach commitment, but we often only mean FOOTBALL. This is still a learning process for me, this has been something I've been learning and dealing with the past few years. To some of you, especially the non-teachers, if your job changed, would you stop coaching? Your outside job, in mid-October, says "job or football," what do you do? Luckily, you are in positions that allow you to work with both. Or, what about adjusting the practice schedule to accommodate a coach who cant be there til a certain time? Do you lift weights before practice so your DC can make it from work to the field for practice? I get it, and I see both sides here. Ive kicked my own position players off the team for this kind of stuff. All of us, coaches and players, have other lives, and things that are more important than football, whether we want to openly admit it or not. Each of us are in different regions of the country, with different mindsets, and with different problems. BUT, a kid wanting to better himself, while communicating and working with those around him who are negatively affected, is exactly what we preach in our own programs!
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Post by chi5hi on Oct 31, 2016 12:13:31 GMT -6
Since I'm all-in as your coach...I expect you to be all-in as a player.
Things such as tutoring, dental/doctor appointments, or a family emergency are absolutely excused, but activities other than your commitment to the team are not.
Parents will schedule their child's orthodontics appointments so as not to interfere with the classroom...and rightfully so. I understand that and therefore, such matters are excused.
Part of a well rounded education are matters of learning your own time management, and since living in the real world of business and industry require dedication to a team effort, it can begin here...on the team. And finally...honoring your promises.
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Post by jrk5150 on Oct 31, 2016 12:28:46 GMT -6
since living in the real world of business and industry require dedication to a team effort, it can begin here...on the team. And finally...honoring your promises. Actually, in the real world of business you see alternative work arrangements all the time - flexible schedules, working from home, part time, etc. Mostly because we've had to learn that all that really matters is results. Within certain limits, the where and how the work gets done is irrelevant. Of course, defining those "certain limits" is quite the challenge, which is what we're doing here... And if the kid is up front about his circumstances, how is that not honoring a promise? Honestly, in your shoes, I don't know what I'd do. Coaching youth, we bend all the time because kids always are playing multiple in-season sports. We don't force a decision because the kid isn't necessarily in a place to make one - I'd hate to force a kid to choose and have him choose wrong, so to speak. As long as everything is well communicated and the parents are working with us, we work with them. It's not uncommon for a kid to miss one of three practices a week for another sport. Sometimes that impacts what position a kid will play, or even how much he'll play, but not always. I can make arguments both ways. What I will challenge is that blanket mentality of "full commitment or no commitment", because that isn't the way life actually works anymore, it's lazy decision making, and it's not necessarily in the best interests of the most important party to this, and that's the kid(s), not the coach(es). Of course, you could think it through, look to bend this way and that way, and yet end up at the same decision of "no", LOL. That's life too.
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Post by coachcb on Oct 31, 2016 12:29:33 GMT -6
He's gone and there would be an email sent out to the AD, the principal, the HC of the baseball team and the parents explaining EXACTLY why he's gone. I would probably even offer up a meeting between everyone so that they could see just how serious I was about this kind of crap.
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Post by chi5hi on Oct 31, 2016 12:34:40 GMT -6
since living in the real world of business and industry require dedication to a team effort, it can begin here...on the team. And finally...honoring your promises. Actually, in the real world of business you see alternative work arrangements all the time - flexible schedules, working from home, part time, etc. Mostly because we've had to learn that all that really matters is results. Within certain limits, the where and how the work gets done is irrelevant. Of course, defining those "certain limits" is quite the challenge, which is what we're doing here... And if the kid is up front about his circumstances, how is that not honoring a promise? Honestly, in your shoes, I don't know what I'd do. Coaching youth, we bend all the time because kids always are playing multiple in-season sports. We don't force a decision because the kid isn't necessarily in a place to make one - I'd hate to force a kid to choose and have him choose wrong, so to speak. As long as everything is well communicated and the parents are working with us, we work with them. It's not uncommon for a kid to miss one of three practices a week for another sport. Sometimes that impacts what position a kid will play, or even how much he'll play, but not always. I can make arguments both ways. What I will challenge is that blanket mentality of "full commitment or no commitment", because that isn't the way life actually works anymore, it's lazy decision making, and it's not necessarily in the best interests of the most important party to this, and that's the kid(s), not the coach(es). Of course, you could think it through, look to bend this way and that way, and yet end up at the same decision of "no", LOL. That's life too. In the real world of business and industry the team effort is to complete the project...not look for alternative work schedules. Approaching age 70...I've never learned to be PC. I just get the job done, and try to instill that in my players.
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Post by tothehouse on Oct 31, 2016 12:52:35 GMT -6
I'm not the HC...but if I were...the "kicker" would have only kicked soccer balls. He wouldn't have gotten to do both. So we wouldn't have had the issue. He would have picked soccer and therefore I wouldn't be pissed that he wasn't there.
I would say to these kinds of kids..."don't put ME/US in a bind because of your situation". It's a team sport. Not "Johnny gets to run off wherever he wants to...anytime he wants to". Because now I have to answer to everyone else about other commitments.
If the kid is such a damn good baseball player...the scholy or chance to get drafted will still be there. He doesn't need to go to a "showcase" in October. He'll still hit bombs in the spring. That isn't going to disappear because he misses a day of standing around a cage in October.
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Post by jrk5150 on Oct 31, 2016 13:43:30 GMT -6
In the real world of business and industry the team effort is to complete the project...not look for alternative work schedules. Approaching age 70...I've never learned to be PC. I just get the job done, and try to instill that in my players. Right - complete the project. But the reality is that you complete the project with team members that all have varying needs and abilities. And when one tells you "I can't be here on Tuesdays because I have X going on", you need to look at the PROJECT and decide whether that team member, who is available on M-W-Th-F, is still the best person for the job. Because if they are, but you make a decision based on perceived commitment and move them off the project and it impacts the results, you just might have cost yourself your job. And bluntly, sitting at home saying "yeah, but I stuck to my principles and went with people who were committed" ain't putting food on the table. In the "real business world", this stuff is hot and heavy right now. We're struggling with this every single day - how do we balance the needs of the team, the organization, and the individual. Oh, yeah, and we have this pesky little other thing - paying clients we have to service. Which puts even more pressure on the decisions we make. Although perhaps the parents are pretty close to the same thing, LOL. Sure, this is easy on the extreme margins. Comments like "Johnny gets to run off wherever he wants to...anytime he wants to" isn't really on point. Johnny isn't running off wherever he wants to. Johnny approached you with an arrangement that has structure and commitment, defined accountability built in, and that possibly benefits you (a productive player who can help you win) and him. It's just not the structure you're accustomed to. So is your comfort what's important? Or is having your best kicker available for the most kicks to win games? That said, "Because now I have to answer to everyone else about other commitments." is very much on point. Yup, that's the problem, isn't it? How do you treat people differently but still be fair to all? My only real exception is to the comment - "If the kid is such a damn good baseball player...the scholy or chance to get drafted will still be there. He doesn't need to go to a "showcase" in October. He'll still hit bombs in the spring. That isn't going to disappear because he misses a day of standing around a cage in October." - are you SURE about that? Are you willing to risk a kid's future with that opinion? Is that even your job to decide as a youth educator? It IS your job certainly to decide whether to let him on the team, but is it your job to make that kind of judgement about it? I'll back off now - this is a complicated issue. It hits pretty close to home for me because I have this going on every day, and it's the exact same arguments. How committed are they? How can I let X do that and still be fair to Y? If I let Z happen, does everyone then get to do that? Are we better off with a full time butt in the seat of a lesser employee over a part time butt in the seat of a more talented employee? I don't pretend to have the answers, either. And realistically, I'm probably over-complicating this when it comes to HS sports. This isn't real world business, kids need to learn certain things, and perhaps in the long run it's better to take a hard line and teach them now. I don't know.
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Post by lochness on Oct 31, 2016 20:14:29 GMT -6
Our state athletic association makes this very easy. Our rules say if you miss a school sport for a non-school sport, you are ineligible for 2 games as a result. I make sure everyone knows that every year.
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Post by fantom on Oct 31, 2016 20:28:27 GMT -6
What would you do if a kid missed a week of practice and a game for a baseball tournament not associated with school? I've never been in this situation but I heard of a case. The kid was a great athlete-230 pounder who could run- and primarily a baseball kid, a legitimate prospect. Before the football season he told the football coach that he'd play football under the condition that he could attend a wooden bat showcase that would force him to miss a game. It wasn't an ultimatum. He wanted to play football but knew where his future was. The coach's choice was have him fore nine games plus playoffs or not at all (He was named all-state in football). It was all up front so why not?
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Post by rosey65 on Nov 1, 2016 5:57:07 GMT -6
Since I'm all-in as your coach...I expect you to be all-in as a player. Things such as tutoring, dental/doctor appointments, or a family emergency are absolutely excused, but activities other than your commitment to the team are not. Parents will schedule their child's orthodontics appointments so as not to interfere with the classroom...and rightfully so. I understand that and therefore, such matters are excused. Part of a well rounded education are matters of learning your own time management, and since living in the real world of business and industry require dedication to a team effort, it can begin here...on the team. And finally...honoring your promises. I beg to differ here. A doctor's appointment in the middle of practice is not "commitment." That is convenience. When we ask kids to be committed, it's important that we think about to WHAT or WHOM we want the commitment? Do we want commitment to the team? Or do we want commitment to US? A kid planning out a schedule for when his 2 commitments overlap, determining a plan to deal with the overlap, and communicating that plan to all parties involved is the time management you are asking for. Sometimes, we end up on the back end of that commitment. No one likes to be the side chick, but sometimes we need to be content with just being a booty call. Everyone has different levels of where they are willing to go with sharing. If you dont want a freakish athlete or a great kicker because he is going to miss a game for a tournament, then I'll gladly take him here!! And really, how often does this situation arise??? We are all talking about "this one time" or "I heard about when" when we had a kid miss.
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Post by blb on Nov 1, 2016 7:11:19 GMT -6
You only get so many at-bats as a HS Football player.
In our state we play nine regular season games. Less than half the teams qualify for playoffs.
Basketball teams play 20 games and everybody gets into tournament. Baseball can schedule up to 36 regular season games and again everybody gets into post-season.
So in those two sports kids will play more games in one year than they will in two years of Varsity Football.
That doesn't include all the Summer league games they can play in both.
Again I can't imagine someone who genuinely cares about the sport and his teammates consciously deciding to give up an opportunity to play on Friday night.
The other thing is this. In our state Football season is only eleven weeks long, not including playoffs. We cannot make anything Off-Season mandatory. When you add in the Summer kids can play Basketball and-or Baseball twice that long or more.
So when official practice starts I don't think it's unreasonable to be selfish about kid's devotion to the team and Football.
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Post by rayole on Nov 1, 2016 18:34:48 GMT -6
Interesting to see what is going to happen in Minnesota in a few weeks. Football coaches association has a deal they can''t turn down. All-star game is being played the week after state championships (Dec. 3) in Vikings new stadium. Going to be some basketball, hockey and wrestling coaches not real happy.
Players selected will report for practice Wednesday November 30. Think hockey players could miss up to 2 games if selected to the football all-star game. Not sure if basketball or wrestling will miss games/matches but early season practices for sure.
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Post by dytmook on Nov 1, 2016 19:20:54 GMT -6
Unless it is for an illness of self or family I can't see accepting it in any manner.
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