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Post by coachwoodall on Jan 22, 2015 21:34:54 GMT -6
coach newt, even though i can't access the like button on this goat fornicating school filter, you're spot on. I will always have those types of favorites.
The biggest gripe I have with this question is that the 2 are not mutually exclusive. There will those that kids like, but think they're a joke. There will be those that they like, but think they're too hard/tough. There will those that they think are arse holes and they hate. And there will be those that they think are arse hole and they think are just arse holes; unless for some reason they are drawn to like arse holes.
It's been a leadership question for the ages. Machiavelli posed this question in the 16th century; is it better to feared or loved? Just be yourself, but don't be the stereotypical raving lunatic coach speak yelling moron. Just make bust your arse to make your kids better and tell/show them you're doing it NOT for you but for them.
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Post by mhs99 on Jan 22, 2015 23:04:20 GMT -6
Let me put it like this: they don't have to like you, but they can't hate you. I've seen some good coaches who take the stance "I don't care if they like me"....and seem to push they persona until their kids have a hatred toward their HC and then Rome goes down in flames.
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Post by coachphillip on Jan 23, 2015 0:49:23 GMT -6
Exactly. They aren't mutually exclusive. That's why I don't like the question. I know a lot of guys who would be amazing coaches if they would just be themselves. So many guys who are brilliant in the classroom decide to become DBs on the practice field.
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Post by IronmanFootball on Jan 23, 2015 7:40:03 GMT -6
Exactly. They aren't mutually exclusive. That's why I don't like the question. I know a lot of guys who would be amazing coaches if they would just be themselves. So many guys who are brilliant in the classroom decide to become DBs on the practice field. Be yourself, but be a professional "work time" self.
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Post by jlenwood on Jan 25, 2015 11:56:11 GMT -6
I know of coaches who's sole purpose it seems is to stroke their own ego or relive their HS experience, and I am sure everybody knows one of those guys. It has been said a million times, kids are great BS detectors, so if this guy is your HC or on the coaching staff I guarantee he is not liked OR respected by the players.
I always let my players know the first day of camp, you commit to me and I'll commit to you. Everyone who has played for me in the past knows that I am a "players coach" type, but when I loose my cool the switch from good guy to "a$$hole coach" is instantaneous. It usually only takes one or two times a year, but I will flat explode on someone at some time. I'm a pretty big dude and have been told by players and coaches this is a pretty scary scene. It's not for show, it is just a thing for me if a kid talks back/ignores me, I come unglued. After that instance happens, they get the message and we are good from there on out. When I have had that happen, I don't continue to beat the kid down. Instead I make a point to pull him aside after practice and let him know what made me do that.
Kids know that I am only coaching to make them better, and some times it takes a little more enthusiasm to make that work. However, they also know that I will have their back no matter what, that's where the commitment to me thing comes into play. I will defend my players with the other coaches, referees or administration or whoever, I will have the kids back.
So if you can get the kid when he is a freshman to get on board with this type philosophy, not only will he respect you, but yes he will like you as well, and on top of that they will work their butt off for you as well. This is how you build a relationship with a kid that will last after they graduate also, at least it has worked for me.
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