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Post by JVD on Oct 26, 2014 6:23:09 GMT -6
Hey fella's,
I have been on Huey for a few years now and know I will get some advice (good...bad...sarcastic...all of it!).
Long story short: When I got back from Afghanistan (deployed as a Company Commander with the National Guard), my wife decided she didn't want to be my wife anymore. Oh...Jody. #$%! Jody. Jody was about 3 inches from having his face smashed in and I was about 3 inches from going to prison....ANYWAYS...
My little fella just turned 4 in September. His mom and I split the time: I have MON-TUE, she has WED-THUR, and we split FRI-SAT-SUN.
I think I have held my own with the daycare thing. Most days I would have to leave work a touch early (Still working for the Army..LONG story..but I'm close to home), pick him up from one day-care and bring him to another for practice. Usually friends.
For home games my parents (live 90 min. away) love football, me, and their grandson, so they came up for our home games and watched him. They even took him to a few away games. For away games I had to find a sitter.
He will be in Kindergarten next year, so that might help....I really don't know.
Looking for some advice, tips, tricks, whatever... I am the assistant head varsity coach at a class C school in Michigan (239 enrollment; 9-12)
Thanks guys, John
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Post by brophy on Oct 26, 2014 9:45:45 GMT -6
its just a game....it can wait a season or two
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Post by freezeoption on Oct 26, 2014 9:56:08 GMT -6
kindergarten may help but during the day, they may have a after school program that will help, i am not a single dad, just make sure you watch out for him, i have 7 kids, six adopted, i have coached straight except for one year off since 1990, i think i have missed out on a lot, you have since you were in the military, you cant get back those years, but football will always be there
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Post by kmiller716 on Oct 26, 2014 10:09:54 GMT -6
I am not in the same situation but I am working on training my 7 year old girl this year to learn the ropes as water girl. My thoughts are that I can save a bunch of money not having to pay for after school or summer care since she can be with me while i am at football. My goal is that next year she can be full time. I am lucky that we live in our school cluster and that her elementary school will drop off teacher's kids at the high school. But even if you have after school and then on games he can be a ball/water boy you are good to go. We have a great trainer and she loves my daughter and i threatened year punishment of bedroom lockdown if she acted up, so she has been awesome. Just a thought and I hope everything works out. Obviously, depending on his maturity you may need a couple years, but at least you do mot have to give up the profession for good, but figure it out for the next couple and go from there!
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Post by wingtol on Oct 26, 2014 10:52:55 GMT -6
Just remember as I once heard a wise coach say "Your players and other coaches aren't going to be the ones who decide what nursing home you end up in some day."
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Post by spos21ram on Oct 26, 2014 11:31:23 GMT -6
He's a little young right now, but when he's 5 or 6 he can just go with you to practice and the games. One of our coaches brings his 5 year old grandson all the time. It's not a hassle at all with him around.
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Post by utchuckd on Oct 26, 2014 11:37:47 GMT -6
Does his training include earmuffs?
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Post by spos21ram on Oct 26, 2014 12:25:28 GMT -6
Does his training include earmuffs? No one swears on our staff in team settings so it's not an issue with us. Our HC doesn't swear so no one else does. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G900A using proboards
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Post by JVD on Oct 26, 2014 19:25:55 GMT -6
Thanks guys. Maybe just a little venting. James and I are very very good. No worries about me being gone too much or any of that.
I like the, "Train him up as a water boy" idea.
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Post by newhope on Oct 27, 2014 8:00:11 GMT -6
Train him up as a waterboy is fine, just don't be bringing him into the coaches office on a regular basis or letting him hang out there. That won't fly with the rest of the staff. Remember, it's a workplace.
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Post by coachseven on Oct 28, 2014 9:32:34 GMT -6
Coach my wife passed away suddenly several years ago I had 8th / 5th / 3rd / 1st grade daughters. I was an OC at a big 6A school. I had no one to watch my kids and couldn't afford a sitter, so they HAD to come with me to work. I continued to coach and eventually took a head coaching job, all the while raising my daughters by myself. It hasn't been easy to say the least but it can be done. I just kept them involved in everything I did, they have just had to learn to love football, I know them and me have enjoyed all the time we spend together. They do whatever school activities they have going on then come to the fieldhouse each day do their homework then start helping with whatever needs to be done. During practice they help do all kinds of things Film, water, cleaning, laundry, really anything. My oldest daughter graduated last year, she is in college now she was homecoming queen, all-state in softball, 4.0 student, she worked out with the boys during morning lifts, would help around the locker room after her practices, help me break film down, heck she was better than 3/4 of my assistants. My younger ones are all doing great also, I still have a 10th/8th/6th grader, I got remarried this summer and honestly it has been harder blending the families. Kids are tough: they need love, discipline, and attention, you can still give them these things while you coach. I have asked my oldest daughter on several occasions if she has felt cheated by being raised this way, she says that she didn't feel cheated in the least and that she has spent more time with her dad and sisters than anyone she knows. Like alot of things situations are what you make of them.
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Post by JVD on Oct 28, 2014 21:43:27 GMT -6
Yup. Made me cry. Thanks coach. You ARE the man I am striving to be...to your kids and your "kids."
James has already said, "Daddy..I'm going to play football with the big kids!" WHA!
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