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Post by realdawg on Sept 19, 2007 7:22:14 GMT -6
OK starting left guard, tells us last Monday he will not be at the game Friday b/c his family is going to Kentucky. He doesnt specify as to why, but we assume it was to see his stepbrother stationed in the military at Fort Knox. Anyway, he isnt at the game Friday and his backup works all week, starts and plays Friday. Monday he shows up to practice and so does his dad. We tell him he has to earn his job back, which wouldnt take long, b/c his backup is awful! (got two TD's called back for holding in the game) However, this makes his dad mad, and he jerks him off the field. This is not the first time his dad has done something similar. Earlier this year he missed two practices before a scrimmage and so we did not let him play. His dad did the same thing except realized he was wrong and begged our coach to take his boy back, which he did. This time when the dad jerked the boy out Coach said if you do this again dont come back. I hate it for the boy, he is a good kid and wants to play, and understood both times what was going on and why it was going on. His father is just an idiot. Did we take the right course of action? What would you have done? Sorry this is so long.
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Post by olinecoach61 on Sept 19, 2007 7:24:04 GMT -6
That's a tough one... Do you punish the son for the sins of the father?
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Post by superpower on Sept 19, 2007 7:25:33 GMT -6
You did the right thing. If you let him play without practicing, you will have a mess on your hands with the other kids.
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Post by lochness on Sept 19, 2007 7:42:55 GMT -6
Stick to your guns on your policy, you absolutely did the right thing.
As for the player's continued participation on the team, I'd keep that between you and the player. If the player wants to come back, that conversation should be between he and the head coach.
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Post by gacoach on Sept 19, 2007 8:08:04 GMT -6
We had a kid, our RIGHT guard, go a mission trip this summer. He came back with a bad case of Dysentery and had lost about 20 pounds. He was projected to get a lot of playing time, if not be a starter on the OL. Once he came back sick, he coudn't finish even indy, let alone push the sled. After our first scrimmage, in which he didn't play very well, he came in the day after we watched the scrimmage film and quit. He said that he didn't think he was getting a "fair chance" to win his position back.
His mom works in the county and has told people that he was "kicked off of the team" because he went on a mission trip this summer.
What happened to parents accepting the concept of accountability?
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Post by ajreaper on Sept 19, 2007 8:15:59 GMT -6
LOL, the problem is everyone wants to "play" not all of them think they need to "perform" while they play.
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Post by pfist12 on Sept 19, 2007 10:32:22 GMT -6
The father and son made the choice for you.
Stick by your guns and send a message to the rest of the team.
Playing time should only be discussed between the player and the coaches never the parents!
You did the right thing.
I'd rather lose one player instead of the whole team.
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Post by thunder17 on Sept 19, 2007 10:45:29 GMT -6
Agree with pfist, playing time should not be discussed with a parent. You have to feel sorry for the kid. That father is going to have some serious regrets. As will the son.
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Post by coachcoyote on Sept 19, 2007 22:12:07 GMT -6
Was any policy stated in your handbook to the parents or at least a handout at the parent's meeting?
It' a shame , but sometimes you have to make a sacrifice to make a point. Take him back? I'd talk to the kid 1-1, let him know where you stand, and give him another chance. We can't hold the kid responsible for the parent. However, if it happened again, no remorse with letting him go.
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Post by trojan on Sept 22, 2007 14:20:21 GMT -6
However, if it happened again, no remorse with letting him go. Sounds like it did happen again (scrimmage and trip to KY). |
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