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Post by blb on Jan 3, 2014 18:50:39 GMT -6
Six years of coaching CFB taught me that being a "grinder" doesn't help you win. It just makes you perpetually tired and irritable and frequently unhealthy, none of which contributes to efficiency. That's why Bob Stoops sends his coaches home after practice. Coach, Your honesty and straight forward approach really enhances this site. I just read a couple of your responses to my wife who of course spent a year or two next to your classroom as we both rolled through one of our stops and although I'm sure you don't need my encouragement I wanted to post and point out that your perspective on things and wisdom through experience is appreciated by many of us young pups who hope to be able to do this thing as long as you have....
Thanks, jm.
We all need all the encouragement we can get in this business, especially from peers we respect.
I have had great mentors for many years and am just trying to give back what I got from them to the game and my fellow coaches thru this site.
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Post by davishfc on Jan 3, 2014 19:26:40 GMT -6
Win or lose when that clock hits triple zero's on friday night, by the time we meet as a team on the field, I'm already thinking about next week's opponent. After game 10, since we didn't make the playoffs this year, I was already thinking about next season's schedule, where I could get film, personnel issues we needed to address depth wise, scheme stuff, etc. Well said Coach. We didn't make the playoffs and instinctively my thought process went right to 2014 on the last bus ride home. Thankfully we did win our last game so that gave us something positive to build on heading into next season.
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Post by davishfc on Jan 3, 2014 19:31:21 GMT -6
I should be trying to rebuild the whole HERD at Mickey D's. Instead am settling for increasing profit margin for Miller Brewing Co.
Classic!
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Post by kmiller716 on Jan 3, 2014 21:51:44 GMT -6
What a great (and entertaining) post here. I think the word "perspective", as posted, holds tremendous value in this coaching journey. I think the game necessarily doesn't create agony, but rather, our egos do. This is more than being competitive.
I had the privilege to form a close relationship with a respected college/HS football coach during his later years (passed away last January). He always said that his reflection on his past was never centered on his winning seasons, but more so, all the players he developed relationships with. He taught kids how to shake hands, look someone in the eye, respect themselves and authority, believe in themselves and more so, he was a father figure for many. It was moving (and humbling) to pick his brain. When I had my first opportunity to spend one on one time with him, my immaturity and ignorance was slammed as my conversation began to be based on X 's and O's. He immediately said, "son, if all you think that coaching is about schemes and tactics, you are going to be a terrible coach." All we ever talked about was relationships and how many young men are not being raised with proper values. His coaching tools that he provided for me (in our brief relationship) will always travel with me...not my recollection of every state title or winning season he had. I could not imagine what I could have gained by being a player under his leadership. I think if you know why you are coaching and what type of coach/program you would want your own son to go through, then at the end of the day, if you worked your tail off to get your program to that point (whatever it may be), the agony of defeat, which is just part of the journey, is handled better.
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Post by gibbs72 on Jan 4, 2014 17:36:50 GMT -6
I believe in taking as long as is needed to do a job right but not adding a bunch of extra time just to make it look like you're busy. I worked for a coach once that made us work 12+ hours on Saturday and then 7+ on Sunday. He loved going to clinics and telling everyone how hard his coaches worked. Made football season very long.
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Post by newhope on Jan 7, 2014 12:06:11 GMT -6
Coaches how do you deal and cope with the agony of defeat? I have a difficult time with this. Besides the obvious- schemes, personnel, play calling etc... How do you deal with the emotional aspect of it?
Just finished my 39th year of coaching, 29th as head coach, and answer to your question is - poorly.
I hate weekends during the season anyway - watching film, meetings - but when we lose I'm a miserable human being, especially Saturdays.
It has not improved as I've gotten older, probably worse. I wish it were not so and that I could handle losing better but it's not a conscious choice, it's just my make-up.
Bingo...just make it 41 years instead of 39.
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