champyun
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Life is not a matter of holding good cards, but of playing a poor hand well.
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Post by champyun on Oct 29, 2006 14:49:42 GMT -6
We had our starting QB not suit up and play due to his step-grandfather's passing just hours before our game. Am I being unsensitive and selfish to think that he should have played? I'm struggling with this one and wanted to get your personal opinions on this one. Thanks in advance.
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Post by djwesp on Oct 29, 2006 14:56:19 GMT -6
We always view family, grades, and discipline before football.
The team should be a major priority for this young man, however, a death in the close family is ALWAYS excusable on our team.
Death is one of the most scarring things for a young man. If you had someone close to you die as a teenager, you know exactly what I'm talking about. We would never ask someone like that to lead our team in a situation where football is genuinely, 'just a game' and life is 'the real thing'.
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Post by fbdoc on Oct 29, 2006 16:46:23 GMT -6
You can never tell how someone else is going to respond to the death of a loved one. This year one of our starters had to deal with the death of his dad 3 days before our opener. The service was the morning of the game! The team attended and then left for the game after offereing condolences to the young man and his mom. Imagine my surprise when she asked me if the kid could play - his dad was a big fan and the kid wanted to play for him. I said we would love to have him with us. I've also had kids say they had to miss a game due to the death of some 4 times removed aunt or cousin. It's like djwesp said, family before football.
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Post by coachcalande on Oct 29, 2006 19:15:03 GMT -6
We had our starting QB not suit up and play due to his step-grandfather's passing just hours before our game. Am I being unsensitive and selfish to think that he should have played? I'm struggling with this one and wanted to get your personal opinions on this one. Thanks in advance. opinion- at that age, would have been difficult for me to play just hours after a family members death...at this age..no different.
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Post by tog on Oct 29, 2006 19:23:46 GMT -6
Champ, I would just ask him if he wanted to play, and if he could play up to his level. Explain the situation to the team however it went and do the best you can with what you got.
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Post by coachjblair on Oct 29, 2006 20:15:41 GMT -6
I would allow him to miss the game. I lost my grandpa last year, and I know if it had been during the season (It was during spring ball and I missed about half a week) I would have took at least one game off since football was the farthest thing from my mind. The order for me is God, Family and Friends, School and then Football.
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champyun
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Post by champyun on Oct 30, 2006 7:35:19 GMT -6
I also agree that football is secondary to God and family. I guess I was being very selfish in my thinking.
Thanks for all of your responses.
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