How to kick kids out of the program?

That pretty much sums it up right there.  This si also why we have players and parents sign contracts so every thing is clear and spelled out.  Kid would of been gone as soon as he said anything like that in practice. 

We explain up front, at our parent meetings, that we will not tolerate disrespect to coaches, bad behavior in the classroom, etc. We let them know that if they don't meet our standards that they will not remain on the team. We make sure the admin is on board with this in advance. I will not coach in a school where they won't support me on this. I don't have to. So, when a kid is disrespectful, misses several practices, constantly misbehaves in school---we get rid of him. Our principal says, "it's your team, I'm not telling you how to run it".

Now, with that said, I did have an issue at my previous school with a very supportive principal. We tossed a JV kid for being disrespectful to our equipment manager. It turned out that the equipment manager may have been slightly at fault. The principal wasn't going to make me let the kid stay--he just advised me that we could end up losing our equipment manager if it got to the district office since he was a volunteer from the community. I let the kid stay. He messed up with me a week later, as I knew he would...gone. I didn't have to worry about someone else taking heat.

One other thing I should have added: when I kick one off (or anything else happens I think might reach administration) I notify them so that they hear it first from me. Then, when the parent calls, the principal isn't blindsided and has an answer for them as soon as they call--no need to "meet with the parent".

I booted a kid.
I hauled him in, told him he was done. Told an assistant to oversee the immediate collection of his gear and went to meetings.
The player knew it was coming. It was for repeat infractions of team rules for which we already dealt with him once. Then I informed the AD, and moved on.

That's too much, coach!

You are either a really good HC.......or not a HC at all.

This is always a tough situation.After making it through year 3 at an inner city program and when I took it may have been one of the worst jobs in the state.How did i make it this far?By following my RULES and not bending when the time comes. I am all about 2nd chances but what I will not Tolerate is a player disrespecting me ,my coaches ,the program and the school.I have thrown off some of our best players each year because they try to buck the rules.1. Have strict guidelines -NO EXCEPTIONS 2. If you kick the player off-stand by it.If the Administration forces you to take him back-SIT him.If they do not back your decision than you have some greater issues.As far as the Parents??We have had some unruly ones.They pushed me to the point that I had the police escort a father out,banned a mother.I tell the kids,I dont let you act like that so why should they.They cant force you into playing theyre kid. My Rules ,NO F Bombs,No Racial slurs, No backtalk,No bullying,No disrespect,Maintain a minimum of a C average(Our best LB sat for 6 games because of grades but was the best practice team guy you could ask for.Ya know what I told him?Next year This is is,if you are not eligible to start the season and remain that way -you are No longer a part of our program,I care about you but I have given you every opportunity. The result?A program that had 28 players when I arrived 9-12 to finishing the year with 76.I have never had players sign a contract but I may.I am going to have the Parents sign one though.GOOD LUCK and STAND your ground and by gosh Document everything.

Why are you letting him make speeches at half time? The only one who talks in our locker room is me except when kids are asking-answering questions.

From your description he sounds like a pretty normal 16-year old (15?) to me. Takes some of them longer to mature-for the light bulb to come on.

He may be a model citizen as a Senior. It's what you get when coaching HS.

This is benign stuff, Coach. Certainly not anywhere near considering firing him.

Sounds like a "you" problem. Don't let him bug you so much.

To me that's kind of juvenile to make the admin "choose" like that. It's like a little kid not getting his way in a pick up game and saying "fine if i can't play quarterback, i'm not playing. If the admin says the player can't get kicked off, most likely it's because they are covering their a$$'s and I'd be okay with that. I would understand, but I would also know ahead of time what i can kick a kid off for so this situation wouldn't happen. And if what the player did was that bad, most likely they will agree with you anyway. 

No I agree, especially because for me personally, if I kick a kid off a team that means he really messed up more than once, probably more than twice. I'm pretty much saying If I kicked a kid off, the admin would agree because it would be that serious of an issue.

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And a written policy needs to be in place. That's why in the OP 's case I would understand if the admin let him back on the team. It would be my own fault for not having it in writing.

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But you just can't kick him off of the team because you don't like him.

I agree that if the admin won't back you, then it's time to move on or let somebody else deal with the headaches. I'm all for keeping kids in the fold when possible, but you can't let one kid ruin the entire team. Makes me think of something Coach Bill Snyder wrote in his book: "I will make decisions that better then entire team. . . ALWAYS".

Players that haven't bled/ sweat/ paid-the-price that try to give halftime talks make me laugh: the real players just roll their eyes. Good captains will take care of that problem with a one-on-one chat to show how the system is supposed to work. That sounds like something the players themselves need to address themselves.