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Post by fballcoachg on Dec 31, 2014 21:29:32 GMT -6
My wife married in to it, my kids didn't. Right wrong or indifferent my kids are going to be my top priority in non-coaching time. I do not neglect me wife however my kids take precedent every time and I make a much bigger effort to include them with football and set time aside for them when I am home (bath, story, dinner, beat up on dad time, whatever). My wife can talk to me when I am breaking down hudl and she has scandal on tv, she know what she was getting in to and is relatively independent, part of the many reasons I married her. I make up for stuff with her in the offseason.
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Post by olinedude on Jan 2, 2015 20:31:18 GMT -6
My wife has always been ready to uproot and go to the next town if need be. She's a real trooper when it comes to being a coaches wife. We have been at 6 different schools/cities and she's made a "home" at each. Our children have never known how it is to NOT have their Dad around. I don't ask our staff to come to work on Sundays. This is rare in the state of Texas, but feel that they need (and I) that time away from school to be with their families. I am of the belief that I can do my job just fine without having to LIVE at the school to get it done. If this means having to bring some of the work home (which I do a lot), then so be it. As far as me being gone quite a bit - I try to take my wife with me or she will travel to be at most of the events that I have to coach or attend. Our children have always been a part of it as well, either as spectators or participants. As far as daycare, we made it somehow. My wife has worked for most, if not all of our marriage and the raising of our children. It takes a lot of teamwork. I'm very fortunate. Where are you at in Tx coach?
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Post by coachmonkey on Jan 2, 2015 21:12:37 GMT -6
I make sure on Saturday she knows we can do anything and everything she wants to do no questions asked. I do whatever I can with the kids after I get home from practice. I make sure I don't just plop in front of the TV on Sunday. I try to not answer any calls or texts until all the kids are in bed. And i try not to watch film until later at night after I have made sure I have spent quality time with my kids, and my wife. Then each night I pray to God to help me remember football coaching is what I do, not who I am.
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Post by coachtua on Jan 3, 2015 3:18:34 GMT -6
I live in Wisconsin and don't hunt, fish, or go out with my buddies. When people are amazed by that I tell them I know a lot of divorced FB coaches that like to hunt, fish, and go out. I know a lot of happily married ones that don't. Football is my hobby. Lucky for me my wife enjoys fishing too...My niece and nephew that we raised also enjoy fishing...So this is something we can do as a family...
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Post by emptybackfield on Jan 3, 2015 7:43:28 GMT -6
If you can't have a hobby because you coach high school football then you:
A) blow at time management and aren't very efficient B) do way too much stuff in the offseason (seriously, what do you do that's so time consuming from December-August?)
Hell, head college coaches find time to get away for a round of golf a few times a month in the summer.
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Post by fantom on Jan 3, 2015 8:58:08 GMT -6
If you can't have a hobby because you coach high school football then you: A) blow at time management and aren't very efficient B) do way too much stuff in the offseason (seriously, what do you do that's so time consuming from December-August?) Hell, head college coaches find time to get away for a round of golf a few times a month in the summer. That's true for the offseason but what about inseason? August to November (December if you're lucky), that's a third of the year/
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Post by rsmith627 on Jan 3, 2015 9:48:17 GMT -6
If you can't have a hobby because you coach high school football then you: A) blow at time management and aren't very efficient B) do way too much stuff in the offseason (seriously, what do you do that's so time consuming from December-August?) Hell, head college coaches find time to get away for a round of golf a few times a month in the summer. That's true for the offseason but what about inseason? August to November (December if you're lucky), that's a third of the year/ I still find time to sit down and play a videogame on occasion. I need to unwind, for my own sanity. I'll do it when the family is sleeping though. I personally do not need a ton of sleep to function, so I'll sacrifice sleep to do other things. The weekend is family time. I go to my football meetings, and I'll hang in the office a bit after everybody is gone to get what I need to do done as far as film scouting. I'll also watch film when everybody goes to bed here.
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Post by silkyice on Jan 3, 2015 11:03:25 GMT -6
If you can't have a hobby because you coach high school football then you: A) blow at time management and aren't very efficient B) do way too much stuff in the offseason (seriously, what do you do that's so time consuming from December-August?) Hell, head college coaches find time to get away for a round of golf a few times a month in the summer. That's true for the offseason but what about inseason? August to November (December if you're lucky), that's a third of the year/ And a lot of us coach other sports or worse are AD. Or have after school weights. Or go to clinics. Also, head college coaches aren't usually the best to model your marriage after. Especially if you take away the fact that their wives don't have to work and they make multi-millions. A marriage as a football coach where you coach other sports, your wife works fulltime, and you struggle to pay for your kids braces doesn't have time for a lot of hobbies. Doesn't mean you can't have them or it doesn't work for you, but if you play softball and fish all summer and hunt all winter, it can affect your marriage.
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Post by emptybackfield on Jan 3, 2015 14:41:59 GMT -6
If you can't have a hobby because you coach high school football then you: A) blow at time management and aren't very efficient B) do way too much stuff in the offseason (seriously, what do you do that's so time consuming from December-August?) Hell, head college coaches find time to get away for a round of golf a few times a month in the summer. That's true for the offseason but what about inseason? August to November (December if you're lucky), that's a third of the year/ I've skipped practice to go play golf before. I need to get away from it sometimes. signed, Steve Spurrier
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Post by coachfloyd on Jan 3, 2015 14:52:20 GMT -6
If you can't have a hobby because you coach high school football then you: A) blow at time management and aren't very efficient B) do way too much stuff in the offseason (seriously, what do you do that's so time consuming from December-August?) Hell, head college coaches find time to get away for a round of golf a few times a month in the summer. Or C) have two sets of twins ages 6 and 4.
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Post by emptybackfield on Jan 3, 2015 15:07:35 GMT -6
If you can't have a hobby because you coach high school football then you: A) blow at time management and aren't very efficient B) do way too much stuff in the offseason (seriously, what do you do that's so time consuming from December-August?) Hell, head college coaches find time to get away for a round of golf a few times a month in the summer. Or C) have two sets of twins ages 6 and 4. Yes, but that's something that is independent of being a football coach. I stated "if you can't have a hobby BECAUSE you coach high school football." I assume you don't have time for a hobby because of your family responsibilities, not because of your job. I'm not sure it would be any different if you were a computer programmer or an auto mechanic.
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Post by coachfloyd on Jan 3, 2015 18:12:32 GMT -6
Or C) have two sets of twins ages 6 and 4. Yes, but that's something that is independent of being a football coach. I stated "if you can't have a hobby BECAUSE you coach high school football." I assume you don't have time for a hobby because of your family responsibilities, not because of your job. I'm not sure it would be any different if you were a computer programmer or an auto mechanic. You are correct. I was pretty much done at the second ultrasound
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Post by emptybackfield on Jan 3, 2015 18:24:54 GMT -6
Yes, but that's something that is independent of being a football coach. I stated "if you can't have a hobby BECAUSE you coach high school football." I assume you don't have time for a hobby because of your family responsibilities, not because of your job. I'm not sure it would be any different if you were a computer programmer or an auto mechanic. You are correct. I was pretty much done at the second ultrasound I can't imagine man. I have one two year old and fight to keep my head above water. Does your wife work?
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Post by coachfloyd on Jan 4, 2015 6:50:14 GMT -6
You are correct. I was pretty much done at the second ultrasound I can't imagine man. I have one two year old and fight to keep my head above water. Does your wife work? No she stays home which is also a reason for no hobbies. Anything I do extra means she works more hours.
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Post by coachmonkey on Jan 4, 2015 8:39:02 GMT -6
I can't imagine man. I have one two year old and fight to keep my head above water. Does your wife work? No she stays home which is also a reason for no hobbies. Anything I do extra means she works more hours. I have a 2-year old. A 1-year old (born in season in August), and now a newborn born in November. It's not easy, and my wife finished a degree when she was pregnant with the second. She supports myself and the team. It helps to have the other coaches wives as support. I still have hobbies and we still do things together during the season. My sacrifice has been watching college and NFL football, which I used to watch all day.
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