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Post by 353coach on May 31, 2013 8:53:04 GMT -6
If you guys have any ideas on how to stop swearing, I'd love to hear them in the comments! I'm trying to stop myself...so guilty as charged. Always trying to improve, personally and professionally.  |
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Post by fcboiler87 on May 31, 2013 9:26:45 GMT -6
That is a great write up, coach. I had a coach I worked with who was very religious and would get so fired up on the field. He had a ton of great alternatives for cuss words. I can't remember them all but "you knuckleheads!!" was one of my favorites because he'd usually hesitate while finding an appropriate word instead of what he was probably actually thinking.
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Post by brophy on May 31, 2013 9:45:37 GMT -6
how to stop swearing? stop swearing  |
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Post by theyoungballcoach on May 31, 2013 9:49:02 GMT -6
Haha, I coach college, I swear a lot. When I work camps my go to is heck or frig. Starting to get away from frig because sometimes I say what the Frig and kids take it just like I said the F word.
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Post by 353coach on May 31, 2013 10:02:58 GMT -6
how to stop swearing? stop swearing LOL...If only habits were that easy to break...I'd still weigh 200 pounds and have fingernails during football season  Pretty sure I'll be laughing at that gif all day. |
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Post by 353coach on May 31, 2013 10:05:30 GMT -6
Haha, I coach college, I swear a lot. When I work camps my go to is heck or frig. Starting to get away from frig because sometimes I say what the Frig and kids take it just like I said the F word. No doubt...I know in high school the parents use it against you...its the first thing they go to in any disagreement... I said hell once in class, I had to meet with the principal and sign a waiver because a parent complained. NO LIE. On a related note, one time two kids got into a scuffle at practice...a parent from the parking lot CALLED THE POLICE and told them there was a riot at the school. No Lie. *Shaking my head* One reason to stop....it takes a weapon away from Krazy Parents.... |
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Post by John Knight on May 31, 2013 10:16:31 GMT -6
Be a Bowden!
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Post by mariner42 on May 31, 2013 10:21:13 GMT -6
On a related note, one time two kids got into a scuffle at practice...a parent from the parking lot CALLED THE POLICE and told them there was a riot at the school. I... umm... I got nothing here. That's the dumbest thing I'll hear about today. Big thing for me on cutting down my profanity has been recognizing that, generally, I swear because I'm upset, so I've stopped letting myself get upset. If a kid is screwing up, it's because he either doesn't understand or can't do what I'm asking, so I shouldn't be swearing at him. |
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Post by carookie on May 31, 2013 10:38:26 GMT -6
Big thing for me on cutting down my profanity has been recognizing that, generally, I swear because I'm upset, so I've stopped letting myself get upset. If a kid is screwing up, it's because he either doesn't understand or can't do what I'm asking, so I shouldn't be swearing at him. BINGO, Its not casual swearing that most are trying to control, its swearing when you are too upset. So if you want to fix it go to the root of the problem; instead of trying to control your swearing work on controlling your emotions. How to do that? Probably different for each person |
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Post by John Knight on May 31, 2013 10:42:18 GMT -6
Sometimes they just aren't trying very hard to get it and that just pi$$es me OFF!! Dadgum it!
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Post by mariner42 on May 31, 2013 22:23:57 GMT -6
Big thing for me on cutting down my profanity has been recognizing that, generally, I swear because I'm upset, so I've stopped letting myself get upset. If a kid is screwing up, it's because he either doesn't understand or can't do what I'm asking, so I shouldn't be swearing at him. BINGO, Its not casual swearing that most are trying to control, its swearing when you are too upset. So if you want to fix it go to the root of the problem; instead of trying to control your swearing work on controlling your emotions. How to do that? Probably different for each person To expound on that a bit further: I really noticed that when I started focusing on coaching in a positive manner, I swear less and am less upset with the kids. Because I'm looking to emphasize what they did right, I'm coaching them in a much happier mindset. I also have a lot more fun. Food for thought. |
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Post by John Knight on Jun 1, 2013 5:28:37 GMT -6
I used to cuss more when they did good things. Old redneck in me!
Goddang you knocked him on his friggin AZZ, you beautiful SOB!!! I used to scream $hit like this all the time! I loved it when good stuff happened! Kids thought I was CRAZY and I acted like it. I loved football practice back in those days when you were free to do or say whatever made you or the kids laugh!
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Post by tango on Jun 1, 2013 6:11:12 GMT -6
Son of a biscuit eater and pot licker are two that our coaches use. I cuss.
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Post by wingtol on Jun 1, 2013 6:43:48 GMT -6
Wanna know how you top swearing? Have a 3 year old. Trust me when your 3 year old says "what the F**k" at the dinner table and your wife gives you the look of death you start to clean up your language on and off the field.
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Post by Coach Vint on Jun 1, 2013 6:54:50 GMT -6
Swearing is a choice, regardless of circumstance. Our head coach doesn't want us swearing around our kids. I have found I can generally get my point across without an f word. There are times I want to go on an absolute tirade. I now just save it for the golf course!
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Post by coachjd on Jun 1, 2013 7:20:39 GMT -6
Discipline yourself. Its all about choices. I was a college coach working in an environment of coaches chewing and swearing at kids. Go to high school coaching and the swearing and chewing had to stop ASAP.
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Post by coachd5085 on Jun 1, 2013 7:26:51 GMT -6
I agree with the above two posts, as well as the others that simply say "stop doing it". There have been SCORES of posts/threads here lamenting the lack of personal responsibility and accountability of "this generation" or of the American population in general. I think this one falls on the individual.
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Post by coachweav88 on Jun 1, 2013 9:07:35 GMT -6
Just watch Naopleon Dynamite a couple hundred times. You'll be screaming "what the flip?!" in no time
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Post by CS on Jun 1, 2013 10:11:54 GMT -6
I don't get how it's a hard thing to do. I cuss like a sailor when I'm talking to friends or adults that I know don't mind. It's just my way I guess. The worst I have ever said in front of a kid is damn. You wouldn't cuss at your mom if she made you mad why would it be different for one of your players?
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Post by cqmiller on Jun 1, 2013 11:49:28 GMT -6
If you substitute another word in the place of a "swear word" aren't you still swearing? Around here (Utah) it is ridiculous...
"What the fudge?"
"Shut the funk up!"
"You're a butthole"
"Frick"
"dag-nabbit"
EVERYONE KNOWS WHAT YOU ARE SAYING... YOU ARE STILL CURSING... BUT SOMEHOW THOSE ARE OKAY
I have never swore AT a player or something directed to a player to demean them... but at what point do the parents realize that I probably hear 100x worse language out of their kids walking down the hallways at school than I could ever teach them at football. But according to "mommy and daddy", they have never heard that word before and you shouldn't use it.
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Post by coachhusrey on Jun 1, 2013 13:17:19 GMT -6
Thats why I love coaching in Europe, they dont try to censor you in any way. They are adults and the kids are also treated as adults. Censorship is the dumbest thing and its only in our country because too many soccer moms and dads have too much time on their hands and want to always find something to complain about. They are only words. If you cant handle it dont leave the house or turn on the TV.
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Post by coachbowlin on Jun 2, 2013 8:17:11 GMT -6
It takes 21 days to make a habit. Sadly for me everytime I get to the 20th day something always makes me cuss. So that tactic isn't for everyone but its a shot.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 2, 2013 8:58:15 GMT -6
Just the act of avoiding the negativity if at all possible and the language tends to clear up.
On a side note, its not a moral problem, but a spiritual one.
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Post by coachd5085 on Jun 2, 2013 9:43:25 GMT -6
Just the act of avoiding the negativity if at all possible and the language tends to clear up. On a side note, its not a moral problem, but a spiritual one. No, its a vocabulary problem. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 2, 2013 9:45:36 GMT -6
Just the act of avoiding the negativity if at all possible and the language tends to clear up. On a side note, its not a moral problem, but a spiritual one. No, its a vocabulary problem. that is just a symptom. |
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Post by coachd5085 on Jun 2, 2013 9:47:51 GMT -6
No, its a vocabulary problem. that is just a symptom. I am not a spiritual person, I do not swear. Not going to pollute the board with this discussion as generally any discussion regarding faith/religion/spirituality always derail a thread. Please keep that in mind when posting here. |
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Post by 33coach on Jun 2, 2013 10:31:43 GMT -6
It's not a problem of spirit. Or morals or vocabulary.
The interesting thing is, they are just words. Words are not 'bad' or 'good'. Intentions when using the words are 'bad' or 'good'.
Take the F word.... There is nothing wrong with that word. By itself there is no intent behind it.
I say F you.. now its bad there is intent behind it.
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Post by brophy on Jun 2, 2013 12:00:22 GMT -6
you don't tell your players 'f- you' do you?
it is totally a vocabulary issue and using cheesy substitutes is only a pacifier. Learn to communicate better and swearing won't be a crutch. It is completely a choice, just like using colloquial expressions is when confronted with the appropriate professional setting. Do you talk among professionals with phrases like "ya know whut I sayin'? Ya herd?"
swearing is something we do for ourselves, not the target audience
didn't we have this discussion a month ago?
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Post by 33coach on Jun 2, 2013 12:08:36 GMT -6
you don't tell your players 'f- you' do you? it is totally a vocabulary issue and using cheesy substitutes is only a pacifier. Learn to communicate better and swearing won't be a crutch. It is completely a choice, just like using colloquial expressions is when confronted with the appropriate professional setting. Do you talk among professionals with phrases like "ya know whut I sayin'? Ya herd?" swearing is something we do for ourselves, not the target audience didn't we have this discussion a month ago? no i dont, i would and will never use any word negatively to my players. whether it was a "Swear" word or not. my point is. we act like swear words are so harmful, when other things we say can be just as harmful, why is that? all words are neutral until the rest of the sentence is formed. yes, we had this very same discussion about a month ago |
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Post by Coach Bennett on Jun 2, 2013 16:16:10 GMT -6
How to stop? "15 push-up rule" for you and your players.
We instituted that rule long ago and to this day kids will call others out for even derogatory words like saying "r*tard."
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