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Post by pvogel on Sept 25, 2012 23:58:52 GMT -6
Coaches,
I'm having some trouble sleeping tonight.
a local high school kid that I had worked with this summer was shot and killed last night. Great kid. Positive attitude, always smiling, real kind and generous. Not a trouble guy and wasnt even affiliated. Real sad. Ive had an eeyore cloud over my head all day.
Not sure what I am looking for. Or why this is killing me real bad. Im not sure what Im asking. Maybe remind your kids about how precious life is. Or to be mindful of the company you keep.
I guess I just ask that we say a collective prayer for our kids. God bless our kids and god bless you all.
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Post by airman on Sept 26, 2012 0:33:08 GMT -6
Death makes not sense at any age. Scientists cannot even really explain why we age on that we do.
Death of a young person disrupts natures order. Parents are not supposed to burry their children.
Violence is a very interesting thing. WHy do we exact violence towards others? I have come to believe it is fear. Fear of the differences which society places upon people.
This is why we should so love with nonviolent communication.
sorry to hear about you situation. word escape me at this time as to how to comfort people in these situations
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Post by coachbuck on Sept 26, 2012 0:50:33 GMT -6
In my prayers. Sorry to hear that.
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Post by mrjvi on Sept 26, 2012 4:25:56 GMT -6
Coach,
My starting center (had just earned it) for this year played in our scrimmage and then got an infection somehow . Showed up after going to the Dentist on Monday with an absessed tooth and died on Tuesday. The parents asked us to play our game on saturday. My thoughts go out to you. Community support was tremendous and all was done properly to honor him (also a great kid involved in all kinds of school activities). It still doesn't make sense. It never will. Puts different things in perspective for me.
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Post by mattyg2787 on Sept 26, 2012 4:32:05 GMT -6
Sorry to hear coach. there is nothing more tragic then a young death and its something that I wouldn't wish on anyone.
Its sad that we call ourselves the most advanced animal on the planet yet we are the only species that kill each other with no good reason. its a sad world we live in
Sorry again coach, remind your kids, family and most importantly, yourself, just how important every day is.
Sent from my Galaxy Nexus using proboards
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Post by dubber on Sept 26, 2012 6:01:49 GMT -6
I seriously do not know what to type to encourage/comfort you.
I only hope the fact I typed something will in and of itself let you know the compassion I have for you and your community.
In thought and prayer,
Coach Burks
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Post by CoachHam55 on Sept 26, 2012 6:46:08 GMT -6
Coach,
I feel your pain. 2 seasons ago, I experienced the exact same thing. Our senior captain was murdered by a 15 year old boy because my player, Rahmel (great kid, just gotten his first scholarship offer the day before), asked out a girl that the 15 year old was interested in.
Words cannot provide comfort for the pain you are feeling. Only time will help you learn to deal with the pain & loss but even that doesn't fully heal.
Our family, football team, and our entire school will keep you, your team, & this young man's family in our prayers.
If you ever need to talk, drop me a PM and I will send you my cell number.
Adam
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Post by tog on Sept 26, 2012 7:04:53 GMT -6
We just went through something similar with our team. One of our players died. It has been a rough couple of weeks for our football family. Be yourself, lots of hugs, and just talking to the kids about getting the most out of life, no regrets, dealing with the pain/hurt/anger/loss as best they can. This was the first experience with death for some of our kids and it shook them up pretty bad. We think it has brought them closer in many ways. Football teaches life like nothing else but life itself. After we won two days after the announcement, I cried like a baby and didn't care who saw it. Same thing at the funeral. It hurts brotha. It hurts to see the kids hurting in such a way.
You will become a better man and coach for having helped your kids through this. You and they will never forget it. This is my third time dealing with this. It doesn't get any easier.
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Post by coachwoodall on Sept 26, 2012 7:21:52 GMT -6
I can empathize with you, and unfortunately it has happened on several occasions.
I use it as motivation for one of my 'annual' group speeches to my position kids. I.E. Be mindful of what you do and who you hang out with, I've been to too many player's funeral already.
There is no easy way to deal with it, it will be a process that will continue for quite a while. Prayerful reflection is the best medicine. If you feel like you can't work the process on your own, seek help.
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Post by coachklee on Sept 26, 2012 8:35:23 GMT -6
My thoughts and prayers will be of that kid's family, his teammates and you coach.
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Post by paulfrantz on Sept 26, 2012 11:18:14 GMT -6
Coach I am so sorry to hear that. To most of us these kids are our kids, and anything that happens to them hurts as it would if they were family. Just know that me and mine are praying for you, you're team and his family. God Bless
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Post by kyle on Sept 26, 2012 11:59:44 GMT -6
Coaches, I'm having some trouble sleeping tonight. a local high school kid that I had worked with this summer was shot and killed last night. Great kid. Positive attitude, always smiling, real kind and generous. Not a trouble guy and wasnt even affiliated. Real sad. Ive had an eeyore cloud over my head all day. Not sure what I am looking for. Or why this is killing me real bad. Im not sure what Im asking. Maybe remind your kids about how precious life is. Or to be mindful of the company you keep. I guess I just ask that we say a collective prayer for our kids. God bless our kids and god bless you all. That's awful man. I wish I knew what to say in those situations. We had a player who's baby brother was shot and killed, and I had no idea what to say to him. It's so unfair and senseless when someone kills someone else. I couldn't think of anything meaningful to say. I just tried to give my condolences and make everything as normal as possible. The kid didn't even miss a practice. He amazed me. |
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Post by gdoggwr on Sept 27, 2012 9:35:43 GMT -6
I don't have any words...
Know that you and the family are in my thoughts.
Coach Rees
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