We went to the house of every player in the program. Coaching staff split up and visited where the kids lived. While there we had the parents sign the athletic code and talk to them about the expectations of their sons.
It worked great. It was obviously a major pain to set up having to schedule and then drive around to these kids scattered all over the county, but it sure has saved us some headaches. It headed off many issues before they could even get started. We got to see how some of our players lived, and that can be an eye opener.
It is interesting to go on a scheduled home visit and find the parents drunk and wanting to have you and your coaching buddy join them. Needless to say, we declined, and knew a little more about that kid's parents.
at some places champ you could hear some echoes at one of those, and the people that were there would be the type you don't want,
i like the home visits better, let's you meet some good parents that you might not otherwise meet, parents that don't want to get involved with the coaches, because they trust us, as opposed to the other kind that would try and get in with us and then stab us in the back when billy isn't playing
Home visits are a great tool. I'm a member of our school board and we see student appeals for expulsions. When you see the parents of some kids, you understand why the kids are the way they are. Seeing the way some kids live can be a real eye opener. Some kids go all through little league, through high school and college and never have a parent see them play. Without home visits, you'll never see those parents. Meet the coaches night is good, but many of the parents you really need to meet are no-shows. Just like PTA, the parents that teachers want to see, aren't interested. A few years ago, we had a young man who is now a red-shirt sophomore at the University of Pittsburgh. After every one of our games I would go on to the field to hug and tell some of our guys that I was proud of them and just say, "good game". I didn't think much of it, I just love all our kids. After he graduated, he told my daughter that his father had never seen him play and that he always looked forward to seeing me after the game. He said it was almost like having his father watch him. You just never know how you are going to affect Someone's life.
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I have always thought about what it would of been like if I had the supportive parent home life unfortunatually I didn't. I have seen so many disappointed kids over the years just stand on the sidelines looking into the stands in hopes that their parents are watching. It is very fustrating trying to get them focused on the game when nobody is watching really misleads kids and makes them angry sometimes it's good but usually turns them away from trying. I have also seen parents fly from afar to see them play and those kids have played with such passion they really excelled in the program,school,life. I guess it is the same old story "haves and hav nots" some have a parent that cares some don't. I have always told the parents to get involved in their kids lives most of them are looking for approval and really want them to be involved it builds character in the kids and lets them show their talents in a positive way, also helps them stay in school, get good grades and become a better person. We Coaches are in the most difficult position we have to be dads, counselors, mentors, teachers then leaders. I guess thats why Coaching is fulfilling its really not about our coaching ability it is about building responsible men and creating some of the most rememorable moments for kids. The coach that takes the time to be an influece in their lives. Is the coach that wins it all. Oh! Yea!.......visits are great too.......
carson 101, you are so right!! If any of you ever have a chance, read "Season of Life" by Jeffrey Marx about Joe Ehrmann and the Building Men for Others program. It is awesome reading. It demostrrates what can happen with kids when you show you love them and still are will to discipline them. I would also recommend a program developed by the Flip Flippen Group from College Station called "Capturing Kids Hearts". Kids need us more than they ever have and we must be there for them, even if we don't want to. The more you know about the kids them more you are willing to interact with them, the greater the positive impact you will have on their life. Charles Barkley once said he was not a role model. Well, he was wrong and so is any coach/teacher who feels the same way. How you treat those kids, even in the classroom, is going to impact their lives, positively or negatively.