Well it still concerns me though. I know in this sport we can not make everybody happy but I still want the respect of my players and their parents.
Want everybody to love you? Here's how- drop dead right there on the field. There'll be feature stories on TV and in the paper, women will cry (even the second team QB's mom), and the team will wear your initials on their helmet. Maybe they'll even name the stadium after you. You'll be a freakin saint in the town.
If you prefer not to do that (and it's not the road I'd take, personally) you just have to deal with the fact that some people aren't going to like the way you do business. Potayto, potahto.
My biggest issue is my TONE... I expect the kid to do it right! If I thought he was a worthless POS then I would jump up and down in happiness if he did it right. My job is to fix mistakes when on the football field, not blow smoke up little Jimmy's behind.
This is definitely one of the things I am trying to learn how to do... be more positive but don't blow smoke. If anyone has suggestions, I'll take them too!
"I firmly believe that any man's finest hour, the greatest fulfillment of all that he holds dear, is the moment when he has worked his heart out in a good cause and lies exhausted on the field of battle-victorious." - V. Lombardi
"If it doesn't matter who wins or loses, then why do they keep score?" - V. Lombardi
Here's my take. You have to be critical and you have to yell at times. You have to encourage and instruct and expect perfection. You have to run the play until its perfect and if a kid is lazy, not paying attention or just isn't getting it you have to let the player know it's not okay. We are gonna do this play until everyone is running and blocking and trapping to perfection. This is why we win gentlemen. If you don't care about winning then you're on the wrong team. If you can't handle the stress you're on the wrong team. It's not about you lil Johnny it's about the player next to you suffering from you're mistakes. Football is not for everyone, getting yelled at is not the worse thing on the football field. I yell alot but I also praise alot. I'm critical about details and I expect the players to be the same.
Last Edit: Apr 13, 2012 1:35:54 GMT -6 by coachbuck
Post by coachweav88 on Apr 14, 2012 18:28:35 GMT -6
This comes from Whale Done! by Dr. Ken Blanchard
when mistakes occur, use the redirection response.
1. Describe the error as soon as possible, clearly and without blame. 2.Show its negative impact 3. If appropriate, take the blame for not making the task clear. 4. Go over the task in detail and make sure it is clearly understood 5.Express your continuing trust and confidence in the person
I tell my guys all the time that when they do things right I am proud of them but normally quite. My voice is not loud but I will get in their face when they are not getting it done and have had people tell me I am the most positive coach ever and the most negative.
I will tell them that I respect them as a person but I do not as a player and I do not hold back. I will tell them exactly why I do not respect them as a player. I normally sit the team down and go over this in front of the team once or twice a year. I give them things to do to earn my respect. Some people will tell you not to do this in front of the team but it seems to work better for me in front of the team and they see that I have no favorites when it comes to respect. After I do this I will be in their ear to do better and praise them like crazy when they do. Which is not natural for me.
I have always had a great relationship with our players off the field and the older I get the more important it has become to me and I think it allows me to get on them even harder. The older I get I have become more negative. The good lord blessed me with a voice that does not carry and parents tend to think that I never get on them. I have always had at least one assistant that is very loud and the parents think they are very negative and they really are angels compared to me.