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Post by temposquad on Feb 21, 2012 22:01:08 GMT -6
Looks like my wife and I will be celebrating the birth of our 2nd child during August camp. Anybody been through this? Any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated!!
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Post by Coach Huey on Feb 21, 2012 22:43:49 GMT -6
Advice on what?
Please, tell me you're not contemplating missing the birth of your child for football practice...
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Post by carookie on Feb 21, 2012 22:55:58 GMT -6
Get all your ducks in a row so you whoever has to fill in for you knows exactly what you want done, and then be there for your wife and your family.
Have had this happen to a couple of coaches Ive worked with. Just make sure that you have outlined in much detail what you want done so you won't worry about football (much).
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Post by julien on Feb 22, 2012 0:51:14 GMT -6
Easy: Be there for your family.
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Post by mattyg2787 on Feb 22, 2012 4:02:57 GMT -6
Go through everything with your assistants starting now. make sure they don't need to call you. keep phone with you at any trainings you do make even if this breaks your rules.
When you get the phone call, drop everything and go to your wife. make sure both parties are healthy and enjoy fartherhood.
Football will still be around when life settles down again.
Congratulations as well coach
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Post by John Knight on Feb 22, 2012 5:59:08 GMT -6
The best advice is, take a year off.
Since you won't do that, find someone that will work with you and do your program, like a former player to help out. My daughter was born Aug 2 1990, first day of doubles. My head Coach covered me for 4 days while I was at the hospital after my wife had to have emergency C-section. Football was not even on my mind. Every picture of my kids have me in a coaching shirt or shirt and tie going to work!
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Post by Chris Clement on Feb 22, 2012 8:28:17 GMT -6
On a practical note, make practice plans using one less coach than you have. That's what we do everyday because our staff is cobbled together from people who make it when they can. It's easier to double one group with the extra guy than to rearrange everything over a sudden absence.
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Post by temposquad on Feb 22, 2012 8:35:57 GMT -6
Guys honestly... That is not the question of whether or not to be there for my wife that is obvious. I was referring to planning things out, balancing the situation and managing my time. Was just wanting to hear from some guys that had been through this.
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Post by bighit65 on Feb 22, 2012 8:46:39 GMT -6
2 things need to be said here. 1. Congratulations. 2. Always bring protection to Halloween parties.
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Post by red on Feb 22, 2012 12:29:38 GMT -6
2 babies both in August. It actually works out pretty well. In my experience, once all the dust settles it is a little easier because my wife was on maternity leave the majority of the season, that kinda took off some pressure of things since she was home so much. And by the time the season is over all the really cool stuff starts (personalty, smiles etc)
I only did late and early feedings (my nipples really hurt) since I was up then anyway. It for sure takes away alot of your focus but in a great way! Could be your best season ever since perspective changes quite a bit, just roll with it
Congrats
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Post by rudyrude9 on Feb 22, 2012 12:41:31 GMT -6
Yep I have two August babies also. Works out great since you don't sleep during the football season anyway it makes it easier to do the late feedings then just get back to watching film.
Alot of football coaches have babies in the fall. Do the math, season ends baby comes nine months later.
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Post by John Knight on Feb 22, 2012 13:10:50 GMT -6
My wife says my daughter was a playoff baby!
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Post by coachcb on Feb 22, 2012 13:13:37 GMT -6
You tell that little woman she'll need to buck-up and have that kid on her own 'cause you'll be installing Buck-sweep.
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Post by mrjvi on Feb 23, 2012 9:30:08 GMT -6
We had our 3rd daughter on October 2nd a long time ago. We got home from the hospital and I went to the game 2 hours later. Left her with a new born and 2 toddlers. Yes, She is a saint. We Don't really remember it much now 20 years later.
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Post by blb on Feb 23, 2012 9:56:52 GMT -6
First, tempo, are you the head coach?
Similar happened to us last season. Mother-in-law who lived with us was undergoing hospice from June on and so we had to be prepared.
She lived until first week of Two-a-days. Coaches know how we run practice so it basically was just a matter of covering for my positions during Individual and who was going to run Offense during Team. I did leave practice plans for both sessions.
You can have a Varsity coach double up (one coaches entire Front 7, for example) or have JV position coach take yours for drills (has all LBers 10-12 for example).
The funeral was out of town. My wife left and finalized arrangements. With my wife's suggestion-blessing, I stayed and coached until day before, then came back immediately after service so I missed one day.
(Asked one of our captains how it went. He said, "Okay, but it was like having a substitute teacher.")
Our youngest was born on Thursday night during season. Left for hospital right before practice when I got the call and was there for birth. Took Friday off from school, coached game that night.
Baby started having trouble breathing after I left hospital and was put into ICU. My wife didn't tell me until Saturday morning when I returned (game was out of town and we lived half an hour from hospital) because she "didn't want to distract me from the game." Turned out okay, they were able to come home couple days later.
I have the greatest coach's wife in the world. Make that just wife.
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Post by bigm0073 on Feb 23, 2012 10:34:32 GMT -6
My first boy was born on August 14th  I planned it out pretty good with my assistants. My wife was in labor for over 24 hours until he was finally born at 3:30 AM on a Tuesday morning. I missed that Monday and Tuesday... Came back that Wednesday and my assistants had done a great job. Had our first scrimmage that Friday - Drove my wife and kid him with the in laws and went to the scrimmage. Was watching film that night at 1:00 AM with my son giving him a bottle... 2 weeks later he is at our home opener not even 3 weeks old... Pretty cool stuff. |
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Post by kwallis on Feb 23, 2012 10:44:31 GMT -6
Going to be in the same boat. We are expecting our first kid on August 12th. We start later here in KS, like the 15th or 16th, so avoiding any major issues I shouldn't miss much. I'm the HC but have great assistants. They will do a great job if I have to miss. My wife will take 3 months of leave and then I'll take off as soon as football is over. Our kid won't go to daycare until mid January, or until my mother in law decides to retire.
Going to be great, just one more reason for me to be anxious for August to get here
kw
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Post by shamespiral on Feb 23, 2012 13:39:59 GMT -6
Child 1. Born Sept 8th. Induced so I would not miss the varsity game the next night. He was born at 12:03. I was at the walk thru at 3:30.
Child 2. Born Aug 21st. Induced so I wouldn't miss two-a-days.
As far as having a baby during FB season? Get ready. Your wife will be tired. She will need a break. You are not going to get one.
Handle all your work business at work. Don't bring it home with you. When you get to the house it's go time dude. Washing, feeding, changing, all that.
You'll be exhausted and probably lose your mind. But enjoy it.
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Post by Chris Clement on Feb 23, 2012 13:58:53 GMT -6
This is bringing back fond memories of me and my dad watching Reggie Ho kick four field goals against Michigan. I was two days old at the time, but he insists I opened my eyes to watch Ricky Watters score on a punt return.
Also, your wife didn't mind being induced twice to work around your season?
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Post by rpetrie on Feb 23, 2012 15:32:19 GMT -6
Child #1 - born Oct. 3rd, the day before Homecoming game. I missed Friday's pregame walkthrough and the morning breakfast...wife kicked me out of the hospital by 11AM so she could rest. We won 35-0 and I was back at the hospital by 5:00PM Child #2 - born in May, no issues there; Child #3 - born Aug. 22nd, during double sessions. Missed 2 full days of practice and 3 other sessions. We made playoffs so there were no issues.
It's not a big deal...you are a part of a staff, the staff should know what everyone else is doing at all times anyhow. Review the drills, trust someone else with the install. Keep the practice about fundamentals and techniques that are clearly defined. Enjoy the situation of your new addition. Before you know it your wife will be kicking you out of the house anyway because you will be driving her nuts...back to practice you go!!!
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