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Post by autiger7 on Sept 21, 2007 7:10:23 GMT -6
I am a QB and Running Backs Coach currently for are varsity football team the other day I was called in our head coaches office because he needed to see me. He begins to belittle and talk down to me about small thing that are not being done, such as borrowing a camera from the technology department. I informed him no one had told me that this was my responsibility but I would do it. He then continues to talk down to me about other things when I finally have enough. I say some thing back to him about maybe he should be more clear on responsibilities since he is the head coach. He then loses it, he says "that I have little man syndrome and yel F**K You" and slams the door. This 5 minutes before practice. We walk out to practice and practice as if nothing happened. After practice he gets in his truck and leaves. I call his house that night but no one answers so I leave a message stating that we both want to win football games and that this thing has got blown way out of proportion, lets talk it out like men and move on. He never calls the next morning I ask him before school if we can talk we go into office I again suggest that we talk this thing out that it has been blown out of proportion. The head Coach then tells me and I quote "I do not want to talk to you, I will let you know when we can talk" and walks out. This happen two days ago and not a word has been spoken yet. Any suggestion on how to remedy this awkward situation would be appreciated
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Post by olinecoach61 on Sept 21, 2007 7:26:44 GMT -6
Ride out the rest of the season and find a better job, this guy sounds like a d - bag. That's no way to run an organization.
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Post by shs06 on Sept 21, 2007 7:46:16 GMT -6
I agree. Coach the rest of this season out. Make sure that you coach for kids, the rest of the staff (if he has not had them cut you off), and yourself. Do what you know is right and you will be fine. It will not be fun, but you will grow from it and have better ideas about how to handle things when you become a HC.
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Post by lochness on Sept 21, 2007 7:52:27 GMT -6
Nice! Guy sounds like the model of professionalism and clearly holds himself personally accountable for the performance of the team.  ICEBERG...RIGHT AHEAD!! Abandon ship, lad...the day after your last game. |
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Post by coachcalande on Sept 21, 2007 9:22:08 GMT -6
I have been there. A "head coach" has to have integrity and the ability to lead. You cant be expected to follow if he wont lead you. He should certainly have made his expectations to you clear. A failure to communicate and a tendency to pass blame are clear indications that you are working for someone who doesnt deserve the title he owns. leave. IF it were me Id resign immediately and find a more deserving coach to work with .
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Post by ajreaper on Sept 21, 2007 10:06:48 GMT -6
I've been there and either he leaves or you need to. Has he been there a while and how does he relate to the rest of the staff? In my case the guy was looking for another job almost as soon as he arrived and he was not very well respected by anyone he dealt with more then occassionally.
LOL, funny thing is he ended up as the HC and AD at an NAIA school in the midwest- ran into him at the AFCA conference a few years back and thought "how is it possible a complete horses butt ends up in the position he's in"? There is no justice in the world I guess.
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Post by autigers on Sept 21, 2007 10:32:56 GMT -6
Thanks for all the input. You guys are absolutely right as soon as the season is over I will begin looking for another job. The guy has been the head coach for the last four years and I have worked for him those four years. WE have had some altercations in the past but nothing to th extent as this. I know this is a situation that will better prepare me for my one day head coaching position. So I plan on taking it with a grain salt and learn from it.
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Post by brophy on Sept 21, 2007 12:18:23 GMT -6
autigers, you need to be smart. You need to address this and keep the kids first. The head coach needs you in his corner - he needs your help in making the team better. I recommend; www.poopsenders.com/ |
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Post by airman on Sept 21, 2007 12:22:09 GMT -6
clearly there is a lack of communication. I would got to the ad and talk to him. state your side and then request a meeting with you, the ad and the head coach to resolve the issue. think win-win not win-lose. a positive solution for all sides. this might make him a better head coach in the future.
too many people these days are I am taking my ball and going home style attitude when things do not work out.
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Post by coachjim on Sept 22, 2007 0:04:38 GMT -6
I have found that certain professions draw individuals to them that need power and control over others to validate themselves. Type A personalities, usually, and either cops, coaches, security, or senators. Or, perhaps this guy is stressed to his max and needs to step back for a moment and regroup (his belittling sends up little warning signals) he is being this way because he doesn't feel good about himself or defensive about his coaching performance. Insecure. Take another tact which feeds power/control types, insecure types, and d-bags all in one: Talk to him about how you can help him with some of his work load on something to free him up for other things. As an assistant, that will help you both and bring you closer to the same goal, reduce his stress, make you appear subservient to feed that ever nasty, power and control type... and lastly, will help the team. Don't take it personally. Don't quit. Don't let it bother you. Or you will turn into him.  |
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Post by spartancoach on Sept 25, 2007 12:56:52 GMT -6
I have found that certain professions draw individuals to them that need power and control over others to validate themselves. Type A personalities, usually, and either cops, coaches, security, or senators. Or, perhaps this guy is stressed to his max and needs to step back for a moment and regroup (his belittling sends up little warning signals) he is being this way because he doesn't feel good about himself or defensive about his coaching performance. Insecure. Take another tact which feeds power/control types, insecure types, and d-bags all in one: Talk to him about how you can help him with some of his work load on something to free him up for other things. As an assistant, that will help you both and bring you closer to the same goal, reduce his stress, make you appear subservient to feed that ever nasty, power and control type... and lastly, will help the team. Don't take it personally. Don't quit. Don't let it bother you. Or you will turn into him. Or, maybe he is just a d*ck. Get away from him. |
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Post by coachjim on Sept 26, 2007 7:41:57 GMT -6
"Or, maybe he is just a d*ck. Get away from him." Yeah, or that.  |
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