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Post by lcrusaders on Nov 10, 2010 23:02:06 GMT -6
i coach at a small catholic hs with small numbers. one day, soccer was having their senior night, so alot of parents were there. their field was the one next to ours.
as me and my other lne coach were going through group period, this yuppy looking soccer mom came walking straight onto our field , disrupting our session.
"coach! can i have a word with you?"
apparently, this lady was horrified that the other coach had told the players after they were screwing around to "take their heads out of their ass"
she went off about how that "wasnt how we did it here (at our school)"which is crazy because i played there for 4 years, our other coach did and the head coach had been saying things like that as hc for 40 years. my coach handled it well saying sorry but she just wouldnt have it..."dont say sorry to me say it to the kids" "im talking to the ad" etyc...basically embarresing him in front of the kids and taking up prac time.
how would you feel?
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Post by jpdaley25 on Nov 11, 2010 6:17:55 GMT -6
I don't stop practice. She was already mad, she can leave that way too... or she can wait and speak to me after practice. That said, coaches and players have to be careful what they say. Perception is everything - This nice religous lady is going to run her mouth to every person she can possibly get to listen about how those coaches are setting a poor example for our kids.
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Post by mhcoach on Nov 11, 2010 7:14:43 GMT -6
Icrusaders
Having coached at a Catholic HS I understand sometimes things can be a little strange. I agree with JP that she shouldn't have interuppted practice. Where I coached the AD was a Brother, He would have ran her off the field, thus keeping the coaches out of it. I'm sure you were polite & I would just let it roll off like water off a duck.
Joe
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Post by coach4life on Nov 11, 2010 10:54:05 GMT -6
Oh man the temptation to suggest that she go do the anatomically impossible must have been brutal...
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Post by gdn56 on Nov 11, 2010 11:09:23 GMT -6
The big mistake here is when the lady says, "coach may I have a word with you?", the answer has to be along the lines of "Yes, feel free to come by my office, or classroom, or speak to me when practice is over, but I am responsible for the rest of these players and we have to finish our practice".
The bottom line is, the lady has a right to be angry, and you have a right to defend your position. The issue is, selecting an appropriate time and place to have the discussion. Regardless, she is wrong for approaching you at your place of business and calling you out in front of the players.
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Post by calkayne on Nov 11, 2010 13:17:49 GMT -6
Is she covered by your insurance if she is injured while trapsing all over your Practice Field?
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Post by jml on Nov 11, 2010 15:00:45 GMT -6
I agree with not letting her interrupt practice. Had I made the mistake of saying yes, I would have kicked her off the field for being disrespectful and wasting my time.
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Post by coachcb on Nov 11, 2010 16:36:56 GMT -6
The big mistake here is when the lady says, "coach may I have a word with you?", the answer has to be along the lines of "Yes, feel free to come by my office, or classroom, or speak to me when practice is over, but I am responsible for the rest of these players and we have to finish our practice". The bottom line is, the lady has a right to be angry, and you have a right to defend your position. The issue is, selecting an appropriate time and place to have the discussion. Regardless, she is wrong for approaching you at your place of business and calling you out in front of the players. You interrupt my practice, my response is going to be; "No, you may not have a word with me, please leave." |
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Post by airman on Nov 11, 2010 17:06:07 GMT -6
I would have calmly said " this is not the time or place to discuss this. feel free to strop on by my office after practice"
I have a sure fire method for ending parents like this. once in the office I get my trusty tape recorder out and let them know they are being recorded. most parents run so fast it is amazing. I do the same think with players.
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Post by TMGPG on Nov 12, 2010 7:54:06 GMT -6
Sometimes it is best to let an assistant take over practice and tell the the lady that they are at practice and she is more than welcome to e-mail, call, or come in and meet about the subject. This might let the lady cool down a little bit and maybe make a better choice rather than tear apart a coach in front of the team.
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Post by airman on Nov 12, 2010 14:56:15 GMT -6
Sometimes it is best to let an assistant take over practice and tell the the lady that they are at practice and she is more than welcome to e-mail, call, or come in and meet about the subject. This might let the lady cool down a little bit and maybe make a better choice rather than tear apart a coach in front of the team. I disagree with the email or call option. people will write and say thing to you as a coach that they would never say to your face. I do not allow passive aggressive behavior at all to take place. |
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Post by dania on Nov 13, 2010 6:46:09 GMT -6
Without sounding cold, why do you care what she thinks?
The only opinions that matter in our program outside the coaches offices, is the parent who donates money.
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Post by hamerhead on Nov 13, 2010 8:35:54 GMT -6
"OHHHH.....I always wondered why your son played soccer. Now I understand. Have a good day ma'am."
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Post by dubber on Nov 13, 2010 10:33:25 GMT -6
There is a reason I will always be an assistant..........
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Post by jml on Nov 13, 2010 14:44:35 GMT -6
"OHHHH.....I always wondered why your son played soccer. Now I understand. Have a good day ma'am." love it... I will remember that one.. |
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Post by lcrusaders on Nov 14, 2010 21:14:41 GMT -6
Without sounding cold, why do you care what she thinks? The only opinions that matter in our program outside the coaches offices, is the parent who donates money. i could care less about that soccer mom. im worried that this could a. ruin the practice session and b. cause my image to change in the players minds to a new found bad guy image dubbed by some snobby mom |
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Post by wolfden12 on Nov 14, 2010 21:38:38 GMT -6
Time and place for everything. Try to be aware of the situation and handle things away from the kids.
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Post by dania on Nov 15, 2010 8:53:07 GMT -6
Without sounding cold, why do you care what she thinks? The only opinions that matter in our program outside the coaches offices, is the parent who donates money. i could care less about that soccer mom. im worried that this could a. ruin the practice session and b. cause my image to change in the players minds to a new found bad guy image dubbed by some snobby mom Just be yourself and you have nothing to worry about. |
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Post by Chris Clement on Nov 15, 2010 10:10:20 GMT -6
If your kids are all around 16, they're probably very aware that parents are crazy people who rarely get anything right.
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Post by lcrusaders on Nov 15, 2010 10:27:05 GMT -6
If your kids are all around 16, they're probably very aware that parents are crazy people who rarely get anything right. ahahahh! awesome! |
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