juice10
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Post by juice10 on Oct 15, 2007 12:40:51 GMT -6
How do you handle parents who are just downright degrading to your football team, players, and coaches?
I have parents who stand on the sidelines and swear up and down F^&%ing coaches, F&*^ing so and so. Pieces of Sh&t.
They stand so close to our players on the sidelines, I can only imagine what they are thinking.
I have asked for advice from my superiors and the best they can give me is handle it yourself. How do I go about doing this? What are things I can do because this is driving absolutely insane!!!
Any and all help will be greatly appreciated.
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Post by tothehouse on Oct 15, 2007 12:46:38 GMT -6
Have him join your staff.  |
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Post by dsqa on Oct 15, 2007 13:06:05 GMT -6
Our AD just wrote a letter to clear the sideline for the sake of the players and coaching staff. It is the administrator's job to monitor parent access. Just my opinion.
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Post by gacoach on Oct 15, 2007 13:30:46 GMT -6
I honestly think that happens everywhere. We have the "critics". They are critical of our playcalling, substitutions, new plays, even of our best players getting the ball too much?!?
We've also got the "I'd rather my son play and us lose, than us win and my son stand on the sideline" group.
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Post by lochness on Oct 15, 2007 13:32:23 GMT -6
The downfall of football and western civilization itself....
Sad.
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Post by goldenbear76 on Oct 15, 2007 14:06:18 GMT -6
Definitely get them off the sidelines if they are there. Sounds like they feel they already are coaches by being there.
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juice10
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Post by juice10 on Oct 15, 2007 14:13:52 GMT -6
Do your wives or relatives go to the games? The reason I ask is because my father will NOT go to another game.
My wife will not go to another football game either? My wife took my 5 year old daughter to our last football game and she had to leave during the 3rd quarter due to vulgar language and parents degrading our football team. I enjoy having my family members their to watch what I am doing and what I spend so much of my free time working on.
I completely understand that a HC and his assts will be in a crossfire for this and that, but at what point do you say enough is enough. I feel sorry for our true blue fans and most importantly our kids on the sidelines that have to listen to the comments from the "critic" section.
Keep the advice coming it is GREATLY appreciated and allows me some time to vent. Thanks!!
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juice10
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Post by juice10 on Oct 15, 2007 14:15:18 GMT -6
How would you or what suggestions do you have to get them off the sidelines?
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Post by ajreaper on Oct 15, 2007 14:17:01 GMT -6
Get whomever does security at your field and have them removed- if any of us went into a place of business and cut lose with streams of profanity we'd be asked to leave and if we did not then the police would be called. Our office just happens to be a field.
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Post by coachd5085 on Oct 15, 2007 14:26:21 GMT -6
juice-i take it you aren't in a school setting. Even so, yes, the local law enforement would probably be able to help out. The behavior is not good for the kids
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Post by CoachDaniel on Oct 15, 2007 21:51:40 GMT -6
We had a "fan" removed friday night who was harrassing the coaching staff during pregame.
His parting shot as they took him out: "THIS ALL COULD HAVE BEEN FIXED WITH AN APOLOGY!" ....what....?
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Post by jraybern on Oct 15, 2007 22:58:10 GMT -6
Maybe I could get away with it or maybe I couldn't....I'd tell the administration that if those people are seen on the sideline again this season that I won't be next season. My wife and parents go to all of my games and the school would be finding another coach if they were having to tolerate this behavior.
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Post by coachcoyote on Oct 16, 2007 0:13:14 GMT -6
If it is a school related activity, there should be an administrator/AD in attendance. If not, there should be security of some type. It sounds like you're playing at a public park. If that's so, a park ranger/police should be available for help.
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Post by coachcalande on Oct 16, 2007 3:11:07 GMT -6
put on a thick skin suit, dont listen to it, request that security speak to them if they are not observing limits /boundaries...one more idea, find out whos parent is, tell the kid to get them to shut up. I know one coach who had an issue like that and he told the parent, pipe down or the kid sits in the stands.
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Post by coachcalande on Oct 16, 2007 3:13:26 GMT -6
let me add, this is one more thing that can be nipped in the bud in the preseason with player and parent contracts. stress the importance of a first class operation including parents and fans.
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Post by olinecoach61 on Oct 16, 2007 5:50:03 GMT -6
Turn up the volume on your headset...
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Post by brophy on Oct 16, 2007 5:50:21 GMT -6
it is the job of the principal / AD to handle the crowd. The coach is supposed to coach.
Contact the principal / AD and if that goes no where, drop a line at the school board.
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Post by coachm on Oct 16, 2007 6:18:24 GMT -6
hand them the whistle.
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Post by 1ispread on Oct 16, 2007 7:19:32 GMT -6
If they were only hollering 'come on why did you run that play or why are you passing' that would be one thing but if there are people dropping F-BOMBS at a public gathering and there is no action being taken by those overseeing the event to make it known that is unacceptable behavior. I'd say the people overseeing the event (football game) or either weak, lazy or incompetent or a little of all three. People do what they are allowed to do.
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juice10
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Post by juice10 on Oct 16, 2007 7:28:38 GMT -6
Thanks for all the replies. This has been going on for years before I got here. I understand the reason for the coaches before me to walk away. They have never been happy here with any coaches and it has to stop.
My biggest complaint is this is supposed to be a positive environment for my players and it is not that way with the parents and fans. It has definately got to the point where it is affecting me personally as well as the rest of my staff.
I appreciate your inputs and we are in the very early stages I hope of putting something together for next year in terms of conduct on the sidelines with the fans.
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Post by dubber on Oct 16, 2007 9:01:10 GMT -6
let me add, this is one more thing that can be nipped in the bud in the preseason with player and parent contracts. stress the importance of a first class operation including parents and fans. these things help a lot, but are not full proof....... .....how many times have they approached "the new guy" on staff (me) after a JV or varsity game about playing time/strategy-----clearly outlined as a no-no in our parent's meeting?  ? enough for me to hang it up in the high school ranks F-bombers will be taken care of by security personnel (at least the ones in the stands that is  ) |
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barnone
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Post by barnone on Oct 16, 2007 9:18:15 GMT -6
Juice I feel your pain, but hopefully you are not dealing with what we are. We lost last week to a team that is not very good (we played really bad the first half). I coach at an all-black school and the coaching staff is majority white. We have parents cussing us from the stands, but they bring race into it (Dumb white coaches, ect..) They told our players after the game not to worry it was not the players fault but the dumb @ss white coaches. Then several tried to fight a couple of our coaches and our AD on the field after the game. Oh, did I mention it was an away game...  |
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Post by tigercoach on Oct 16, 2007 10:48:18 GMT -6
Do your wives or relatives go to the games? The reason I ask is because my father will NOT go to another game. My wife will not go to another football game either? My wife took my 5 year old daughter to our last football game and she had to leave during the 3rd quarter due to vulgar language and parents degrading our football team. I enjoy having my family members their to watch what I am doing and what I spend so much of my free time working on. I completely understand that a HC and his assts will be in a crossfire for this and that, but at what point do you say enough is enough. I feel sorry for our true blue fans and most importantly our kids on the sidelines that have to listen to the comments from the "critic" section. Keep the advice coming it is GREATLY appreciated and allows me some time to vent. Thanks!! My wife and family that attend go to the press box. |
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barnone
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Post by barnone on Oct 16, 2007 11:04:20 GMT -6
Hey tiger...Where are you at in OK?
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Post by coachcoyote on Oct 17, 2007 0:13:10 GMT -6
What a bunch of crap. No wonder the races can't get together with comments like that. We'd be in deep doo-doo if we espoused that kind of talk.
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Post by coachcalande on Oct 17, 2007 5:58:21 GMT -6
this is why coach curry has his "commandments" for parents.
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Post by tog on Oct 17, 2007 6:31:19 GMT -6
We never hold kids accountable for the stupidity of their parents doing these sorts of things.
1. It isn't the kid's fault his parents want to scream invectives from the stands.
2. Just have security kick them out.
3. The kid is usually more sickened by it than you and the staff are. I mean, he has to go home to those people.
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barnone
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Post by barnone on Oct 17, 2007 7:07:44 GMT -6
Yea we don't hold that against the kids. Matter of fact our QB. (whose father was one of the people that said some stuff.) The kid goes I am sorry but I can't help what my Dad says. We were like true.
Now we have a parent Coach meeting on Monday directed by the Sup. I am just gonna wear ear plugs and sit in the back, so that will help me from making any comments. Sad to say if it doesn't get better this may be my last year at this place. Also, I may get shot after the game this week. If we don't win we don't make the playoffs.
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mike13
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Post by mike13 on Oct 17, 2007 7:25:53 GMT -6
Barnone, I feel your pain. I left a school for the same reasons. I got tired of my wife and kids either leaving the game or sitting on the opponents side.
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Post by 1ispread on Oct 17, 2007 13:51:33 GMT -6
juice 10 & barnone, you already know this but you're dealing with stupid people, ignore them they are bullies whose bark is far worse than their bite. They act like they want to fight knowing they are protected by your obligation to responsibilty & respect of your position & profession.
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