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Post by utchuckd on Aug 9, 2010 21:58:47 GMT -6
Had a kid quit tonite. His parents made him come tell the HC that they didn't want him to play for us cause they didn't think he was being treated fairly. He's a 10 year old in a 10-12 yo league so they think he's gonna get screwed out of playing time because he's younger. Imo they are looking for reasons to be offended and cause trouble, they conveniently don't realize he played as much or more than any 10 year old in Saturday's scrimmage, especially one that's 3rd on the depth chart. They've already complained to the board 3 times about us, but they are all smiles to our faces. And they make the kid come tell us they are making him quit. That just doesn't sit right with me. Honestly we're not gonna miss him from the depth chart, he runs from contact. But I believe he wants to be a part of something and I really think being on our team was some of the little positive attention he ever gets. Good little kid in spite of his jackass parents, which is amazing to me, and he needs football a lot more than it needs him. I saw him walking off after practice after he told the HC he was quitting, he looked heartbroken. Maybe he'll get to play on another team.  /rant |
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Post by coachdoug on Aug 10, 2010 0:17:04 GMT -6
Had a kid quit tonite. His parents made him come tell the HC that they didn't want him to play for us cause they didn't think he was being treated fairly. He's a 10 year old in a 10-12 yo league so they think he's gonna get screwed out of playing time because he's younger. Imo they are looking for reasons to be offended and cause trouble, they conveniently don't realize he played as much or more than any 10 year old in Saturday's scrimmage, especially one that's 3rd on the depth chart. They've already complained to the board 3 times about us, but they are all smiles to our faces. And they make the kid come tell us they are making him quit. That just doesn't sit right with me. Honestly we're not gonna miss him from the depth chart, he runs from contact. But I believe he wants to be a part of something and I really think being on our team was some of the little positive attention he ever gets. Good little kid in spite of his jackass parents, which is amazing to me, and he needs football a lot more than it needs him. I saw him walking off after practice after he told the HC he was quitting, he looked heartbroken. Maybe he'll get to play on another team. /rant I hate hearing stories like this. It breaks my heart to see how adults hurt the children that they should care the most about. I'm sure these parents don't realize the harm they cause. All I can say is listen to all the interviews on college & pro telecasts and listen if any player ever says something like, "You know, it all changed for me when my parents stepped in and insisted that my Pee Wee coach played me more. Without that opportunity I never would have had the chance to have been seen by scouts. Thanks Mom & Dad!!" Have y'all ever heard that? Me neither. OTOH, how often have you heard something like, "When I was a kid, I got benched once by my Pee Wee coach and my parents sat me down and told me that if I didn't get with the program I would be in for a lifetime of unfulfilled potential and unrealized dreams. I decided right then and there that a lack of effort and determination on my part would never be the reason for me not achieving my goals. That has made all the difference in my career - I owe a lot to my parents and that Pee Wee coach." Now, that story I have heard plenty of times. Yet, how often do we have to deal with parents that expect the first story to be their story?? Unbelievable. I'm sorry you have to put up with this stuff, utchuckd. I hope the kid lands on another team as well, but, honestly, I doubt he'll have a positive experience on any team until his (I'm sure well-intentioned) parents back off and let the kid just enjoy himself wherever the coaches put him. |
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Post by spurred on Aug 10, 2010 4:06:24 GMT -6
What I tell my players is adversity builds character......if it were easy to be successful in football everyone would be. From my experience I feel I get away with being tougher on a whole to the team, because I don't single anyone out. I expect the whole team to work hard...
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Post by daveinsarasota on Aug 10, 2010 7:23:05 GMT -6
I tell the kids...don't count the reps, make the reps you get count. It is up to you, to influence playing time...not me. Playing time, nd positions is based on performance, and what's best for the team. I do not have a kid on the team, so they know that I am completely objective. They know that I look at hustle, and production. Both of which usually go hand in hand.
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Post by utchuckd on Aug 10, 2010 7:40:58 GMT -6
I'd say most of us tell the kids the same thing about playing time and most of them get it. But it doesn't do much good when it's the parents doing all the bitching and moaning.
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Post by daveinsarasota on Aug 10, 2010 8:08:17 GMT -6
I'd say most of us tell the kids the same thing about playing time and most of them get it. But it doesn't do much good when it's the parents doing all the bitching and moaning. True...well to head it off...you can approach them face to face, and simply ask; "what are your expectations?" Often times, the direct dialog can go a along way. The most important thing to convey to them, is that you are going to use their kid, in such a way that will be fair to him, and to the team. It is not all about their kid. They need to understand that. Parents have blinders on...sometimes it takes a little tough love on the part of the coach to convery where their kid fits in to the total picture. Not that you are guilty of this or anything....but the tough part, often times, is to not send the message that their kid is worthless and expendable. Parents will hate you for that... |
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Post by dsqa on Aug 11, 2010 11:09:11 GMT -6
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