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Post by dubber on Sept 15, 2009 7:17:16 GMT -6
We have an unoffical team doctor.
He is the father-in-law of our HC, and a chiropractor. He would see any number of our kids for free. Our starting DT was in there 3 x's a week. Never charged a penny, even neglected other (paying) patients to help out our kids.
He died suddenly yesterday of a massive heart attack.
We talked as a team, mainly about how to "be there" for our HC (who was understandably absent), and how we wanted to approach practice that day. We prayed.
Right now, it's shock.
When our players get into denial, anger, depression, etc. how do we handle that as a staff?
Hell, as a staff, how do we handle ourselves?
We will be doing some things to honor him Friday night, and I think that is appropriate (stickers on helmets, a sign, maybe some T-shirts)...........
I just know that the grieving process can be screwed up, and wondered if anyone can clue us in on what we could expect.
Thanks.
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Post by coach4life on Sept 15, 2009 9:47:38 GMT -6
Here's a link that offers 2 models for how we often handle grief: www.cancersurvivors.org/Coping/end%20term/stages.htmUnfortunately understanding a model will not take away the pain. The shock reaction is normal. I've found the best way to handle it is to have empathy for how others are feeling, remember all the great things that the HC father-in-law brought to those he touched and honor that. Stick to the routine, kids are resilient. They'll be okay. The weird thing to me about those situations is I'm always left with what that person brought into my world, it seems as if it wouldn't surprise me to run into him/her one day at the mall, airport, etc. They have become part of me and us in a social group. That's part of what makes it so hard, we know we've lost someone that helped us grow and we love, because we loved them we could grow, and now that's gone. The good thing is though they may not be physically present in your here and now, he or she is still with you, you carry a part of them as they are still part of you, and always shall be.
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Post by caneman on Sept 15, 2009 10:28:35 GMT -6
If you can at your school, either you or someone who is willing pray together to the Lord Jesus Christ as a staff and as a team and ask for His help with the situation.
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