eric58
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Post by eric58 on May 12, 2009 10:22:36 GMT -6
To those who are dad's, how did you guys find time to work on football stuff? My son is going to be three weeks old and I try to find time to do football stuff but just can't seem to find the time. I try and help my wife out as much as I can. I don't know how you guys do it during the season either.
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Post by phantom on May 12, 2009 10:34:28 GMT -6
Congratulations.
How do you handle fatherhood and football? You have hobbies and/or a social life? Well, make that "You HAD hobbies and/or a social life".
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Post by thunder17 on May 12, 2009 10:35:56 GMT -6
Enjoy it now. Just wait until they get older and they have their own practices to attend. Thats when it becomes a $^&#*! Having a good wife is the secret. Also, if football is that important then you have to give up some of the other "hobbies" to devote your spare time to mostly football. Congrats on fatherhood.
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Post by thunder17 on May 12, 2009 10:36:46 GMT -6
Dang it phantom, beat me by a minute.
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Post by cnunley on May 12, 2009 10:37:57 GMT -6
Congrats on the newborn
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Post by fatkicker on May 12, 2009 11:21:53 GMT -6
congrats.....
i don't care what anybody says....that daddy stuff is pretty damn cool..........mine is 3.......i'm still a hero and not an idiot...........for a lil while longer anyway......
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Post by bigm0073 on May 12, 2009 12:01:45 GMT -6
had my first in the middle of august (What a mess..). I do not think I slept that whole season...
If you are a head football coach there is little time to do anything other then coach football and be a good dad and husband. I took the job I have now to be closer to home to my family.
I am at a point (Two boys under 2 years old) that I have to go to the gym at 5:00 AM to workout. If not with weights, running, 7 on 7.... Then I get home and Forget about it!! 5:00 Am - 6:30 AM is really the ONLY time of the day I have to myself.
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Post by fbdoc on May 12, 2009 12:05:09 GMT -6
Involve your son (and your daughters!) as much as you can! I still recall leaving school at 3:15 each day and driving to our day care gal to pick up my daughter who was not quite one and carrying her in a backpack for the entire practice. Liek others have said, you will need to give up some selfish things and also strive to make your time Quality! Enjoy it now - it seems like it was only yesterday I was wrestling with all 3 of my toddlers in a pile of tackling dummies and now ........... all 3 are in college!
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Post by casec11 on May 12, 2009 12:10:03 GMT -6
Congrats ... I just had my first 1 month ago(girl)... being a volunteer coach (my hobby) got put on the back burner for a year or two, between work and the baby I agreed with my wife that it would be a bit to much to coach too... Well I am still hooked on huey. So I will try to make it one year off...the wife has other plans however  |
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Post by atalbert on May 12, 2009 13:23:00 GMT -6
Have a 3 yr old daughter and an 11-month old son. My wife and I both work in excess of 50-55 hours each at our "real jobs". $hit gets pretty hairy come August 12th, but I have 3 rules:
Rule #1 is to use my football salary ($2500) to buy her something nice at Christmas.
Rule #2 is to involve my wife as much as possible. Even if I DON'T want her there, I have to offer and hope she says no.
Rule #3 is to be fully present at whatever you're doing. If I'm with the kids and it's family time, I don't do football. When its football time, no wife and kids. When its bank time, no wife and no kids - try and make time for football (especially when its something my assistant can do for me)
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Post by cqmiller on May 12, 2009 13:36:44 GMT -6
Congratulations! I will probably be asking that question next year so I'll keep an eye on this thread as it goes. My wife and I are trying to plan kids around my Football schedule and her Basketball schedule (She is head basketball coach, I'm assistant for football). Right now we are looking at a pretty short window of time where the baby can be born and have both of us not miss much. After it is born, she is going to do a majority of things during football season, and I'm in charge during basketball. We'll see how it works out. (I'm actually more excited for the trying...  ) Congrats again! |
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Post by hawkfan on May 12, 2009 13:42:48 GMT -6
Congrats on the little one!
I might have to revive this thread in about 2 1/2 months when my son is born. I am going to need some advice on how to juggle family, work, and coaching when the due date is Aug 2nd!?!
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tekart
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Post by tekart on May 12, 2009 13:53:53 GMT -6
Congrats,
Time Management is key, it also helps to be flexible and able to function with little sleep. I was up at 4 this morning watching Winnie the Pooh needless to say not my choice.
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Post by kboyd on May 12, 2009 14:36:43 GMT -6
Make it a family affair - include them whenever you can. I also agree that a great wife is a must to make it work. For example, I leave work in half an hour to go to spring ball practice - my wife is picking up my oldest son (10) and bringing him to my field. After my practice we head to his practice and my wife takes our middle son (6) to soccer with our youngest (2) in tow. If it's worth having, it's worth working for.
Congrats on fatherhood, it'll be a lot of work for you but it is so very much worth it.
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hawke
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Post by hawke on May 12, 2009 15:31:16 GMT -6
Mine came to practice with me. Playpen was put in the trunk and placed under a huge oak tree at one end of the practice field. Who wasn't doing the drill had to keep them amused. As they grew they came and went through some of the drills (LOL). It was a great experience for both me and them. What phantom said is very true. Incidentally he was at many of the practices my older guy was at. Now, remember this quote. Where I heard it I'll never recall but it is a true as can be: "Do not raise your son to be hero. Raise him to be your son and he will become a hero, if only in your eyes." I have 2 heroes and 2 heroines and I love them for what they have become - THEMSELVES!!!!
Remember also that it doesn't take a lot of skill to be a father. It takes much more to be a "DAD!"
Hawke
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Post by indyball on May 12, 2009 15:31:44 GMT -6
My wife and I had our first 9 weeks ago (girl). Thanks for the advice, but yeah, family always needs to come first. I was going to skip next season, but...and this is the important part...my WIFE decided that she was against the idea of me leaving football. I would hate to give up football, but if that is what is needed, than that is what I will do. I would hang up the whistle in a second if I believed it would be a detriment to my kid. Remember, football is a job, jobs come and go...a child is a lifelong experience. When football is the "experience" and parenting becomes a "job", you may want to rethink priorities.
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josh65
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Post by josh65 on May 12, 2009 20:00:28 GMT -6
My daughter is two and the key really is a great woman. Two of the best things in the world are football and hearing my daughter say "Daddy" when I get home.
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Post by phantom on May 12, 2009 20:49:38 GMT -6
My daughter is two and the key really is a great woman. Two of the best things in the world are football and hearing my daughter say "Daddy" when I get home. Roger that. |
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Post by jackedup on May 12, 2009 21:15:34 GMT -6
Congrats!! I had mine on the night of our last scrimmage this past season... It's safe to say I wasn't there. But I understand your feelings. I just turned down an interview for a head coaching job because I knew I couldn't take it if it was offered because it would mean too much time away from my daughter. For me the best thing I read was Matthew 16:26 "For what profit is it to a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul? Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul?"
Congrats again! Cherish everything!
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Post by splitricky5 on May 13, 2009 0:02:28 GMT -6
I out my kids to bed and then I am on the computer typing messages on Huey's board at 2 am...
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Post by michwags19 on May 13, 2009 5:50:47 GMT -6
i've got a three y/o and another who will be two in july. both boys are all over me as soon as i walk through the door. i try to include them whenever possible, but it is difficult at times.
the keys to football season with kids:
1)must have a football coach's wife - they are not normal women.
2)focus on family when home. football at school/work and late night.
3)caffeine and beer. lots of both.
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Post by michwags19 on May 13, 2009 5:52:28 GMT -6
Congrats to WhiteMike52. just had a baby boy on friday 5/8. he wanted glen edward (BO), but the wife wasn't on board.
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Post by casec11 on May 13, 2009 6:16:49 GMT -6
Congrats, Time Management is key, it also helps to be flexible and able to function with little sleep. I was up at 4 this morning watching Winnie the Pooh needless to say not my choice. Ha, I was up at 4 this morning changing POO |
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Post by CoachMikeJudy on May 13, 2009 6:26:09 GMT -6
Thanks Wags. I tried to slip "Schembechler" in there as the middle name, but I caught the stink eye from my wife.
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Post by bulldogoption on May 13, 2009 6:26:20 GMT -6
I have three boys....5, 2 and 1 yr old. Really no time for anything besides church, family, school, coaching. USED to golf, watch TV, etc. When the kids are awake its their time. Early mornings and after their bedtime I can try to get things done.
A three week old is different. They don't have a schedule yet. Once the little one gets on a schedule life gets easier.
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Post by olinecoach61 on May 13, 2009 6:28:51 GMT -6
Congrats, I now have a 3 week old also. I am also concerned with juggling football and fatherhood.
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nexthc
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Post by nexthc on May 13, 2009 9:25:13 GMT -6
Congrads! The misses and I have a 5 1/2 year old daughter and a 3 1/2 year old son. It is not easy to say the least. I am lucky that I have an understanding wife that knows that I coach football.
Early on, it is very hard to find time with football. Try your best. However, it does get easier as they do get a little older. But at first, it is very difficult to find time to do football items.
Hope that this helps. Good luck and congrads again!
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Post by dhooper on May 13, 2009 13:03:42 GMT -6
I have two boys and a little girl. My kids go to meetings and go to clinics with me. They take turns with me on who goes to the clinic or not. They love being with me don't figure. I not sure if I will be able to take my girl because some of the speakers don't' use the best of language. Coach for the first time I have some great assistants so I will be able to take some time off this summer and go on a vacation, looking forward to it. Make them part of the football program. One of the greatest speakers I have heard talk was Stoops from OK. He talk about about how he never had early meeting's allowed his coaches to take there kids to and school and never haves late meetings so they have time with there family. Also how his players and coaches kids would all be in there meetings it was like a child care. But he thought that was important because some of his players needed to know what it was like to be a good father, so on . He was a great speaker, been a fan ever sense. Make your kids part of your program I think thats the key. Great post
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mike13
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Post by mike13 on May 14, 2009 6:15:52 GMT -6
Congrats!!!!!!! Babies are great. Rmember put family first. The rest will line up.
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Post by coachgup on May 14, 2009 8:34:06 GMT -6
We had our second the Monday after the 7th game of this past season 10/20. My oldest just turned 3. Football resposibilities are going to have to get prioritized. After the first one when the baby was sleeping I was sleeping. With the second, when the baby was sleeping I mom was sleeping and Dad was watching film.
Also, whoever said lots of coffee and beer hit the nail on the head.
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