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Post by airraider on Feb 5, 2009 20:21:15 GMT -6
The FFA thread got me to thinking.. which is dangerous.. but what the hey.. The wife and I have been trying to have a baby for about a year or so.. and we were talking the other day about if she got pregnant now.. then the baby would be due in the middle of football season. I told her, man.. I guess we would have to induce labor during the week.. I would hate for it to happen on a Friday and have to miss the birth of my first child. Well.. she didnt miss a beat.. and said.. "I am sure they could manage one game without you, because you WILL be there."  I think she was serious..  So what would/have you done in this situation? I could understand if you were the assistant.. but could you as the header really miss the game for this? |
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Post by dg1694 on Feb 5, 2009 20:27:26 GMT -6
I'd be at the birth of my child. Not even a question.
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Post by airraider on Feb 5, 2009 20:31:01 GMT -6
I'd be at the birth of my child. Not even a question. this was really just a light hearted question.. but it does get you thinking.. YOU may not question it.. but wonder if others would? Personally.. If YOU think YOU should be there.. then by God.. you should.. but I feel there are people sitting in everyone's stands who would think you were in the wrong. |
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Post by tothehouse on Feb 5, 2009 20:44:38 GMT -6
Biggest mistake of your life if you miss the birth of your child. No question....and people could talk all the {censored} they want.
Absolute no brainer.
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Post by coachwilley on Feb 5, 2009 20:45:50 GMT -6
That's funny...My wife and just talked about this and are trying to avoid having our 1st during the football season as well...
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Post by otowncoach on Feb 5, 2009 20:51:54 GMT -6
So what would you do if she gave birth at say noon. Would you go to coach the game at 7?
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Post by wingtol on Feb 5, 2009 20:55:25 GMT -6
If anyone would miss the birth of their child to coach a game then you should have your head examined. I would have no problem punching someone in the face who chose to coach over being at the birth of a child on behalf of the mother.
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Post by rip60zgo on Feb 5, 2009 20:57:53 GMT -6
If anyone would miss the birth of their child to coach a game then you should have your head examined. I would have no problem punching someone in the face who chose to coach over being at the birth of a child on behalf of the mother. I'll hold them! |
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Post by coachmoore42 on Feb 5, 2009 21:07:33 GMT -6
I would have to be at the birth of my child, but I'm afraid my wife would kill me if my team lost, and would absolutely blame it on me not being there.
I just asked her to confirm...her response...how big of a regular season game is it? I can't make this stuff up.
I informed her that regardless of the game I would be at the birth, but we do plan on trying to work around the seasons by aiming for an appropriate conception date.
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Post by airraider on Feb 5, 2009 21:17:04 GMT -6
Come on.. no A-holes out there??? haha Ok.. state championship.. in your first year at the school.. you are the head coach.. team was 0-10 the year before..  |
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Post by kboyd on Feb 5, 2009 21:40:23 GMT -6
We had an assistant whose wife gave birth on game day and she booted him out of the hospital after their kid was born so he could come to the game. My second son was born during the season, but on a Sunday so not only did I get to coach on Friday, but I didn't miss my beloved college games on the Saturday either.
After two (yes two) vasectomies, my third son was born during the week of our Senior Bowl, so I missed most of the practices but still made it to the game.
All that being said, as much as I love our game, I would not even think of missing the birth of my child for a game. Oh, and yes, the third kid looks like me.
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Post by ccox16 on Feb 5, 2009 22:17:19 GMT -6
We had an assistant whose wife gave birth on game day and she booted him out of the hospital after their kid was born so he could come to the game. My second son was born during the season, but on a Sunday so not only did I get to coach on Friday, but I didn't miss my beloved college games on the Saturday either. After two (yes two) vasectomies, my third son was born during the week of our Senior Bowl, so I missed most of the practices but still made it to the game. All that being said, as much as I love our game, I would not even think of missing the birth of my child for a game. Oh, and yes, the third kid looks like me. You have some mighty determined guys in there.  |
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Post by coachjoe3 on Feb 5, 2009 22:59:16 GMT -6
When I was an assistant on my old high school team, my fiancee (now my wife) sat me down in the spring and asked when was a good date for the wedding. Several months later, we were happily married the day after our final game of the season . . . That was my ONE leeway she ever gave me. Don't think I'd ever get another one, so I'd have to be there for the birth of a child. We'd have the game on the local radio station in the hospital room though.  |
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Post by burn on Feb 5, 2009 23:43:47 GMT -6
My dad was at the bar for the birth of all 8 of his kids celebrating their births. My wife didn't allow that with us. He stated that is not a place for a man but I was there for 2 of 3 of my kids births. The last one there were complications and they would not let me in. The doc said they were both about a minute away from dying but everything is fine now. I could not imagine if I was not there and it did go further south and I chose to coach a game. Just my input.
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Post by sin86 on Feb 5, 2009 23:54:20 GMT -6
My daughter was born during the Tennessee Alabama football game. The doctor wasn't even at her birth. I laugh about it now but my wife went into labor and thirty minutes later my daughter was determined to make an appearance. Well I guess she decided her head wasn't going to fit so she tried feet first. When the nurses started freaking out because there was no anastesiologist or Ob/Gyn in town I began to worry. They gave my wife something and a physician's assistant did a C-Section or whatever they call it. I sat in the waiting room and watched the game. I was the only male in the hospital. My wife, an Alabama fan  , has not watched another UT/UA game. Oh by the way never plan your daughter's birthday party on the third Saturday in October, no one will show up. |
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Post by touchdownmaker on Feb 6, 2009 4:01:11 GMT -6
I cant stress enough that coaching a football game in NO WAY compares to the experience and meaning behind being there for the birth of your child, first , second third or whatever. Welcoming your child into this cold world is just one of the most important events of your lifetime. Seeing your child take his or her first breath, hearing that first cry....
Now, smart PLANNING around the pregnancy so that the delivery date is after football makes sense.
Be there, be supportive to your wife and get pictures, video and everything else right after the baby is born.
Nobody will remember the game in a year, you will remember the birth of your child forever and your wife will appreciate you being there.
* couple of years ago I had a coaching interview scheduled...wife went into labor the night before the interview. Baby was born an hour or two after the interview was scheduled. I actually bothered to call the school and tell them we were in the hospital and wanted to rescedule the interview if they were willing. They gave me "til tomorrow"- unfortunately/or fortunately depending on how you look at things, I said " my wife and child will still be in the hospital and I will be right here with them and wished them well with their head coaching search. Any school that cannot understand family before football is a school that I would not want to work for.
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Post by coachdawhip on Feb 6, 2009 5:23:59 GMT -6
FAITH
FAMILY
FOOTBALL
It's a game, my child is worth more than a state championship, not even close..
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Post by coachweigelt on Feb 6, 2009 6:08:42 GMT -6
Family
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Football
Air this might sound like your wife but:"DO NOT SCREW THIS UP!!!" ;D
Even if she tells you it is ok if you go, heck you stay and be happy with your little one.
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Post by realdawg on Feb 6, 2009 6:10:43 GMT -6
While we planned to have our 1st child during the summer (which we did). You cannot miss the birth of your first child. I mean, how many games are you gonna get to coach? How many times is your 1st child born? Think about it.
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Post by tiger46 on Feb 6, 2009 6:32:12 GMT -6
We had an assistant whose wife gave birth on game day and she booted him out of the hospital after their kid was born so he could come to the game. My second son was born during the season, but on a Sunday so not only did I get to coach on Friday, but I didn't miss my beloved college games on the Saturday either. After two (yes two) vasectomies, my third son was born during the week of our Senior Bowl, so I missed most of the practices but still made it to the game. All that being said, as much as I love our game, I would not even think of missing the birth of my child for a game. Oh, and yes, the third kid looks like me. Oh, hell....somebody's got to say it. Come on, vas! BLOCK SOMEBODY!! ;D |
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Post by 50Murf on Feb 6, 2009 8:11:24 GMT -6
Two of my three were born during the season, and they both cam before game day, but it would have been a no brainer for me too.....
FAITH
FAMILY
SCHOOL
Football
I hope it works out for you Airraider!
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Post by airraider on Feb 6, 2009 8:15:13 GMT -6
Thank you guys for the feedback.. Its all hypothetical at the moment.. and I am sure they could manage wherever I am coaching.. but just wanted to know if anyone had ever faced that situation.
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Post by touchdownmaker on Feb 6, 2009 8:20:34 GMT -6
One time in the final 4 minutes of a 34-32 game my cell phone rang. It was my wife in a panic as my 1 year old couldnt move his legs. She was freaking out and of course my first thought was "you have to be kidding me, youre being hysterical" but no, I threw off my head set and ran off the field. I am sure folks thought I was quitting and I just said to my DC, gotta go, its my kid!" and that was that. My son had his legs broken by his clutzy aunt who took him down the slide and got his legs tangled under hers.
Do not ever put football and someone elses kids ahead of your own. I treat all of my kids like my own sons but I do know the difference when the time comes.
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Post by sbv on Feb 6, 2009 8:23:59 GMT -6
I was there for my girl being born (it was Dec., we planned it for Christmas break so my wife didn't have to take as many days off from school because she is a teacher too) and if I have another and it is on game day, I'll be there for that too. At the school I used to be at, the DC was having a baby during the summer, it was his 3rd baby in 5 years, and after the birth the HC had the DC move in with him for two weeks because Football Camp was starting and they didn't want the DC to be distracted. Most of this was from pressure by the HC. I'm not sure the wife appreciated having to take care of a new baby and two other kids under 5 without her husband for two weeks. My wife would have castrated me if I would have mentioned this to her. As a side note, the DC ended up with a mental breakdown in week 9, quit and moved his family away. It was his first year at the school and he had been a HC prior to this.
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Post by tango on Feb 6, 2009 8:32:04 GMT -6
Good friend of mine that is the head coach had his first kid on game night. The only good assistant on his staff also had a baby on the same night. One left in the first quarter and the other left in the third quarter and they won the game.
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Post by bluecrazy on Feb 6, 2009 8:32:34 GMT -6
So what would you do if she gave birth at say noon. Would you go to coach the game at 7? Had to laugh at this one |
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Post by struceri on Feb 6, 2009 8:35:24 GMT -6
I actually faced this same situation a few years ago. We had a road game the same day my wife was due. I stayed with her. She ended up not having the baby till about 3 days later but I would have shot myself if I would have missed. Your kids are only born once but there will be plenty of football games no matter how hard it is to miss one.
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Post by bluecrazy on Feb 6, 2009 8:45:20 GMT -6
When I was an assistant on my old high school team, my fiancee (now my wife) sat me down in the spring and asked when was a good date for the wedding. Several months later, we were happily married the day after our final game of the season . . . That was my ONE leeway she ever gave me. Don't think I'd ever get another one, so I'd have to be there for the birth of a child. We'd have the game on the local radio station in the hospital room though. My nephew, whom I'm very close too, got married in Miami right at the end of last season. We are in Michigan. My wife was ferrous when I told her in July that it" depends on if we make the playoffs or not, Then I can tell you if I could go" Unfortunately football wise, We had a great time at the wedding. Miss my son being born? NEVER |
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Post by dg1694 on Feb 6, 2009 9:02:58 GMT -6
Come on.. no A-holes out there??? haha Ok.. state championship.. in your first year at the school.. you are the head coach.. team was 0-10 the year before.. I was at a school that won two of them; I was a player then, and was determined not to make that the highlight of my life. The little man, however....Put it this way -- no GAME should be more important than your child. |
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Post by tribepride on Feb 6, 2009 9:12:44 GMT -6
So what would you do if she gave birth at say noon. Would you go to coach the game at 7? Had to laugh at this one I would! Our second child was born at 6:00am and the WIFE told me to get to a softball tournament that started at 10:30am. |
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