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Post by 19delta on Nov 15, 2008 7:03:51 GMT -6
Here's the scenario...
You are a volunteer assistant high school coach. You tell the head coach after the season that you won't be coming back next year. Basically, you aren't going to coach because you disagree with the head coach's philosophy and the way he treats kids. You don't say anything to anyone else other than the AD (because he asked) about your reasons for quitting. The kids only find out you quit because the head coach tells them at a team meeting about a week later. They do not know the reason.
A day after the meeting, two good kids who are juniors, one a captain, come to you very upset and ask why you aren't coaching anymore. They ask you if they did anything to make you quit.
A week after that, that same junior captain comes to see you again, this time with a senior who was also a captain, and asks what they should do to get the current head coach replaced. They also ask you if you would consider coming back to coaching if the current head coach is replaced.
How do you handle it?
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Post by touchdownmaker on Nov 15, 2008 7:07:24 GMT -6
You dont discuss that with players period. that sort of thing can ruin your career.
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Post by phantom on Nov 15, 2008 8:19:06 GMT -6
Stay out of it.
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Post by coachorr on Nov 15, 2008 8:50:02 GMT -6
"I am not the head coach, thanks for your support" And move on.
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Post by coachjd on Nov 15, 2008 9:08:47 GMT -6
Don't burn any bridges and don't stir the pot.
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Post by lochness on Nov 15, 2008 9:10:05 GMT -6
You absolutely do NOT go down that path...not with a verbal reply or any body language. "Guys, unfortunately, I just can't come back. I'm sorry"
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Post by 19delta on Nov 15, 2008 9:35:27 GMT -6
I was caught flat-footed when the kids came to me the first time...I was completely unprepared for it. Heck, I was with the program for only 1 season. What really bothered me was the idea the kids had that they were somehow responsible for my decision to not coach...that somehow, they had "disappointed" me or that I didn't like them. That was the furtherest thing from the truth. The thing is, I don't know where they would have got that idea. And, to complicate things, I have these kids as students...I have to see them every day and maintain a good relationship with them. So, when they asked me about it, I really fumbled around and hemmed and hawed...I finally sputtered out something about it not having anything to do with them and that it just didn't work out with me being a coach at this school. I think the kids had the idea...they wanted me to go into greater detail, but the fact that it had nothing to do with them apparently pacified them.
The second time the kids came in, I was a little more prepared and told the kids that, while I appreciated their support and respect, I wasn't going to get involved in any kind of lynch mob or coup d'etat. I told the kids that if they had concerns, they needed to bring the concerns to the head coach's attention and, if that didn't address any of the issues, they needed to go to the AD. As far as coaching in the future goes, I simply told them that right now, that wasn't in the cards for me.
Like I said, it's a tough situation, but I really don't want to be involved. My position is that I am no longer a member of the coaching staff and anything to do with football has to be handled by those who are. And, if kids or parents come to me again, that's what I am going to tell them and I will leave it at that.
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