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Post by coachpruitt on Sept 6, 2008 18:48:23 GMT -6
I got and email from a dad saying he did not like the depth chart I sent out. He thinks that his son should get more consideration and not be playing third back up. I explained beyond the starters it is less of a depth chart and more of a position chart.
I do not want to deal with this guy all year long crying about his sons playing time. Not to mention he is a first year player, he is undersized and has no heart. This kid will move out of contact drills so he does not have to hit a veteran player.
how do I tell him to shut up and let the coaches coach?
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Post by coachbiggers on Sept 6, 2008 19:14:41 GMT -6
You just answered it coach! Nip that in the bud NOW. Just be very candid with him and say look the assesment of his kid dictates his playing time and position!
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Post by oregoncoach on Sept 7, 2008 14:03:28 GMT -6
Tell him that you will not put his son in an unsafe situation. If he is scared of contact, as many, many, many first year players are, he will get hurt if put in the wrong situation. Tell Dad he wont have to worry about depth chart if his son gets a season ending injury from pure fear. Also, tell him how many kids like this you have seen develop over a season or TWO into great football players. He'll understand if he has any sense.
Then tell him to let the coaches, coach.
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Post by coachpruitt on Sept 7, 2008 16:16:57 GMT -6
Thanks coaches.
The thing that really bothers me is the implication of favoritism. To that effect, one of my assistants coaches sons is on the team and he is a 3rd stringer. That just shows how little I care about cliques and favoritism.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 8, 2008 20:06:19 GMT -6
Unfortunately coach, I could write a book on this topic. (Man could I tell a story here)
Even more unfortunate (for you) this kind doesn't easily go away. I've had the nightmare "you're holding my son back" parent many, many times.
Oregon coach is right, although you want to rip him you have to remain professional about it. We would address it in a parents meeting, where parents are less likely to make an a$$ out of himself, he wont point out that his son is better than anyone else's kid, with them there.
Funny I never coached a Heisman trophy winner...though every year some parent swears there's one on my team
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Post by bhb on Sept 20, 2008 20:30:43 GMT -6
why do you send out depth charts to your parents?
Just tell him point blank that you (the Coaches) don't determine playing time, and the parents don't determine playing time- the players determine their playing time.. Tell him the kids that are playing more have earned it.. Then when he asks you why Bobby is better than his kid tell him that your policy is to NEVER discuss other peoples children with parents.. He'll be a PITA all year- get used to it..
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Post by 19delta on Sept 20, 2008 20:56:33 GMT -6
why do you send out depth charts to your parents? First thing I wanted to know, as well. It's always been my belief that depth charts are for coaches, not for players and parents. They really shouldn't leave the coaches' office. |
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Post by coachpruitt on Sept 23, 2008 20:00:05 GMT -6
What I sent was a position chart. I have 25 kids and only 11 have ever put a helmet on. So I sent a position chart to help them line up in the game.
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Post by 19delta on Sept 26, 2008 13:28:54 GMT -6
So...what was the dad upset about? The fact that the kid was the third name down on the list or that he wasn't playing the position the dad thought he should be playing?
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Post by coachpruitt on Sept 27, 2008 19:49:48 GMT -6
Third man out. The Kid gets 8 plays a game because that is the rule. He expressed his desire to have his son play more again last week. I told this kid to go to his position during the game he asked "where is that?"
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Post by harmening on Oct 1, 2008 13:07:35 GMT -6
Ha, that's funny. I've got a couple of those kids. Another good one is when they come to the huddle and ask "Are we on offense or defense?" AAAAAHHHHH!!!
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Post by mrry475 on Oct 1, 2008 17:10:37 GMT -6
Hey I have one too
Last week it is 1st and 10 on the twelve and asked if he could go to the bathroom after we broke the huddle
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Post by mrry475 on Oct 1, 2008 17:11:30 GMT -6
oops I forgot to tell you he wanted to wash his hands
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Post by coachtony48 on Oct 2, 2008 5:53:13 GMT -6
Coach,
We had similar problems last year. Last year their were no standings kept so, as a staff we tossed the season out the window and played every kid equally. We went 0-7-1. We still coached with passion and taught football. Parents were happy until the games were over. This year standings are kept with playoffs and league championship at stake. Before the season our HC called a parent meeting and explained that the organization wants us to play to win. We stressed the importance of pre-season camp at a local college and gave the option to stay and be part of the team or leave and get a refund. We also said that player ability changes as the season goes on and week one play time to week eight can be very different. Player ability = player safety. We are now 3-0, with no points allowed and still have parents complaining. No matter what you do everyone will not be happy. Coach how you and your staff see fit. GOOD LUCK !!!!!!!!!!!
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Post by trojan on Oct 2, 2008 8:17:01 GMT -6
Coach, No matter what you do everyone will not be happy. Coach how you and your staff see fit. GOOD LUCK !!!!!!!!!!! Amen brother! |
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Post by hawksoc on Oct 29, 2008 12:11:26 GMT -6
Some parents just don't get it. I coach on a team of 9-11s. We have a roster of 29, we are the fourth team in our city and we took every first year player the other three coaches didn't want. We started slow, but we are now 5-4. We have won our last three games and haven't given up a point in the past two. I've had 15 players run the ball, 10 receivers have caught passes (not including the 2 from other teams) and 9 different players have been in the end zone. Last Saturday we went up by 2 touchdowns early and we pulled all of our starters so our back ups could get a lot of play time. After the game the parents of one of our starters complained to the head coach that their son didn't get enough play time because we played the back ups. Sheesh.
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