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Post by fkaboneyard on Apr 10, 2017 13:08:45 GMT -6
My wife (then fiancee) absolutely HAD to have our wedding reception at a certain country club and the only available date was September 1st. Although I wasn't coaching or playing at the time it was an important day to me because it is opening day of dove season. I let her know that I might be a little bit late but I would be there after I had filled me limit. My best man and I shot dove on the CRIT until about 10:00 , drove back to LA, showered at a Do-It-Yourself car wash stall, and got dressed in tuxes in time to be at the church only 3 minutes late. Where there is a will, there's a way.
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Post by larrymoe on Apr 10, 2017 13:28:18 GMT -6
My bachelor "party" consisted of going to a friend of mine's house who had 4 TVs and watching the NCAA basketball tournament.
It was as lit as you could get.
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Post by jrk5150 on Apr 10, 2017 13:43:45 GMT -6
Considering there have certainly been times I've been at odds with some on here about the youth vs. HS distinction, this is one case where I AM somewhat in a place of "it's just youth". I'm not paid to coach youth football, I volunteer. And I spend a TON of time and quite a bit of money trying to do it well. And I take that into account when I look at missing practice/games. Generally, my threshold for missing time as a youth coach is much different than it would be if I was coaching in HS. Which would also be different than if I was coaching in college.
That said, in 12 years of coaching youth football I haven't missed a game, have only missed one scrimmage, and a small handful of practices. Of course, it hasn't helped that even though I've been an AC and not the HC, I've been the only one who knows our offense. Literally. You should have seen the sh*t-show that was the scrimmage I missed. And the fact I have nobody who can sub in for me has come into play a couple of times where I went out of my way to get back from a weekend away to make a game (we play Sunday mornings), much to my wife's annoyance.
I also have an agreement with my employer where I come in early and leave early during the season so I can get to practice at 5pm, and that I try not to travel in Aug/Sept/Oct. Usually companies are supportive of employees volunteering in their communities, so through 3 employers it hasn't been an issue. And push comes to shove I'll miss football for work, but I haven't had to for the most part other than a scattered practice here or there.
Now, I'm not totally stupid, the scrimmage I missed was to take my wife to Napa for our 20th (she'd never been out there). :-)
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Post by CoachSP on Apr 11, 2017 6:44:05 GMT -6
I also don't think we should condemn those who enjoy a good time, either.
Make it work if you can because as a coach, your free time is limited.
If you are a single guy, time with your buddies is important to your sanity because that may be the most "family time" you get. Once your buddies get married, their lives change and they don't have the same amount of time for you as they once did. On the flip side, coaches work a lot so, again, your free time is limited as well.
Growing apart from friends is tough enough so if you can do it, then do it. If it interferes and will hurt the team, then don't.
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Post by larrymoe on Apr 11, 2017 6:59:55 GMT -6
I also don't think we should condemn those who enjoy a good time, either. Make it work if you can because as a coach, your free time is limited. If you are a single guy, time with your buddies is important to your sanity because that may be the most "family time" you get. Once your buddies get married, their lives change and they don't have the same amount of time for you as they once did. On the flip side, coaches work a lot so, again, your free time is limited as well. Growing apart from friends is tough enough so if you can do it, then do it. If it interferes and will hurt the team, then don't. I'm sorry if this sounds rude, but the theme of your post is essentially- "Growing up is hard". It's really hard for people who have moved past that, and continuously have to deal with people that act like "adulting" is the hardest thing ever invented, to sympathize with that.
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Post by CoachSP on Apr 11, 2017 8:44:29 GMT -6
I also don't think we should condemn those who enjoy a good time, either. Make it work if you can because as a coach, your free time is limited. If you are a single guy, time with your buddies is important to your sanity because that may be the most "family time" you get. Once your buddies get married, their lives change and they don't have the same amount of time for you as they once did. On the flip side, coaches work a lot so, again, your free time is limited as well. Growing apart from friends is tough enough so if you can do it, then do it. If it interferes and will hurt the team, then don't. I'm sorry if this sounds rude, but the theme of your post is essentially- "Growing up is hard". It's really hard for people who have moved past that, and continuously have to deal with people that act like "adulting" is the hardest thing ever invented, to sympathize with that. Coach, I hope you don't think I was complaining. It was simply stating the reality of how it is for our generation of guys. The point I made was "make it work if you can". Social life and professional life can coexist as long as the person does not sacrifice the latter for the former. Everyone has people close to them. For some it's wives and kids. Others, its close friends. Regardless of who you find important in your life, if the opportunity to spend time with them comes up, then take it. Moral of the story is: Don't blow off work responsibilities but if you can do both, then do it. However, the OP said that these events interfere with work; therefore, my advice is go to work. I don't want sympathy. If anything, I agree with you. The phrase "adulting" makes my skin crawl.
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Post by coachcb on Apr 11, 2017 9:12:06 GMT -6
I have missed practices/games for the following personal reasons:
1. I was a groom in my best friend's wedding. I missed a game for this. It wasn't an easy decision to make but I had grown up with him and considered him family. I didn
2. Family issues and illnesses. On several occasions, a family member has been very ill and I have missed practice to help out.
3. Funerals. I missed two practices and a game to attend my aunt's funeral several years ago.
I am not a religious man but family will always come first.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 13, 2017 16:33:07 GMT -6
Never really had to as they understood i was a coach and that was an obligation.
Plus we have more than 1 coach per position (except QB)
But our HC was more than accomodating if we had something important etc...
I had a wedding 2 seasons ago i had to travel to florida for in the middle of the season
I advised him in the spring , and kept updating him
Did HUDL from the hotel room
Theres a reasonable expectation not to miss more than a certain amount of time or practices however.
Its all what matters most
If its a family related issue, hed probably fire you if you didnt go attend to it .
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Post by 33coach on Apr 13, 2017 16:39:50 GMT -6
what happens when a player wants to skip practice to go party? whats your answer?
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Post by badtotheflexbone on Apr 13, 2017 20:17:30 GMT -6
Saw a quote somewhere on here or the youth football forum:
Something along the lines of, "This is THE bigtime for your players/make it the big time for your players"
IMO, With that in mind, it doesn't matter which age group you're working with
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Post by coachd5085 on Apr 13, 2017 20:21:40 GMT -6
Saw a quote somewhere on here or the youth football forum: Something along the lines of, "This is THE bigtime for your players/make it the big time for your players" IMO, With that in mind, it doesn't matter which age group you're working with I don't know if that is necessarily the case when you are talking about age groups whose most important part of the game experience is the post game soda at the concession stand....
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Post by badtotheflexbone on Apr 13, 2017 20:35:43 GMT -6
Saw a quote somewhere on here or the youth football forum: Something along the lines of, "This is THE bigtime for your players/make it the big time for your players" IMO, With that in mind, it doesn't matter which age group you're working with I don't know if that is necessarily the case when you are talking about age groups whose most important part of the game experience is the post game soda at the concession stand.... In their defense, hot cheetoes and Dr. Pepper runs out fast!
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