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Post by warrior53 on Mar 6, 2009 10:04:21 GMT -6
There are a lot of these what would you do kind of subjects on this board, so I thought I would get some opinions.
Would you take a job that you knew was going to be 6 man in three years? To be honest - I haven't been offered any such job, but I have applied to one and have a good shot at an interview, so it has me thinking...
Plusses -
It would get me closer to my family - Dad has alzheimers and doesn't have that long to be functional - would be nice to be able to help out my mother who is also taking care of my grandmother with alzheimers
1st shot at a head job
Keep my son at a small school, where he can have some success in the classroom and a little more one on one teaching - he needs that still
Negatives
Can't sell a house in the city - we have tried, may have to rent or possibly let it go altogether
Only have 2 - 3 assistants
The six man thing - of course it is going to take 3 more years before that happens
Thanks for any help you can give me, or thoughts
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Post by ajreaper on Mar 6, 2009 10:43:59 GMT -6
I think family needs/wants make job conditions secondary- who cares if it's 6 man your there to help out your Mom and spend time with your Dad.
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Post by coachgup on Mar 6, 2009 11:21:30 GMT -6
I agree. Family first.
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Post by gdoggwr on Mar 6, 2009 11:50:47 GMT -6
I'll second (or third) that opinion. Family first, period. I made a move from a place that at the time was a great fit for me personally, because of my family. It turned out to be one of the best decisions I've ever made both in terms of family and football.
Keep the priorities in the right order, and the rest will work out like its supposed to.
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Post by coachwoodall on Mar 6, 2009 13:16:36 GMT -6
I went from a AAAA school to a A school close to home to be near my dad right before he died. I ended up staying 6 years. But it helped me get the gig I have now and that worked out pretty dang good.
I learned this from my dad: God doesn't put hurdles in front of you to cause you to fall; He places them before you because he has faith in you to overcome them.
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Post by warrior53 on Mar 6, 2009 13:25:00 GMT -6
Thanks guys for the insight. My dad has been such a big part of my life, but there is a little more to the story. The other option is to stay in the big city, not have a foreclosure on me and have some security as far as staying in one place. That option is appealing because it seems like it would be better for my immediate family. Financially and security wise, plus a great school district and more opportunities for my kids. What do you think?
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Post by coachwoodall on Mar 6, 2009 13:35:52 GMT -6
I can't speak for your dad, but mine would have said, "I didn't raise you up to come back and take care of me, I raise you up to take care of your own family"
It is a fine line to walk, but you have to do what your gut tells you to do.
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Post by newhc on Mar 6, 2009 20:30:52 GMT -6
I agree coach. I will put my immediate family first. God is holding me accountable for them. My parents, I love with my heart, but my mother and father have always said I raised you to be a good father, husband, and friend. You being my son just came as a part of the deal. I love them for that. I want to raise my kids the same way.
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Post by burn on Mar 6, 2009 23:31:40 GMT -6
newhc,
Kiss your parents for the rest of us. That is a great line by honest people.
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Post by coachstryker on Mar 7, 2009 0:43:40 GMT -6
so turning your back on your parents is a good lesson for your kids?
Thats like your buddy having his guts blown out saying go save yourself and you running off. OR you can pick him up and carry him.
WOW is this really a choice?
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Post by bleefb on Mar 7, 2009 1:49:28 GMT -6
I'm always amazed at such a vehemently different range of opinions people have on different topics, no matter what it is. Not taking sides on this question, just commenting on the level of response. Different sets of eyes see different things, I guess!
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Post by coachd5085 on Mar 7, 2009 19:17:33 GMT -6
so turning your back on your parents is a good lesson for your kids? Thats like your buddy having his guts blown out saying go save yourself and you running off. OR you can pick him up and carry him. WOW is this really a choice? Yes, it is a choice. I would wager MANY parents would be upset if they knew their children passed up on better opportunities for their (children) lives in order to take care of them. I believe my father would say the same as Coach Woodall's
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Post by los on Mar 7, 2009 20:29:34 GMT -6
As a father of young adults with family's of their own(probably the age of many of you all on here), I'd be angry and disappointed, if any of mine had to lose their house, job and opportunities for themselves and the grandchildren..... to move back and take care of us.....I'd say, stay where you are....come visit when you can.....we'll make out fine.
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Post by warrior53 on Mar 9, 2009 9:44:19 GMT -6
You don't know how much I appreciate this from you guys - thanks a ton!!!
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Post by khalfie on Mar 9, 2009 17:53:04 GMT -6
We coaches are so extremish...
If I understand you correctly... the choices are...
1. Move closer to your parents to help them out... but have to take a crap job... lose all the equity in your house, possibly go into foreclosure... and then even have your new job downsized?
2. Or... stay at your current gig, house, and environment, but feel as if you have abandoned your parents, even if they probably want you to do what's best for your family...
Coaches argue back and forth... everybody grabs the chalk...
But how about solution #3?
Parents move closer to you? Sell their house? Get into one of those Self-sufficient retirement communities?
Not so much compromise, but collaboration... the win-win.
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Post by touchdownmaker on Mar 9, 2009 18:06:36 GMT -6
There are people living in tent cities in this country and their kids do not even know about it because these folks do not want to burden their kids. Its quite eye opening.
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Post by warrior53 on Mar 13, 2009 9:09:49 GMT -6
We coaches are so extremish... If I understand you correctly... the choices are... 1. Move closer to your parents to help them out... but have to take a crap job... lose all the equity in your house, possibly go into foreclosure... and then even have your new job downsized? 2. Or... stay at your current gig, house, and environment, but feel as if you have abandoned your parents, even if they probably want you to do what's best for your family... Coaches argue back and forth... everybody grabs the chalk... But how about solution #3? Parents move closer to you? Sell their house? Get into one of those Self-sufficient retirement communities? Not so much compromise, but collaboration... the win-win. Ironically, I have offered that solution and that is what my parents did with their parents, but of course that is not what they want to do. Long history with my mother and I (not wanting to get to much into it), but let's just say there are some issues there.
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