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Post by Defcord on Oct 28, 2019 8:21:54 GMT -6
We have a kid whose mom was diagnosed with cancer at the beginning of the season. This past Thursday she was put on hospice care and the family was told that she will die at any point in the next couple of weeks.
Kid is a great kid. Wants to be here. His aunt who is the decision maker at this point wants him home. Staff is torn on whether the kid (he is 18 if that matters) should be given the choice to be around or if he should just be with his mom.
I always try to think about it from a perspective of if it were my son, but I really have no clue what I would do from the perspective of dad instead of coach. There is comfort in being around the team, but it's also the last chance you are going to get to be with your mom.
How would you guys handle the situation?
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Post by gccwolverine on Oct 28, 2019 8:32:31 GMT -6
We have a kid whose mom was diagnosed with cancer at the beginning of the season. This past Thursday she was put on hospice care and the family was told that she will die at any point in the next couple of weeks. Kid is a great kid. Wants to be here. His aunt who is the decision maker at this point wants him home. Staff is torn on whether the kid (he is 18 if that matters) should be given the choice to be around or if he should just be with his mom. I always try to think about it from a perspective of if it were my son, but I really have no clue what I would do from the perspective of dad instead of coach. There is comfort in being around the team, but it's also the last chance you are going to get to be with your mom. How would you guys handle the situation? Love the kid up let him make the choice that best for him. If he's there great, if he isn't fine, work around it be there for him. |
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Post by coachcb on Oct 28, 2019 8:35:39 GMT -6
We would tell him that it's choice but strongly encourage him to be with his mother. The team and the staff will always be there for him but his time with his mother is growing thin.
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Post by newhope on Oct 28, 2019 9:23:34 GMT -6
We have a kid whose mom was diagnosed with cancer at the beginning of the season. This past Thursday she was put on hospice care and the family was told that she will die at any point in the next couple of weeks. Kid is a great kid. Wants to be here. His aunt who is the decision maker at this point wants him home. Staff is torn on whether the kid (he is 18 if that matters) should be given the choice to be around or if he should just be with his mom. I always try to think about it from a perspective of if it were my son, but I really have no clue what I would do from the perspective of dad instead of coach. There is comfort in being around the team, but it's also the last chance you are going to get to be with your mom. How would you guys handle the situation? Been there. If kid wants to be at practice, let him. He needs the support of his teammates and coaches. You obviously can't go against the wishes of his family, but let him be the judge of what he needs to do. And yes, being 18 does matter. |
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Post by cwaltsmith on Oct 28, 2019 13:36:04 GMT -6
Agree leave it up to him and let him know youll help in any way you can and team will be here if he changes mind... tough spot for anyone to go through.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 28, 2019 15:51:15 GMT -6
ITS HIS MOM! BYE BYE! TAKE CARE OF YOUR MOM, HAVE HIS BACK, MAKE SURE THAT KNOWS THE TEAM IS THINKING ABOUT HIM CONTANSTLY.
And that one, parent, siblings dying? Who gives a flying fux about who the kid is. Nobody deserves that at 15,16,17, or 18 yrs old.
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Post by blb on Oct 28, 2019 15:57:33 GMT -6
There is no more "excused absence" from anything than this.
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Post by larrymoe on Oct 28, 2019 16:02:17 GMT -6
It's his choice. Everyone deals with things differently. Going to practice may be what's best for him to be able to cope.
Having been told before to come say last goodbyes, there's nothing more depressing or harmful IMO than sitting around waiting for someone to die.
PS- my grandma ended up living another 10 years.
PS, PS- I'm not saying this to say the kids mom may do the same- more to maybe show where I'm coming from.
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